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When you know you're a great catch, it's easy to interrupt whatever it is they're doing. When you know women are dying for a masculine, attractive man to approach them, it's easy to interrupt whatever it is they're doing.
/r/seduction09/07/26 11:05 AM
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Or people have grown and have better awareness of what they want and how they want to show up for the next relationship. Failure is encouraged as a stepping stone to success, so why wouldn't it be that way for relationships?
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 08:07 PM
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Everyone deserves to be in a relationship with a partner who likes them a whole bunch. I don't want what ain't mine.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 01:44 PM
0

If you need help navigating the dating world, I can help. There's good news to share on that front. A lot of Gen Z guys struggle to deliver so Gen Z girls are in abundance.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 10:16 AM
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Having the right energy is the thing guys struggle with. A lot of guys are either nervous, overthinking, or trying too hard to be a badass.
/r/seduction29/05/26 11:25 PM
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Women are not visual, so they're rarely looking at a guy and drooling (like men will do to women). Women are like a crock pot. They take time to warm up. To gain a woman's attraction, it takes showing strong characteristics in your behavior and personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:15 PM
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Mindset. What they believe about the world and themselves.
/r/seduction19/05/26 10:35 PM
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Smile. Wave. Go ask her.
/r/seduction11/05/26 11:36 PM
0

Really should have mentioned confident posture, positive facial expressions, and a certain swag and fluidity in how you move.
/r/seduction11/05/26 11:34 PM
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Aka being fun
/r/seduction11/05/26 11:31 PM
1

They can. It depends a lot on delivery, timing, and what the compliment is.
/r/seduction11/05/26 01:15 PM
1

No sexual assault. But my attitude does have an air of I get what I set my mind to.
/r/seduction08/05/26 02:17 AM
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I have higher standards - I want to lead this shit
/r/seduction08/05/26 01:24 AM
1

Smack yourself in the face
/r/seduction08/05/26 01:14 AM
3

look up matt steffanina on youtube (or someone similar) and try to emulate the dance moves they practice. you don't need to do their full routine, but find a few moves you can practice and put in your repertoire. also: learn the lyrics to popular songs. knowing the physical movements that relate to the lyrics can help you dance.
/r/seduction07/05/26 04:32 PM
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You may have been raised with the absurd idea about putting other people before yourself in the name of “respect”, but that is a losing strategy.
/r/seduction05/05/26 01:32 PM
1

Make promises to yourself and keep them
/r/seduction04/05/26 12:49 PM
3

How are you complimenting her? Is it generic or specific? Can you make her feel special without making her feel like she's above you? Can you continue a stimulating conversation after making the compliment? Important factors to consider.
/r/seduction30/04/26 11:35 AM
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Yeah, you're going to need to get more help than some generic reddit post and advice... I'll work with you 1 on 1 if you actually want to get to the bottom of this.
/r/seduction23/04/26 02:33 AM
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Society plays a part, sure. But it's more biological and primal attraction instincts... The guy needs to demonstrate his leadership and willingness for a woman to feel like spreading her legs for him. A guy who doesn't approach doesn't make her feel the attraction needed to mate.
/r/seduction22/04/26 12:13 PM
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The best thing to start with is contextual. Observe something interesting about her, the location, or situation and open with a comment and question about that. Very simple examples: She's happy "you look happy, how come?" She's eating, "Queso. Is that good?" She's at church "great service huh?"
/r/seduction20/04/26 12:24 PM
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Attraction is before love, sex, intimacy so that's why primal attraction matters.
/r/seduction19/04/26 10:28 PM
1

You haven't even come close to trying everything you can to fix your problem. There's books you can read, experiments you can try, and you can seek out feedback, support, and accountability from a mentor of coach who knows what he's doing.
/r/seduction19/04/26 03:47 PM
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Nothing new. Courtship has always been incredibly risky for a woman due to the fact that intercourse can result in a major consequence...
/r/seduction19/04/26 03:15 AM
3

Buy your own food weirdo
/r/seduction18/04/26 06:12 PM
3

Just practice connecting with new women without any attachment to any kind of outcome or future together.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 05:19 PM
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You're the MAN, so YOU should LEAD. Women don't enjoy leading or doing all the pursuing. They want to feel at least somewhat pursued by a charming man who knows how to make a move. Be a man and lead the interaction if a woman opens the door for you to do so like that.
/r/seduction18/04/26 05:16 PM
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I'm talking about vulnerable in the literal sense of the term: weakness. Like a prey animal. Something that's thin, fragile, or injured... You know, the real meaning of the word.
/r/seduction17/04/26 10:09 PM
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Great observation. Calm = confidence, masculinity, and lack of vulnerability.
/r/seduction17/04/26 05:09 PM
1

Everyone's favorite topic is themselves and all their own favorite things.
/r/seduction14/04/26 01:55 AM
1

You sound like a female with your "Not EVERY SINGLE time though"... Yeah, the bottom 1% of men in height are going to need to be realistic on what women they can seduce. Can we just keep this advice based on generalities and the middle 80% of the bell curve? That most dudes are average. And if they can't figure out how to take care of their own health and grooming, then they don't deserve to seduce beautiful women. Duh.
/r/seduction13/04/26 06:24 PM
1

If a girl has 0 physical attraction to a guy, that guy needs to figure out what his problem is. Does he not brush his teeth? Exercise or eat right? Wear appropriate clothes? If a guy can't take care of himself, then no, he shouldn't be worried about seducing women.
/r/seduction13/04/26 06:12 PM
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Physical appearance is a cherry on top... When a girl is feeling a guy, it's mainly due to how he carries himself. His energy, his subcommunication, his body language, facial expressions, and tone.
/r/seduction13/04/26 01:01 PM
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It's on a spectrum. Sure, only Chuck Norris was 10/10 in all categories, but if you're a fucking 2/10, get up to a fucking 5/10.
/r/seduction10/04/26 12:44 PM
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You can make a woman attracted to you, but it might take longer than 1 interaction to achieve that. The proximity principle and familiarity principle are very real.
/r/seduction10/04/26 12:11 PM
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There's multiple different ways to seduce women, for sure. But the best, most universally applied advice is to be less weak and more masculine. What's masculinity? It's embodied direction and presence that women can feel. Strength: physical, mental, emotional Responsibility: carrying weight without excuse Agency: acting instead of reacting Control: over impulses, emotions, and behavior Purpose: moving toward something meaningful Certainty: grounded belief in self and direction
/r/seduction10/04/26 12:08 PM
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What woman do you think would want to be with a guy like you? Who will brag to her family and friends, "Oh he's the best, he doesn't like to socialize..." 😐
/r/seduction06/04/26 11:10 AM
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Bouncer
/r/seduction13/03/26 08:54 PM
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Energy is contagious. Physiology controls psychology. My opinion of myself is infinitely more important than anyone else's opinion of me.
/r/seduction05/03/26 12:56 PM
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We aren't going to change thousands of generations of human behavior. The mating game is embedded in our biology. I'll break it down... Women are primarily attracted to masculine men who are unafraid to lead and take risks. Women are also very attracted to masculine men who are charming and socially intelligent. If a man waits on a woman to approach him, he's none of those things, therefore, he's unattractive. I'm conclusion, men who approach are attractive, men who wait to be approached are una…
/r/seduction03/03/26 12:13 PM
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A girl doesn't actually reject you, she just rejects your approach in that moment of time. Maybe it's a bad time for her. Maybe your first impression was weak. But you shouldn't feel totally dejected and rejected about it. The move is to reflect what went well, what didn't go well, and better dial in your approach.
/r/seduction03/03/26 12:07 PM
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IG influencer girls are not genetically different/superior to the cute girl next door, they just have money. They don't work, so they can hit the gym all day. They don't eat fast food, they eat sirloin and lobster every night for dinner. They have the best skin care routines, makeup, hairdos, and fashion available. And they know how to use the right filters, right cameras, and professional lighting. The cute girl next door and these high faltuen girls feel and look pretty similar in bed as well.
/r/seduction31/01/26 07:45 PM
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Approaching women is fine, but don't ask all of them on dates. Aim to chat with them for a few minutes and only escalate if you feel there's a genuinely good vibe between the two of you.
/r/seduction18/01/26 03:09 PM
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Energy is an emphasis of my pickup and seduction pedagogy as well. Energy influences what you think and feel, and therefore what you do and say. And energy is contagious - people feel good around other people with good energy. Energy is being alive and positive that you're leading your life successfully - and that signals women's primal, evolutionary biological attraction mechanism that you would be an ideal mate.
/r/seduction12/01/26 01:37 PM
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That experience and belief that you're unworthy is rooted deep in your subconscious and nervous system. Gotta excavate it.
/r/seduction31/12/25 12:24 AM
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You know what's wrong with you... You think you're not good enough. Get to the root of why you think that. For me, it's about self-love and self-respect. I think to love yourself unconditionally is a conscious choice you must make. And I think self-respect comes from competence, consistently leaving comfort zone, and keeping your composure during challenging situations.
/r/seduction30/12/25 12:18 AM
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Some of the best reasons to hire a dating coach is for the accountability, the constructive criticism like uncovering blinds spots in your subconscious behavior you might not be aware of, the personalized, real-time feedback, and the unbiased support. It's not easy to talk about your dating struggles with people who are already in your life. Coaches are committed to helping you reach your goals with no hidden agenda.
/r/seduction30/12/25 12:14 AM
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You don't need money, you just need ambition/a vision/a plan for your future she can believe in.
/r/seduction23/11/25 04:16 PM
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Good insight and awareness. Finding a partner. What qualities and characteristics do you want in a woman?
/r/seduction23/11/25 02:04 AM
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I clearly said "would be"
/r/seduction14/11/25 01:22 PM
1

