Ok so I've shared classes every day with this girl for over 3 years. Me (24M) and her (21F) share a close group of five friends (me, 3 guys and her) and we go out to clubs once a month. She is touchy and likes attention. She has a bf of five years who I know cheated on at least twice with a guy from her arts class.

Six months ago she started returning me strong IoIs, with some flirting back and forth and always recieved my physical escalation. In the meantime I discovered trp, got much more confident about myself and started teasing and ignoring her a bit, and flirting heavily. 2 months ago both drunk at a club I grabbed her and we made out aggressively. I always mantained a strong frame and later she was at my bed and we had some drunk lousy "sex" (I had puked). I fingered her (she came), went down on her and couldn't get it up to penetrate her. She had teased me at the club for leaving me horny, so now I told her it was me who was leaving her horny. We go to sleep (not cuddle) and I drive her to the subway station on the morning.

Forward 1 week and I tell her I'll be picking her on friday for some drinks and then to my place, but she has other plans, doesn't offer to reschedule and I leave it at that. I know if I had asked her for another day she probably would have said yes, but I prefer to not do so and focus on improving my sexual experience and confidence. I'm pretty inexperienced sexually, so for the last two months I've been seeing an escort once a week to help me with my erection problem. I am taking cialis and have trouble mantaining my erection once I'm inside her (I don't feel too much and get nervous), but I am improving. Also it doesn't help she's not very hot.

Going back to my oneitis, after she rejected my offer to take her out I went cold on her. But the last two weeks she started reaching out to me and I decided to return to the flirting and escalating. Last saturday we went to a club with our group of friends and I gave her some molly. I grab her face, give her a small kiss and tell her to come with my to buy some water. While we are walking to the bar she turns to me and says "I love you" (actually, we are in a spanish speaking country and she says "te amo"). I tell her "me too" and we make out. We spend an hour together and then she tells me her bf is picking her up after the club (I saw her texting as we entered). Tells me he is jealous/worried (she had told him she slept at my place that other night. I am a couple of points higher SMV than him). I make my intentions clear, that I want her to come to my place, but the refuses and I get cold and distant until we leave (all this time she is reaching out to me and trying to make me feel good, but I don't care).

We go to my car and I have to drop her mid way to my house for her bf to pick her up (he has a 30 min drive from his place). We start talking on the car. I tell her she has once chance left or I'm out, that she lost one today and the other one when she rejected my plans. She said she had things to do that night and that I didn't complain much after, and I replied I won't be chasing her, if she wanted she could have offered another date to which she said "maybe you're right". I asked her if she wanted me to ask her out again to which she said yes and reached out her hand for a handshake. From all that happened I've made myself pretty clear that sex will happen if we go out. I drop her off and 30 minutes later I recieve a whatsapp from her with some chitchat and a emoji kiss to which I replied "don't be mean" and went to sleep.

I know I am far from alpha, but I recognize alpha is the way to go so I come here for advice. I believe I held frame with her. Not sure about that in the car but I wanted to tell her what I thought. She is very prone to shit tests so I'm reluctant whenever I get some affection from her. Maybe I'm expecting too much from her (which is what she said more than once) and I haven't given her much. Maybe I deserve to expect that much, I don't know. Also she is quite submissive, if I'm with her she never rejects any of my advances.

What do you guys think about my situation?