Whatsup brothers. So my story is a little long and complicated. But let me get to the meat and potatoes- I’m 41, in decent shape (a little chubby but athletic), I’ve had girlfriends and fwb in the past but have been super dry for almost ten years now. I would say in looks I’m maybe a 5/10 on a good day. I’m tall, but my little bit of chubbyness (despite having muscle and a strong build), probably cancels a lot of that out

I gamed in cold approach from 2017-2020 off and on. Not super consistent but enough to rack up around 60-70 approaches. Enough to somewhat get over my approach anxiety (it was super bad at first and I couldn’t do it without a wing). But since Covid hit I haven’t gone out at all. So almost four years now with no cold approach

My question is double pronged. I’m not sure how to go forward because on the one hand I am struggling with finding time/energy/motivation because deep down I feel like women just don’t want me. Of all those approaches I only was able to set up one date and it fell through because my logistics were bad and I tried to reschedule and it just didn’t work. But anyway, I just feel old, ugly, and low value. In truth I probably am those things to whatever degree. Maybe I have some things to offer but also idk I’m just wondering if it’s worth it. To go out and get rejected a bunch again. So any thoughts on how my mindset should be?

Of course I’m working on my body. I’m lifting weights running, and attempting to do the diet better. I’m a live in caregiver for my elderly mother and I’m torn on whether I should wait until she passes before going out again. Covid is still out there, but I’m more concerned about low energy levels

The other question is I get zero attention on dating sites. Even worse I get rejected by just absolute hogs. Was literally trying to talk to this obese chick and she just rejected me and it was brutal. I’ve dated women in the past that were hotter than her. But even then I was only able to pull like 5/10’s. But I liked them at the time. Granted they weren’t tens but they were sexy to me and the sex was great

I’m just kinda reeling after all this time off and feeling low and wondering what I should do given that I rejected on dating apps so much. Does that mean cold approach will never work for me? The chick I had a date with was like a 5/10. She wasn’t bad looking and she seemed chill. Is it worth it? Despite my age I don’t want to settle down and women today are just so messed up idk if I’d ever find a quality wife anyway. I’m definitely not over my hookup phase. I am really horny all the time and it sucks

Any advice would be appreciated 👌