Your ancestors would be so proud
/r/seduction14/11/25 09:02 AM
1

If everyone waited on the other person to initiate a connection, there would be no connections. Be the man with balls. Be the initiator.
/r/seduction14/11/25 01:30 AM
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Be more interested in her. Find out things she likes to talk about and get her talking about it.
/r/seduction13/11/25 10:22 PM
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Make it "man-to-woman"
/r/seduction08/11/25 11:44 PM
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Your amygdala thinks approaching women you don't know is life or death (because evolutionary reasons it was risky). Repeated exposure to rejection teaches your subconscious there's really nothing to fear.
/r/seduction06/11/25 02:07 PM
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Have a fun, positive, flirty attitude and flirt with everyone you see until it becomes second nature
/r/seduction06/11/25 03:06 AM
1

Or invest a few hundred bucks to study under someone who's had the success you wish to have. Before you down vote me, did you go to college and spend 5,6 figures to learn under someone? That's what I thought.
/r/seduction06/11/25 12:15 AM
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Facts. My clients get the most value from getting streamlined, personalized advice, but especially accountability.
/r/seduction05/11/25 07:56 PM
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You can absolutely figure it out on your own. It just takes longer. As you've seen.
/r/seduction05/11/25 04:37 PM
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You've perfectly explained the value of finding a coach or mentor. They accelerate your rate of learning much faster than doing it on your own.
/r/seduction05/11/25 04:35 PM
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You're friendzoned bro.
/r/seduction27/10/25 11:49 PM
1

The more you care about getting rejected / harder you try to avoid rejection, the higher the chance you're getting rejected, bro. Try this... Go hit on her but don't give a single fuck if she responds positively or not. That's a secret of an attractive, masculine man.
/r/seduction27/10/25 09:45 PM
2

You will enter rare air
/r/seduction24/10/25 04:44 AM
1

Know thyself. What things are you genuinely most interested in? Art? Sports? Crafts? Health? Pop culture? Meet women while pursuing those interests and hobbies because if she's there too, that's automatically something you have in common with her.
/r/seduction22/10/25 09:16 PM
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If you're interested, to anyone who buys my book on attraction, I give a free personalized coaching consultation to.
/r/seduction19/10/25 07:00 PM
1

I usually like to ask a question about something I find intriguing about them... Like a cold read. But don't underestimate a simple: "hey" while making positive eye contact and holding masculine presence in the silence. If she doesn't respond negatively (either positive or neutral) then ask "What brings you here today?"
/r/seduction17/09/25 05:30 PM
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She wants you to kiss her so why waste time and not kiss her as soon as you walk inside? Then give her a quick tour, put on some music, and kiss some more.
/r/seduction28/08/25 11:12 AM
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After a few minutes of good conversation where she's engaged, you can try to... Move into her personal space - see how she reacts. Touch her platonically - see how she reacts. Maintain upper arm or leg contact - see how she reacts. Talk about sexual topics/use sexual inneundos - see how she reacts. Whisper in her ear - see how she reacts. Lead her to a new location - see how she reacts. The goal is to get to the kiss. Lead up to that well and kiss well? And she'll be hot for you.
/r/seduction14/08/25 03:39 PM
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There's a lot of good books but I'll throw mine out there "Win With Beautiful Women" because it's biggest strength is taking complex concepts and strategies and makes them simple to read and easy to understand. And also, for anyone who gets my book, I'll do a free 1-1 coaching session
/r/seduction13/08/25 06:19 PM
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Overall, I like this post. But "sharing something real" can cause serious issues - especially at the beginning. Do not be an open book. Stay somewhat mysterious. Listening is great because you want her to be talking.
/r/seduction08/08/25 12:38 AM
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Do more social things
/r/seduction03/08/25 08:53 PM
2

Exactly. The more guys want it/need it, the more women feel that desperation and it repulses them both consciously and subconsciously. On the other hand, the less guys want it and need it, the more women feel his comfort and abundance, and it attracts them both consciously and unconsciously.
/r/seduction27/07/25 07:08 PM
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Start small so your subconscious realizes it has nothing to be afraid of. Just focus on staying calm with your breathing and posture and make an observation to a woman with zero attachment to an outcome except making her smile or laugh or answer your question... You'll begin to collect evidence that there's nothing to be afraid of and then stretch conversations longer and longer until right after a high point, you can say, "Hey it's been fun chatting with you, but I've got to [fill in the blank]…
/r/seduction26/07/25 05:07 PM
2

Hit me up - I want to do a video call with you
/r/seduction26/07/25 08:48 AM
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You can, sure. Why not? Approach them if you like them regardless of what they do first. You're a man - so initiate. But those scenarios where you catch her looking and she looks away quickly, also then too.
/r/seduction30/06/25 10:15 AM
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Actually a very funny phenomenon with women is they are shy and struggle to make eye contact and smile with men they find interesting but do it easily with guys they're not interested in. This glitch ends up causing issues for everyone.
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:28 AM
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Has a 5'7 guy ever hooked up with a hot girl? Of course. So it's by no means impossible. I think it's more common than you think. So the question is, how'd he do it? Well, women love a guy with big balls, so he probably approached her confidently - especially in his nonverbal communication and tone of voice. Women also love a guy with a backbone, so he probably passed her negativity bias and any of her tests confidently. Women love a guy with a sense of humor, he probably made her laugh. Women l…
/r/seduction08/06/25 03:16 PM
3

Ever heard of Nick Vujicic? His wife is attractive. Women can find your zest for life in the midst of challenges to be sexy.
/r/seduction07/06/25 04:23 PM
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Very hot women can be pretty picky. You'll need to present yourself really well, nail your first impression, handle the initial bulk of the conversation until they get comfortable, and they'll subconsciously shit test you and lose interest at the first sign of incongruence.
/r/seduction07/06/25 01:59 PM
120

Really hard at first, but the more you win, the more you win
/r/seduction07/06/25 01:48 PM
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I wanted to learn that too and I eventually found an extremely effective strategy... It's opening women with a comment and question about the location, occasion, or situation (or a cold read about her individually), then moving on to talking about what she's passionate about, then past pleasant childhood experiences... But it's not firing off questions like a job interview or police interrogation, you need to dig deep into each topic until you find gold - the topic she wants to talk about. Once …
/r/seduction06/06/25 05:02 PM
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80% of men look average to women. 80% of us aren't special, also not hideous. If you're in the top 10%, you're gonna do great without much effort. If you're in the bottom 10%, may God have mercy on your soul. But for the vast majority of us? The 80% of us? We stand out with our behavior and personality.
/r/seduction06/06/25 12:36 AM
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Yeah that's the weird, tricky part about meeting and attracting women. Men have to initiate, then we have to not be overly into them and even challenge, pull away and tease them a little bit.
/r/seduction05/06/25 10:33 PM
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they care about looks, it's just not nearly as important to them as it is to us
/r/seduction05/06/25 10:00 PM
5

