TL;DR I would like opinions on if polyamory and The Red Pill are compatible. I've recently had an issue with a girlfriend and would like opinions on the topic.

Long story: For as long as I can remember I've always felt why can't I love 2 women. Society norms made me feel ashamed of this feeling. 10 years of a shit marriage, then divorce and I'm free. Since my divorce 6 years ago I have always had 2 girlfriends. Never really did the plate spinning thing. 2 years ago my secondary girlfriend introduced me to the Red Pill and it resonated with me. She was a casual relationship at first and introduced me to the ideas of being poly. At first it was like who cares we are both fucking other people, keep it safe and casual. As the relationship went on things got more serious and she wanted to only see me while understanding I have a primary relationship. Now she is asking permission to resume to hook up with an on and off friendship of 10 years. I'm feeling a little conflicted by this request. I already know my answer but I need to understand it and want perspective.

I'm 43, live alone with my daughter and no plans to live with any girlfriends. I'm a high value guy who has his shit together. My primary is 30, exclusive with me and my secondary is 28. Given the choice of the 2 conflicting lifestyles I am much more Red Pill then poly in my thinking. I'm not asking this in a poly group because all I would get is hate and comments on how I am not truly poly for not letting my partners have other relationships.