Clueless beginner needs dating adice

BallLeft9398 · 2024-10-04T23:38:59+00:00

I could tell you many things to say and ways to act. But none will work. The things one person says, do and acts won't work with you or the women you like, because you are you and you have different beliefs and tastes. That's why I highly recommend you to read the book (or audio book) "Models By Mark Manson" best dating advice out there, will really open your eyes and change you

MrAnonPoster · 2024-10-05T00:18:36+00:00

Read a book called "Models"

HomelessMilkman · 2024-10-05T07:07:31+00:00

It's execution.

The line in the sand is the point you go from 'I'm not shy I can talk to people' to 'I don't know what to do'. The self-sabotage creeps in and you feel you can't express yourself with the same freedom.

It doesn't matter so much what you do. It's how you're coming across; so, you're either hesitant, unsure, self-doubting, low self-esteem, etc. Or it's smooth, calm, relaxed, high self-esteem, etc. It's sub-communication.

So, the idea is to loosen up, relax, gain momentum expressing yourself without judgment and filters; that gives you the power to 'own' what you are saying, the energy behind it 'sells' what you are saying.

You can't get results through layers of self-judgment; you speak with 'limp dick energy' and she gets turned off. Everyone can 'say the line' or 'run the script', the criteria for success is what people can't do - say it without freaking out because you're desperate for the permission - present yourself well through 'letting go' and having some passion, energy, fun behind what you're saying/doing.

Dandys3107 · 2024-10-05T13:39:48+00:00

It feels like you are starting from the very beginning, therefore you need to do much of the work by yourself. First thing is about reviewing your mindset about dating and women's nature overall, you should rather drop what you have been taught throughout your life and social dogma and get advice from guys that have plenty of successes with women and pay attention to women's actual decisions and actions, not their words. Then you should embark quest of total improvement, figure out different seduction methods and techniques, any tricks to boost your sexual attractiveness, specific mindset to keep by and then test them in practice. You should also take care of your fitness, clothes, hairstyle, hygiene, body posture, voice etc. Enriching your lifestyle will also serve you good, besides improving and lifting up your own energy, you will get plenty of opportunities to naturally interact with women. If I can say something about your first issue that you mentioned, meaning that you can't get into romantic context, first thing is that you should keep in mind what's your goal. Which is obviously getting intimate with a girl. Therefore you should drop things and frames that will not make you progress in that direction. Don't be too kind, don't play as a model stranger. Dress well, keep close to her, look girl in the eyes, tease or challenge her to trigger variety of emotions, use deep voicetone. And if you current circumstances don't allow you to escalate things, you know you need to figure out how to spend time with a girl in different context. Therefore you should not put too much energy and emotional involvement into hollow and flat interactions, keep it straight. For example, if you have some romantic vibe with your classmate, you should grab some meal together or go to the same party or do some activities if you share similiar passion. If you can't make a step, make a half-step.

theasianplayboy · 2024-10-05T20:37:55+00:00

Firstly, when you’re talking to women, think of it as moving from neutral into flirtatious territory by injecting playful banter. Don’t just stay in the “friendly” zone—test the waters with teasing and light challenges. Compliment but in a way that’s not desperate, e.g., “You’ve got a nice smile, but you’re definitely trouble.” It’s all about creating some fun tension.

Next, make sure you’re giving clear signals of interest—don’t overthink it, just escalate in small ways like touching her arm during a joke or maintaining strong eye contact.

Now, it sounds like you’re naturally able to engage but you’re missing structure. That’s where something like the ABCDEF SYSTEM helps. It breaks down each phase of interaction into clear steps from attraction to connection to escalation, so you’re not left in the friend zone.

To see exactly how it works, try out the Academy—there’s a 30-day free trial that goes into in-depth lessons with real examples, covering everything from approaching to pulling women. You get a mix of lecture-style breakdowns and infield footage, so you can see it all in action.

redspikedog · 2024-10-06T03:27:51+00:00

Let them know early on your interested in them. Say something unique you notice about them and thats why you like them. If you just had a convo of random things then thats all it was. It wasn't a man to woman convo.

Title	Clueless beginner needs dating adice
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Date	October 4, 2024 6:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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