Yeah you buy women a drink after there's already a spark, not to create one.
/r/seduction05/06/25 01:33 AM
12

Obsessed with you? Don't put your dick in crazy, bro.... Especially a 5 and especially if you're gonna leave her high and dry. Lmao good luck though. Probably just gonna learn this lesson the hard way.
/r/seduction05/06/25 01:31 AM
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You've got to have conviction in yourself as such a catch that you don't want her to miss out on the opportunity to meet you. Aka, making an approach is the considerate, polite thing she wants you to do.
/r/seduction03/06/25 05:51 PM
3

First get in a fun physiological state. Think of a time you were having a lot of fun. Idk what's fun for you, but think of the funnest time you've had, and physiologically practice going back into that state. That's how you were breathing, what you were thinking, what you were feeling, how you were standing/sitting, etc. Then once your physiology is feeling fun, aim for havimg fun in your conversations. Amuse yourself with things you say. Be a little bit silly and ridiculous. Don't be serious. D…
/r/seduction02/06/25 11:49 PM
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"You're a lot of fun to talk to, come with me to {insert really cool spot} nearby for {insert good reason} and let's continue it"
/r/seduction02/06/25 11:41 PM
0

Ofc! I'll dm u
/r/seduction31/05/25 10:31 AM
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I am neurodivergent and was bad at talking to strangers but found some great techniques that can help you with that if you want to DM me
/r/seduction31/05/25 01:58 AM
1

Just think how easy it'll be to approach 1 or 2 girls when you get used to approaching an entire group
/r/seduction29/05/25 12:15 AM
1

They want a masculine, high value, cool, calm, and collected, yet take-charge-when-necessary type of man who emotionally excites them... So why not just give them what they want?
/r/seduction27/05/25 11:49 PM
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Best case - immediately begin a first date. You don't have to call it a date, or even ask her. Just keep the conversation going and assume she doesn't have a time constraint. If she says, "I need to walk this way/go here," you can just state something like, "I'll come with you" (bonus points for sexual innuendo), or, "I can join you". If it's good chemistry and vibes she'll be happy for you company. Only when she can no longer spend any time with you, get her contact info and meet up soon.
/r/seduction27/05/25 09:08 PM
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I'm glad you said that and I agree. I'm a former high school teacher so I have taught people for even less than that... Do you want to take me up on this and start your curriculum next week?
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:47 PM
0

I should probably get the word out more. I need to create YouTube and IG content.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:41 PM
0

Damn really? I charge way less than that. $69 for a 3 call masterclass sequence.
/r/seduction23/05/25 03:30 PM
0

Not my experience. I got a fitness coach that made me stronger than I could ever get on my own. I got a business coach that helped me unlock more money than I could ever make on my own. And I got a dating coach that allowed me to get girls I never could have got on my own. Success leaves clues. There's guys out there living the life other guys want to live, and they can save guys a ton of time and pain on their journeys to that level.
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:49 PM
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If you're climbing up a mountain, would you want to climb it with a sherpa who has climbed it successfully dozens of times? Or just read and map and do it in your own? Both options can work, but the guidance and support of the sherpa can save you a lot of trial and error, time, and pain.
/r/seduction23/05/25 02:45 PM
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How about you seal the deal with some 7s, 8s, and 9s first. Then you'll have confidence for the 10s. And text game is easy - texts that are few and far between (you're busy and have a life), vague and create curiosity and intrigue, and for planning in person meets.
/r/seduction23/05/25 01:48 AM
1

Events, sports, shopping, social circle, volunteering.
/r/seduction22/05/25 01:31 PM
0

Be curious about her interests, passions, or career until you uncover that topic that she knows a lot about.
/r/seduction22/05/25 01:30 PM
1

Be proud about everything! And show your pride on yourself with nonverbal communication. Body language, posture, facial expressions, tone of voice...
/r/seduction18/05/25 04:45 PM
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She doesn't care your opinion of her until after you've established a little rapport and proven you're cool, funny, and confident first. Instead of immediately saying you look pretty, ask an open ended question about the location, occasion, or situation. Something as simple as, "what brings you here today?", "how are you enjoying the weather today?", "you seem like you're highly focused, what are you up to today?" or "You're dressed nicely today, what's the occasion?"
/r/seduction17/05/25 03:56 PM
1

Yeah it's about the build up
/r/seduction17/05/25 02:40 PM
1

Yeah bro, you're trying to pass level 10 before passing level 1,2,3,4,etc
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:59 PM
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"Fixated on when I was going to kiss her?" For me, I can't even think about kissing her until I've completed the stages or levels before kissing her in sequential order. From touching her platonically to moving into pre-kiss body language (where you're standing or sitting very, very close, inclined toward one another, almost like cuddling, dancing, or hugging). So just focus on one small escalation at a time.
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:41 PM
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Yup it's programmed into my DNA like hunger, thirst, fatigue, and fight or flight. Not going to apologize for a biological human instinct.
/r/MensRights16/05/25 11:38 AM
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Girls love sex and affection as much as we do.... But they definitely wouldn't want it from a guy who feels like sex and affection makes him disgusting.
/r/MensRights16/05/25 10:11 AM
0

It's a valuable lesson though - having the correct cocktail of brain chemistry (which can be achieved through drugs, or more sustainability, through physiological work) is a million times more important than being jacked, having a rolex, being 6'5, etc.
/r/seduction12/05/25 11:30 PM
1

Wow sounds like a cheat code... My vibes are pretty sick sober. Dancing and incantations and state work have helped me. I'm curious, are you not able to easily replicate those vibes when you're sober? Why can't you be on cloud nine without molly? Again I'm ignorant because I have no idea what to compare it too.
/r/seduction12/05/25 11:18 PM
0

Lmao I've never done Molly... Can women tell you're high? What's it like?
/r/seduction12/05/25 11:05 PM
2

OK that's where meanings of words is important. What do green and red lights even mean, right? So, yeah, your version of green light is "she stays put". Some guys might consider that an "absence of a red light". Either way - guys make gradual moves, then do your best to interpret how she feels about it, and adjust from there.
/r/seduction12/05/25 11:04 PM
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Yeah I hear you and for all guys to have more opportunities for warm approaches, it's a hell of a lot easier when you learn to have a perpetual aura about you - your body language, facial expression, physiological state all on point... But yeah if you have a great physiological state (breathing and posture are big for that) then you can "cold" approach a woman not really showing signs, and she'll feel better in your presence. So what I'm saying is you can influence women in a positive direction …
/r/seduction12/05/25 11:00 PM
1

There's something called pre-kiss body language where it's like you're practically cuddling. You're so close that leaning in for a kiss isn't going to take all that much extra movement. Gradually get to that position with her and wait for a good time to kiss her - like when she's smiling because something cute and sweet happened. Now, a pro move is when you invite her to your place and she gets there, meet her at her car, say hey, and kiss her immediately. Or if you're picking her up on a date, …
/r/seduction12/05/25 10:52 PM
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Not a bad idea. If you escalate 1 step at a time, then it won't be too hard to figure out where a red light occurs. So first I move closer. Is she staying put or recoiling? Okay she recoils, back to the drawing board. She stays put? I'm going to platonically touch her. Same thing. She recoils? Okay, maybe at this point I move on. She doesn't recoil? Okay, let's do it again. She's into it? No red lights, I'm gonna keep advancing to the next stage, and next, and next.
/r/seduction12/05/25 10:45 PM
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I like that. People are in various states when you go interact with them. Sometimes serious (cold), sometimes stressed (cold), sometimes spaced out (cold), sometimes focused on something else (cold), sometimes they're looking for engaging interactions (warmerish)... Either way, it's crucial to improve their situation with your presence. What you bring into their life should be stimulating and better than where they're currently at in some way. So warm and cold approach are pretty similar. Some g…
/r/seduction12/05/25 10:41 PM
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Timing is everything. When they're running late to class, stressed about a project they procrastinated on, a little hungover, etc ain't the best time. If they're sitting at a coffee shop casually chatting with a friend, then it's cool.
/r/seduction05/05/25 12:12 PM
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Make a positive first impression with a casual, maybe playful observation. Stay at a comfortable distance. Gauge eye contact and body language. If she's uncomfortable, don't push things. Not that hard.
/r/seduction04/05/25 09:24 PM
18

"oh, no, your date stand you up?" "no, not on a date." "wanna be?"
/r/seduction04/05/25 09:22 PM
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Women are dying for a confident, attractive man to approach them and make them feel good. Adventure and fun is their favorite things.
/r/seduction03/05/25 05:29 PM
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Cold approach is not online dating. It's meeting/approaching women in person
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 11:27 AM
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Societal messaging is the problem - bar none. For a variety of reasons, young men in our society don't build the inner confidence and self-esteem needed to appeal to a female's biological instincts to mate. The good news men? We can fix this, dispose of the indoctrination that keeps us weak, rise to a level of indisputable, unapologetic strength, and retake our power in the dating market. That's what I've dedicated my life to do and I'm looking for anyone interested in making this our new realit…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:42 PM
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1000000% cold approach is the greatest way to meet and attract women. Guys aren't always gonna catch girls at a good time in their life, guys aren't always gonna be the same vibe as the women they approach (although that's why you go places you vibe at because you'll find people there with similar vibes), but cold approach, organically meeting and attracting women in person, is always gonna be King. That's including what some people call "warm approach", which is women give you indicators of int…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:04 PM
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It's any 1 individual's fault they don't have the sex life they want to. For women, they can have the sex life they want by healthmaxxxing. For men, they can have the sex life they want by acquiring and developing a specific set of several skills - much more complicated than what women have to do - but still doable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:34 PM
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Yeah, she's right. If you can't find a sexual partner, it's a skill deficiency. It's your own fault. And because I love men and I love love, I'll teach any guy who's interested how to get women to go home and get naked with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:46 AM
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Your physiology controls your psychology... If you want to get better at approaching, you need to get your bodily feelings under control - posture, breathing. The fear you're feeling is programmed into you through your nature and nurture, but you've got to understand there's nothing to be afraid of.
/r/seduction02/05/25 11:40 AM
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Dating experiences are different for men in the highest tier of attractivess, the 1%ers, I agree with that. I actually became that man. Beautiful women would sometimes kinda approach me in bars and clubs. They'd be as indirect as it gets, just stand near me, even start dancing with me. But even then, with this top tier 1% status, how much does saying that advice help other guys? You're over here bragging making it seem like beautiful women make it soooo easy for very attractive guys, and for the…
/r/seduction30/04/25 04:47 PM
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Hot girls definitely don't have to settle for an ugly guy just because he approached her, no. But if you're an average to above average looking guy, let's say guys in the 5-8 range looks wise, the only way you're getting a hot girl is by approaching them and giving them a positive emotional experience. Girls who are 8s, 9s, and 10s will not approach a guy who is a 6, but if he approaches them correctly, he CAN attract them and seduce them. And she's not "settling" for him, he's given get what sh…
/r/seduction30/04/25 11:24 AM
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Women care about a lot more about a lot more other things than looks, though... Guys see a picture of a beautiful woman? We could legitimately marry her without meeting her. But women cannot decide if they want to marry a guy or not like that.
/r/seduction30/04/25 11:07 AM
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I thought approaching was unnecessary since 8's and up were supposed to approach me all the time...???
/r/seduction30/04/25 01:15 AM
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Ask if she's from around the area... How long she's lived there... What brought her to the area... How she likes the area... What she likes about the area... Uncover and get into talking about her interests and passions ASAP.
/r/seduction29/04/25 10:56 PM
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"Wow looks like you're the type that takes your studies seriously..." She laughs, "Yeah." "What's your major?" Be curious about why how she picked it. See if that's what she's passionate about. Talk about both the past, present and future of what she's passionate about. Use this info for later. Get her to talk and open up while giving her a facial expression that let's her know you're into her. At a high point, get her number or IG (if you have IG game) and say you're going to check out somethin…
/r/seduction29/04/25 08:52 PM
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Number 1 - you need the right inner game which is understanding that society misleads a lot of men about what women are attracted to - which isn't money, looks, or fame, but men with behavioral strength, or in other words, "masculinity". Number 2 - you need to be able to demonstrate you have masculinity primarily through nonverbal communication, like body language, facial expressions, and your tone of voice. To communicate masculinity with words, it's about being unapologetic and direct. Number …
/r/seduction29/04/25 05:44 PM
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Thanks yeah it could mean she rejects me, it could mean she tests me, she likes me, she's on the fence, anything, but I'll handle any situation successfully because I control my reaction. E + R = O. Event + Response = Outcome We don't always control the E variable, but we do control the R, so we control the outcome.
/r/seduction29/04/25 02:21 PM
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Knowing with pure certainty that no matter what happens, I'll handle it successfully.
/r/seduction29/04/25 01:36 PM
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Chads might get approached from girls who are mid, but girls that are 8s, 9s, and 10s? They don't approach anyone, no. I think it's because they know for a man to really "deserve" them, he has to show her he has confidence, courage, and charm. They watched enough Disney movies to see how the princess gets swept off her feet by the prince, not the other way around. That's why women's advice for finding guys is "Just be yourself, it'll just happen" when guys have an entire calculus for finding and…
/r/seduction29/04/25 01:26 PM
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You need to genuinely enjoy what you go out and do... Don't go places you think you should go, go places you that make you happy being there. Then go have positive interactions with people at those places you genuinely enjoy being at.
/r/seduction29/04/25 12:30 PM
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Try "Hi, wow, you're really attractive" ... Good smile and eye contact. Then go right into the conversation. "Are you from around here?" Don't ask for the social media/phone number until the conversation goes well first.
/r/seduction29/04/25 11:20 AM
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"Love that swimsuit" "It's a beautiful thing to let em breathe, aye?" "Watch how disciplined I can be looking at you up here and not getting distracted"
/r/seduction29/04/25 12:49 AM
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Yes. Just like people get coaches to expand their skills in golf, boxing, sales, public speaking, etc... They also get coaches for one of the most important areas in anyone's life - relationships.
/r/seduction27/04/25 02:12 PM
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No one is going to remember it or you after 10 seconds
/r/seduction26/04/25 02:55 PM
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My favorite thing is when a cold approach turns into an immediate first date. "You're actually pretty cool/fun to talk to, let's continue chatting. I know this really chill place [insert bar/coffee shop]." If there's a time constraint "You're actually pretty cool/fun to talk to, give me your number so we can do it again over coffee/drinks at [insert bar/coffee shop]."
/r/seduction22/04/25 06:49 PM
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Yeah women are into the masculine presence of a guy who shows he has big balls - which is indeed demonstrated mainly nonverbally (body language, the way he moves, facial expressions, tone of voice)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:59 PM
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Height is nice for women because it gets them closer to what they really are attracted to about men - his masculine presence. His courage, confidence, assertiveness, social competence, certainty in himself and his value.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:22 PM
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They didn't list masculine presence - confidence, assertiveness, courage, self - esteem, etc - which most men lack and what most women want most.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:21 PM
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Great advice. What women say they want is at best misguided and at worst a lie. They'll never admit they want to f*ck the self-important, assertive, slightly arrogant bad boy, but they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:20 PM
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Facts... So many men lack any semblance of courage and social competence
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:18 PM
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That's true and it's because the #1 thing women actually want (but never list in these surveys) is a man with a masculine, confident presence - and so few men have this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:17 PM
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Cold approach is a skill all single guys should learn and do. It'll take more practice for some. But I highly recommend getting some guidance and support through the process so you maximize chances of positive interactions and to help keep your self-esteem in tact.
/r/seduction21/04/25 04:02 PM
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Well said. This is the answer.
/r/seduction20/04/25 01:43 PM
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I've been brutally rejected a lot in my past. It was rough but I'm sure it was important to help me figure out how to eventually win.... The worst ones I remember were fumbling opportunities where I had a real chance to make something out of it, but fucked it up somehow by acting like a loser lol.
/r/seduction19/04/25 09:02 PM
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You're subconsciously replaying all the rejections you've had inside your brain and body which is causing you to freeze up in fear.
/r/seduction19/04/25 03:04 PM
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That's why you need abundance. You sound thirsty, needy, and desperate for this to happen. Attitude should be: if it happens- great, if it doesn't - great. Next girl is around the corner.
/r/seduction19/04/25 02:03 PM
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Girls want to have fun
/r/seduction19/04/25 12:44 PM
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Always assume she's been waiting her whole life to meet someone like you...
/r/seduction19/04/25 11:49 AM
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Women are more stressed than ever. Whether it's their studies, their job, their family, their friends, their appearance, etc.. Women are also more shy than ever. They haven't learned good social skills like how to make new friends because of social media. You also need to overcome people's natural negativity bias. When someone you don't know approaches you, it automatically seems like they want something from you (like a salesman or beggar). So approach women in a way that can overcome these 3 t…
/r/seduction19/04/25 11:46 AM
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Same. I'm very introverted but I wanted to date beautiful women so I would find the different events and places that I enjoyed being a decent amount where I could also meet women. Plus I'd always stay on the lookout for women going about my day.
/r/seduction18/04/25 07:04 PM
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You want the benefits of being a social man without any of the costs... Maybe you want to become a socially successful guy? A guy who goes out and socializes and parties and has a good time?
/r/seduction18/04/25 05:17 PM
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You don't like to party or socialize much so, yeah, women who do like to party and socialize won't find you very desirable. And guess what? That's perfectly OK. Not everyone is compatible with everyone. A super social woman wouldn't be a good match for you. Look for women who are more introverted (hint: they shop, eat, work, and go out into public to pursue various interests all the time - they're just usually quiet and shy so you have to go introduce yourself)
/r/seduction18/04/25 04:54 PM
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Why do you do that? Why don't you put yourself above them in the social hierarchy and think you are what they desire?
/r/seduction18/04/25 04:38 PM
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Why do you feel inferior to beautiful women? That's where I'd start.
/r/seduction18/04/25 04:25 PM
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So you're on a date, you find out she's left wing, but you still want to smash? Because you obviously shouldn't be in a LTR with someone who has majorly mismatched stances on politics from you. If you just want to smash, agree her politics, smoothly and swiftly change the subject, smash, and move on.
/r/seduction18/04/25 12:02 AM
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If you live in western country, record the interaction. Approach with a casual conversation starter, keep comfortable distance. If she's not trying to get away from you, give her a compliment. Again, if she's not trying to get away from you, keep up a casual conversation designed to connect. If the connection is there, get her number or plan a date... None of that is even close to illegal.
/r/MensRights16/04/25 12:15 PM
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I'd say your opening line was like a B-. Good to be direct, but beautiful is pretty generic. It's awesome you cold approached though. Hard to say what you did wrong during the interaction. Maybe she picked up something that made you seem insecure. Next time, keep the interaction going as long as possible. Make it your spontaneous first date. Take her to get a drink.
/r/seduction15/04/25 01:42 PM
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Treat them like they're special, desirable, and be a gentlemen.
/r/seduction14/04/25 11:30 PM
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Don't beat yourself up. You chose the narrative. I'd use this as proof that pulling attractive girls is nothing special.
/r/seduction14/04/25 10:30 PM
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Immediately and confidently walk up to her and break the ice! Then you'll probably need to carry on the conversation initially. Use cold reads and be curious.
/r/seduction14/04/25 09:16 PM
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Get into pre kiss body language. It's like being really close. Within kissing distance. Almost cuddling. Then when something makes her smile (not laugh, smile) then draw triangle from her left eye to mouth to right eye, and lean in. Eyes open and read her reaction.
/r/seduction14/04/25 12:44 AM
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Let's unpack it together. Why do you think you're become anxious attachment? Don't think you're worthy? Worried they'll leave you? At a certain point, let girls chase you bro. They like doing it. Like a cat and string. Be hard for them to catch.
/r/seduction14/04/25 12:13 AM
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I think the way you view rejection makes a world of difference. This was my biggest sticking point for sure and I address it in depth in my book (please don't crucify me writing a book on this) but one of the biggest things for me was truly internalizing it's "her loss". Like knowing it to my core that she's dumb and is missing out. So I'm weeding dumb ones out by "being rejected". Plus, like, she can't accurately judge the man I am in just a minute or two. Not even close. Plus rejection proved …
/r/seduction13/04/25 10:52 PM
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Then what might be stopping you is your conviction in your value and importance. My attitude was, "let's go make this woman's whole week (or, hole weak)"
/r/seduction13/04/25 09:46 PM
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Various listening skills and genuine, deep curiosity about what she's passionate about. Maybe it's her job, maybe it's what she does in her free time. Then use the echo technique which is when you repeat the words she uses, words that seem to be emotionally charged, words she says where she changes her tone or body language when she says them, back to her in the form of a question. For example, you ask a nurse why she became a nurse and she said "my favorite aunt was a nurse and she saved lives"…
/r/seduction13/04/25 09:10 PM
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You looking for a magic opening line? To face and overcome your fear of rejection and approach anxiety? To know how to carry a conversation?
/r/seduction13/04/25 09:03 PM
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They're pretty manipulative so I'd rather explain in dm
/r/seduction13/04/25 08:54 PM
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You're very mindful which is cool, but you're going after girls that don't excite you without strategies that make them feel good enough. Knowing how to conduct and lead conversations helped me a lot. I developed a fool proof strategy and it allowed women to open up, which caused them to bond to me. The more they talk, the better you look.
/r/seduction13/04/25 07:34 PM
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Yeah 'players' or guys going around hitting on a bunch of girls repulse women. This is because subconsciously women determine these kind of men would be highly likely abandon them if she were to get pregnant with his child. Remember, the consequences of sex for men in the animal kingdom is nothing. The consequences for women could be 9 months of pregnancy and many years of raising an infant and child... I do admit birth control and other modern narratives in society bring down those barriers wom…
/r/seduction13/04/25 03:26 PM
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Good question. I started enjoying it when I knew with certainty how deeply flattered and thankful women were when I approached them. Not because I was super tall, rich, fit, or handsome... But because I was a confident, high-value man who truly loved and respected himself and genuinely recognized her specialness.
/r/seduction13/04/25 12:54 AM
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Bro this is very cool. Well done and thanks for sharing. One issue that you're going to have is that you're not showing these women you actually find them special. To them, it seems like you'd settle for any date with any woman and that's going to make them reject you. It's walking a line of demonstrating she's special without being needy or desperate.
/r/seduction12/04/25 09:51 PM
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You can go quickly through each step if she responds positively to each step. And don't skip steps. Before you touch her, move very close to her. If she's not backing away, touch very platonically. If she seems cool with that, touch flirty. Then maybe lower back. Then arm around her and whisper something to her. After all that goes well, you can probably kiss her (at a good time). Once you kiss her and she returns, then it's pretty much on for sex. Again, progress through each step.
/r/seduction12/04/25 06:47 PM
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If it's done right, assertiveness is leadership and confidence, yes. And women love that shit. Just tonight I was assertive with my wife. I said: tonight we're having steak sandwiches and watching black mirror. She loved it. Gonna get pretty frisky in bed tn I bet 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:47 PM
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Actually I'll admit you've got the right idea for what kind of outcome to to shoot for, demonstrating interest without being desperate, but there is so many ways a guy can make himself high value and the woman not feel like an objectified piece of meat without calling himself a cock sucker
/r/seduction11/04/25 02:35 PM
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Bro, you could throw so many other words in there besides "gay"... How about, "if I didn't have crippling insecurity, you'd be mine" or "if I was 6'5, you'd be mine" or "if I wasn't a million dollars in debt, you'd be mine"? I don't hate untrue self-deprecating humor, but don't say you're gay.
/r/seduction11/04/25 02:14 PM
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Women are biologically programmed to mate with strong men and sadly, many men in our society don't measure up...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 01:41 PM
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I'd call cold approach approaching a woman you don't know, with or without positive eye contact/indicators of interest first. Of course positive eye contact/IOIs first is preferred, but it doesn't always happen. Some guys might call getting positive eye contact/IOIs first no longer a cold approach, but I think that's dumb. Maybe call no positive eye contact/IOIs ice cold approach, but I count eye contact/IOIs still pretty cold. You've gotta still 'break the ice'... That's just me.
/r/seduction11/04/25 01:36 PM
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For sure I'm gonna hit you up
/r/seduction11/04/25 01:47 AM
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No shit from being absolutely frozen in my tracks just contemplating trying to talk to women, to epically fumbling what should have been layups with middies, to making girls that are gifts from God beg to gag on my cock a few hours after introducing myself. Been a wild transformation.
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:58 AM
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Have a healthy social life and professional life outside of the relationship that takes up your time. Women don't want to be the center of a man's life, they want to be a part of a man's life who has a life.
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:20 AM
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Keep flirting with her. Absense makes the heart grow fonder. Stay masculine. Be a leader and decision maker.
/r/seduction10/04/25 11:59 PM
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I wanted to cold approach in college, but I was clueless as to how. I didn't start trying cold approach until I was 26-27 and didn't get good at it until I was 29-30
/r/seduction10/04/25 01:45 PM
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You do a slightly "warmer" approach than cold approach, but it's not that much different. Instead of going up and introducing yourself to a girl you've never interacted with at all before, you start with some positive eye contact and good nonverbals first. That's the only difference. Other than that, you're going out to bars with the intention to meet women you've never met before. You're not using online dating, and you're not meeting women through your network.
/r/seduction10/04/25 01:36 PM
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The most unattractive thing you can be is insecure with yourself. If you doubt yourself, your girl will doubt you and dump your ass (hyperbolic on purpose). If you believe in yourself, your girl will believe in you and you'll live happily ever after.
/r/seduction10/04/25 12:48 PM
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I loved day game in the summer. As a former high school teacher I had a good 2 months off and all those college girls came back home. Plus I had a membership to a private pool within walking distance of my place... I'd find them working (cashier, bartender, even life guards at my pool), shopping, at the park, or at the rec center. Then I'd invite them for a swim and seal the deal. Really cheap date. I had free guest passes and if I bought them nachos and ice cream they'd be happy. Day game in co…
/r/seduction09/04/25 01:46 PM
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"nothing other than her appearance" - so there's never allowed to be more than 1 reason to cold approach? You can't approach because appearance and her unique grace, style, vibe, interesting accessory, communication-style, behavior, etc. that you find intriguing? Right -according to you, those things cannot exist simultaneously with physical appearance, can they?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:10 PM
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Umm... So are you saying to approach women you're not attracted to? How does that work exactly? "Hi I wanted to introduce myself. You're not physically attractive, but would you like to get to know each other and perhaps explore dating?"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:44 PM
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Fine. No insults, just dumbfounded.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:14 PM
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More like exploring the possibility for an intimate connection - something all humans want and enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:11 PM
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LMAO exactly! Wtf is this?? Cold approach does not mean sexual propositioning 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:53 PM
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Cold approach is king! ... and it's a learnable skill. With the right strategies and practice, you'll be able to secure as many dates as you wish. Then, you'll need conversational skills and the ability to flirt, create sexual tension, and escalate. If you're able to do all of that well, then you'll be better than 99% of the male population.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:51 PM
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Best thing you can do is cold approach then have a spontaneous first date. That's how you go from strangers to sex in the same day.
/r/seduction08/04/25 12:00 AM
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Good call. It's a lot like sales. 10% of customers would NEVER buy. 10% of customers will ALWAYS buy. How you handle the 80% in the middle is what separates the winners from the loser. Credit that to Alex Hormozi.
/r/seduction07/04/25 11:55 PM
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People who oppose to cold approach want to control men. To make sure we "stay in our lane". If your guy friends promote that BS, it's because they've been conditioned and deceived. Cold approach is king.
/r/seduction07/04/25 11:44 PM
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Overthinking is unattractive. You gotta enter the present moment and have conviction in yourself as a valuable catch. As soon as I saw a pretty girl I liked, I'd tell myself, let's go make this girl's whole week! (or, hole weak 😁). I assumed she's been waiting forever for a masculine, attractive man like me to go approach her. Then I'd just say something I noticed that I liked about her and in my conversation, showed interest in her as a human being (while using nonverbals like strong eye contac…
/r/seduction06/04/25 10:03 PM
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In person is far superior for all men in the bottom 90%
/r/seduction06/04/25 02:56 PM
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Idk about single moms - I grew up with a single dad. My mom was unable to be in my life. But schools and society devalue men and make them feel like they're not worthy of women (or anything) unless they have success in the way society defines success. The way schools and society makes little boys feel like they're not good enough - because they can't stay organized, quiet, or sit still - and make them chase adult female validation is crazy. And to be clear, society doesn't do a great job of buil…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 02:27 PM
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Depends how special she is. I'd walk away from the pope if a girl exactly my type walked by 😅
/r/seduction06/04/25 12:05 PM
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How'd he feel about that? Offended? Or curious and happy for you?
/r/seduction06/04/25 11:58 AM
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I think you should have approached - would have given your friend inspiration
/r/seduction06/04/25 01:19 AM
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Dial in your inner energy and mood which should positively affect your facial expressions and body language. But what I'd do? Dance!
/r/seduction05/04/25 10:10 PM
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Bad breath?
/r/seduction05/04/25 07:53 PM
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I am definitely not the best in the world, but it is my goal to be the best one day. Right now, with my book finally finished, I'm taking on new clients for next to nothing, just so I can get better and create the best program possible. Please feel free to take me up on this (or anyone interested for that matter).
/r/seduction05/04/25 06:50 PM
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So it sounds like you think it's less about the information and more about an action-plan and following through. Like the best thing a coach can offer is accountability.
/r/seduction05/04/25 06:47 PM
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You don't need to go to anything with people. Just go by yourself and enjoy your own company and approach groups of people who seem friendly and engage with them... Padel league sounds good. See if you can find people to create a team, but it's more for socializing before and after you play. Going to a soccer game can be alone too. Again before and after the game is the socializing aspect. And you can always go to seasonal events (anything happening for spring, Easter time?) and popular shopping…
/r/seduction05/04/25 12:35 PM
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Men absolutely must take accountability for obtaining more rizz, but many times what that'll take is rewriting the social conditioning they got as children - especially from when they were in elementary school and their brains were extra strong sponges.
/r/seduction05/04/25 01:01 AM
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Social conditioning. We strip boys of their natural rizz. We feminize young men starting in school. Make them follow lame rules. Sit in a chair all day memorizing facts. Tell them they're not worthy until they succeed in the way society wants them to. Make them feel women are more valuable than them. So it's bye bye natural confidence, hello insecurities.
/r/seduction04/04/25 10:18 PM
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Context of previous interactions would help. As would understanding how busy she really gets at work. If it's really hard to have a lengthy discussion like you said it was (which I prefer if possible)... You can play the long game and slowly generate tension. Demonstrate a little bit of value and learn 1 thing about her each interaction you have, which slowly builds into a more closer relationship. Or, you can take a more direct approach, something like, "You know, grocery shopping used to be so…
/r/seduction04/04/25 06:18 PM
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You can acquire my wisdom for free simply by scrolling through my reddit comment feed. If you like to consume information in a more organized fashioned, yeah that'd be in my book. If you want 1-1 guidance and advice on your specific situation, yeah I do that too. If you want exercises, activities, and challenges to get to a place you want to get to, yeah I offer that too. Would you prefer I not do those things? Just keep to myself, go get a normal job, and forget about all the people who wish th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 05:51 PM
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There's a few ways to maximize appearance... But the #1 thing you need is an energy, a physiological state, a vibe that women are attracted to. The best way I like to explain it is this, if you just saw a picture of Melissa McCarthy (appearance is like a 3 or 4), you wouldn't consider hooking up with her. But, if you're at a party and she's walking around with this magnetic aura - she's funny, she's positive, she's feeling herself, she's got swag, she's comfortable in her own skin, you start to …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:22 PM
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Do it!
/r/seduction04/04/25 01:51 PM
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It'll never be in the cards for you with language like that, that's for sure. I'm sorry to hear you think that way. Truly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 01:50 PM
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Because no subpar looking men in human history has ever led a fulfilling life, right? Never had success. Never had love. Never been happy. Psh... Don't be dramatic bro.
/r/MensRights04/04/25 01:35 PM
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First ask yourself: "What things am I into?" Music? Movies? Sports? Art? Antiques? Food? Books? Running? Then explore events and clubs catered to your interests where you can meet women with things in common to you! That not working? Just go to popular shopping destinations. Women love to shop.
/r/seduction04/04/25 12:40 PM
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I do visualization exercises with my clients and we get specific on what kind of woman, appearance, energy, etc she has... Then when they see a woman who fits their preconceived definition of special, they approach her automatically
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 12:33 PM
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I have no clue how you came to that conclusion from what I wrote to you. "Raise Your Standards" and only approach women you find truly special is lesson 47.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 12:22 PM
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It's a lot of things. Fortifying their mind, heart, body. Getting clear on their purpose, identity, and values. Getting clear on what they want in a woman. Teaching them how women communicate. Helping them overcome their nerves. Helping them overcome their social conditioning. Giving them specific winning conversation strategies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 11:47 AM
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Not into "players", but I've guided and supported dozens of inexperienced guys into winning with women more often, yes. And I'm only getting started.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 11:29 AM
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If you're a man reading this, and you think dating isn't in the cards for you, I want you to know: it's my life's mission to prove this BS INCORRECT.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:15 AM
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Telling your son or daughter you've met some people in your life that you had an intimate connection and relationship isn't a bad thing imo. If it is for you, then focus on finding your dream girl. But even then, you might think a girl is wife material and it doesn't work out. That would be OK too.
/r/seduction03/04/25 05:22 PM
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If women think you're unsure whether or not you want to/could have sex, there's no way in hell they'd ever sleep with you, so there's that.
/r/seduction03/04/25 04:59 PM
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The more evidence you give yourself of being "that dude", the more the confidence seeps into your subconscious and becomes a natural part of who you are. But... You can still make a conscious decision to look back at all the things you've been through and label them as proof that you can do it. So confidence is both a decision to how you look at things and built through breaking out of your comfort zone and regularly doing difficult things.
/r/seduction03/04/25 11:38 AM
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One of the most helpful things for me was looking at feminine traits and qualities and doing the equal opposite of it. Women are indirect and passive, so I'm direct and assertive. Women are sensitive, my feelings don't hurt easily. Women care what others think, idgaf what others think. Women shrink and cover themselves, I expand and stay open. Women change their minds to avoid conflict, I am unapologetic and do not run from conflict.
/r/seduction03/04/25 11:29 AM
1

Yes! Meeting women in person is the fuckin WAY for men in 2025 and beyond
/r/seduction03/04/25 12:33 AM
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That's great. Being genuinely curious and interested in women as a person is something they definitely appreciate vs approaching them from just being needy, thirsty, horny, trying to get laid, etc...
/r/seduction02/04/25 05:25 PM
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Take a hint - sex with you isn't a priority of hers. Don't get mad. Don't try hard to convince her to meet you. You should have done a better job of making her feel good, because, again, she's clearly not prioritizing meeting you again - and that's for a reason.
/r/seduction02/04/25 01:29 PM
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Well said, but most guys won't realize how important these qualities are that indicate inner energy and vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 01:06 PM
3

Approaching at the Gym is cool if you've cultivated positive eye contact first. Say, "Hey I've seen you here a few times now and really wanted to say hi and introduce myself..." "I don't want to interrupt our workout time, but I'd love to grab a drink with you later tonight if you're free..."
/r/seduction02/04/25 01:03 PM
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Sounds solid as fuck, bro. Well done and thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction02/04/25 12:26 AM
2

I'm grab yours too even if it's only for a few ideas because I want to be able to offer the most to my clients that I can
/r/seduction02/04/25 12:09 AM
1

If you like to read on this subject, I'd greatly appreciate you checking out my book too. Win With Beautiful Women: Meet and Attract The Woman of Your Dreams
/r/seduction01/04/25 07:29 PM
1

What would be the topics you struggle with the most?
/r/seduction01/04/25 04:25 PM
1

Are you talking about stuff like Where to Meet Women? Managing Physiological State? Icebreakers and Openers? First Impressions? Demonstrating Interest? Conversations? Escalation?
/r/seduction01/04/25 04:13 PM
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6 downvotes before I upvoted you up to -5 karma... That's ridiculous. The seduction community hates you if you wrote a book and are active on this subreddit. They'd prefer the people on this subreddit not be writers, or something
/r/seduction01/04/25 01:53 PM
2

The feeling you're talking about didn't totally go away for me, but I did become addicted to that feeling. I no longer called it fear, I call it excitement and being alive.
/r/seduction01/04/25 10:47 AM
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First piece of advice would be to talk to everyone. Old. Young. Men. Women. Have more conversations with any kind of human being.... And this might be controversial - but practice talk to women while they're working. Talk to the bored girl working at the front desk. Talk to your dental hygienist. Talk to your waitress and Starbucks worker. Don't interrupt them from their job. Don't be disrespectful or come on too strongly. Just try to have a conversation with them for practice. They'll likely we…
/r/seduction31/03/25 09:51 PM
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Thanks for checking it out! It's probably not going to be as valuable for guys who have already consumed a ton of seduction advice because I really preach the fundamentals, especially at the beginning. It's really written more for those beginning their seduction journeys.
/r/seduction31/03/25 07:23 PM
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Thanks brother. Means a lot hearing that from someone who knows firsthand the grind of writing a book.
/r/seduction31/03/25 07:20 PM
1

Fair question. Yes, there are principles those active on this subreddit or who’s read a few seduction books will recognize. What makes mine different is the voice, the personal experience behind it, and how simple and easy it is to digest—especially for young guys just starting out with this. What also sets it apart is that it's mom-approved and even suitable for strictly religious families. You do realize, millions of young men around the world hit puberty every year. They go looking for guidan…
/r/seduction31/03/25 07:13 PM
1

lmao that's what I'm trying to tell you - "couples dancing" is lame. You want to dance with swagger. Expanding your body sporadically, almost violently.
/r/seduction31/03/25 03:53 PM
1

Are you trying to dance like women dance? Do you thinking acting more like a woman is actually a smart strategy? Just wondering...
/r/seduction31/03/25 03:26 PM
1

I just told you - Matt Steffanina
/r/seduction31/03/25 01:41 PM
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YouTube dance routines and practice their moves. A guy I learned from was Matt steffanina. I could never be as good as him, but I’d steal his moves
/r/seduction31/03/25 12:37 AM
2

Want to kill 2 birds with 1 stone? Cardio + get girls? Dancing. Yw
/r/seduction30/03/25 11:57 PM
2

You need to talk to her and find out what she’s into first. Then use that info to invite her to something you think she’d want to do. This casual approach is better because if she rejects you, you and her both don’t dread seeing each other in the future
/r/seduction30/03/25 10:43 PM
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Little tip - Be in a fun, positive state! Enjoying your life and your own company and you’re inviting her into that positivity and fun!
/r/seduction30/03/25 10:37 PM
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I constantly thought of men like you (and like I used to be) for the last 2+ years writing my book. But if you don’t read, I’ll still give you free coaching. I’m obsessed with successfully addressing this issue.
/r/seduction30/03/25 10:19 PM
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Get involved in a greater cause than yourself. Look at volunteering. Look at networking opportunities. Travel to more places and just explore them.
/r/seduction30/03/25 10:03 PM
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Women can’t help they evolved to be attracted to what they’re attracted to - just like men can’t help being attracted to what men are attracted to. There’s no reason to debate the science.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:51 PM
1

Awesome! I'm glad you saw what I was talking about. Obviously I'm not recommending to do EVERYTHING the characters do, but there are definitely lessons to seduce women in both.
/r/seduction29/03/25 12:51 PM
2

Absolutely. Effective execution of the kiss makes women horny and want to come home with you.
/r/seduction29/03/25 12:25 AM
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My eBook just went live on Amazon! Decades of wisdom and 2 years of working my ass off to organize and communicate over 100 Lessons for Dating Success. It's designed to teach men how to go from strangers to sex with beautiful women in a few hours. It's called Win With Beautiful Women and currently only $3.69 with a 200% money back guarantee.
/r/seduction28/03/25 10:53 PM
1

I talk about 2 movies in my book: Fear with Mark Wahlberg and Reece Witherspoon and Grease. Both have great examples of effectively moving through the stages of seduction: from strangers to sex.
/r/seduction28/03/25 10:48 PM
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Yeah fitness and functional strength like an athlete is great... But bodybuilding is different. Caring too much about personal aesthetics becomes a feminine trait.
/r/seduction20/03/25 01:48 PM
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Body building increases your chances with other men
/r/seduction20/03/25 12:45 PM
1

Just refuse to have anything but fun
/r/seduction08/03/25 09:33 PM
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Hygiene, grooming, flattering clothes that fit your physique go a long way because first impressions are huge but especially because of the inner attitude shift it creates.
/r/seduction22/02/25 05:49 PM
1

Find something you genuine respect about her character, personality, life choices, or a challenge she's overcome.
/r/seduction09/02/25 04:22 PM
1

Leading the kind of life that makes her realize what she's missing out on including dating/having fun with other women.
/r/seduction06/02/25 11:07 PM
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You need to plant the seed of wanting to fuck them so it grows in their minds and they eventually want to connect with you. It must be done subtly and you need to be yourself but there's flirting strategies like touching, teasing, and talking about sexual topics.
/r/seduction02/02/25 09:51 PM
1

Women who don't realize how awesome I am are dumb and therefore unattractive to me. It's her loss.
/r/seduction01/02/25 12:21 PM
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Flirting is about exchanging emotions, not exchanging information. The most fundamental thing about flirting is that it's an attitude. It's a DECISION that you're going to have a fun conversation, keep things light and playful, and go beyond something just boring and logical. Boring is the worst thing you can be on a date or an approach. Flirting is giving a woman a hard time in a lighthearted, playful way. Teasing her about something not to personal. Disagreeing with her. Playfully scolding her…
/r/seduction28/01/25 03:23 PM
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Like most skills, it took practice. But a couple important things that helped me was having curiosity, listening, being in the present moment and being observant vs being self-conscious/overthinking. It also helped to lead an interesting life and being well-read and making sure my introductory answers (what I do, where in from, etc) is calibrated.
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:15 PM
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Self love, self respect, self belief, ambition, calibrating my social skills especially how women communicate and nonverbal communication, and also getting more skilled in logistical/texting/dating situations
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:14 AM
19

When I became so good it was nearly a given I could get my dick wet, I started giving myself missions. I was going to target the shortest girl I could. The tallest. The youngest. The oldest. The innocent virgin one. The hoity-toity one. Get the girl I like to have a 3some with one of my usuals...
/r/seduction28/01/25 12:53 AM
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What are your current hobbies and interests? If you found your dream girl who had the same interests as you, where would you go/what would you do on a weekend together? What are the unique social events your area is known for? What do the majority of people do in your town?
/r/seduction28/01/25 12:22 AM
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Moving might not be a bad idea but if you don't want to move, just travel and stay more places. You can maintain relationships with women you meet in person but who live a couple hours away if there's enough chemistry between you.
/r/seduction19/01/25 09:16 PM
2

Girls are easy to text when they like you in real life... Your problem is less what to text these girls and more how to make them feel in person.
/r/seduction19/01/25 12:13 AM
2

Bro, I suggest you believe in yourself and your dicks ability substantially more. It'll come through. Get out of your head and enjoy the female body. These reflexes are animalistic. They'll work when you're properly in tune with your masculine desires for women and in the present moment.
/r/seduction18/01/25 09:08 PM
1

Quick solution could be a strip club. Find a girl that's your type and get a private dance where you can use more of your hands and grind your dick on her. There's no pressure to have sex with her, just try to get hard with her.
/r/seduction18/01/25 08:24 PM
1

Dick not happy to have sex? Or is it just because it's with sex workers? You should focus on meeting and attracting everyday beautiful women that genuinely make your dick happy.
/r/seduction18/01/25 08:11 PM
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You have good options. Stay the course: continue to enjoy the pg13 hookups and patiently build up for sex or pull back: scare her and make her realize she could be fucking up and missing out. Either way, you should also continue to date other women.
/r/seduction18/01/25 03:26 PM
4

Never make insulting comments about aspects of a woman's physical appearance that she can't help. Playfully tease her about behavioral things like the things she says and does.
/r/seduction17/01/25 04:24 PM
3

Your goal is to be able to approach, speak, and flirt with good looking women so you can date them, yes? You can start by practicing that process with ugly women first, sure. But with women you find attractive, you'll still find yourself having to overcome nerves and fear. The way that helped me is by practicing an opener, choosing to have the courage to approach women I liked automatically before I could overthink it, then just acted as my genuine self, only I made sure to be a little extra pla…
/r/seduction15/01/25 08:45 PM
1

Work on your 1st impression. You need to demonstrate 2 things simultaneously: your attractive confidence and that you genuinely think she's special for some reason. And you need a better ice breaker. And also less boring questions.
/r/seduction15/01/25 01:43 PM
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It's good to be aware of caffeine's ability to accelerate and amplify nervous energy. But if you've gotten those things under control already though, it shouldn't be an issue. Caffeine actually might even help you bring more positive energy to the interaction. It just depends on the individual.
/r/seduction14/01/25 06:57 PM
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Maximize your appearance the best you can. Have ambition and do things to stop being poor so you begin to develop self-respect. And as far as what to say? You definitely don't want to share too much, so mainly ask them about themselves and steer the conversation to things they want to talk about.
/r/seduction14/01/25 12:41 AM
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Right. If you're trying to hit a great golf shot but your grip and stance is wrong, you won't have success no matter how much you practice.
/r/seduction14/01/25 12:39 AM
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"Flirt with the world" is valuable advice in seduction circles
/r/seduction14/01/25 12:37 AM
5

As far as saying things, I found sexual innuendos were effective. But what really makes a girl horny is how well you make out with her... Great kissing is what leads to sex more than any words ever would.
/r/seduction12/01/25 01:52 PM
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That's a perfect opportunity to just use basic social curiosity. "Wow, what are you working on? It looks like it must be intense!" And just start a conversation. Actually your approach should be to talk to her and see if she brings more to the table than just looks. If after a couple minutes the vibe is good, that's when you attempt to move it forward romantically.
/r/seduction10/01/25 12:04 AM
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Never add women on Instagram without their consent unless you want to creep them out.
/r/seduction08/01/25 11:56 PM
1

DM me and we can talk about it
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:33 PM
1

I had seduced a co-worker but she was just alright then a hot new co-worker came in and I seduced her because, obviously. Well the alright co-worker and hot one became friends and I didn't last much longer with that organization unfortunately lol. Live and learn.
/r/seduction06/01/25 11:48 PM
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Actually like something about them and compliment that even if it's just that they stand out as being cool. Show and verbalize how you see her as special in some way. Also compliment them nonverbally. They can tell by body language, facial expressions, noises, and the way you look at them that you find them physically attractive.
/r/seduction04/01/25 09:35 PM
-1

100 % Learning game can save yourself so much time and heartache.
/r/seduction04/01/25 08:30 PM
16

Absolutely bro - live and learn. You now know you won't do that again
/r/seduction04/01/25 06:57 PM
2

No need to be socially anxious because you're at a bar alone. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. Choose to make it and see it as cool. Talk to everyone and enjoy yourself. Be comfortable with and enjoy your own company. If you decide you'd like to get a coach, I do virtual coaching sessions, have tailored programs and strategies, and provide the best possible resources.
/r/seduction04/01/25 01:36 PM
0

How do you stop thinking that? Because it's dumb and untrue.
/r/seduction04/01/25 01:08 AM
1

Man, why worry about a hypothetical situation? First take the steps necessary to actually get girls and then after you've done that, you can then deal with any hypothetical "worries" you have about negative feelings.
/r/seduction03/01/25 11:24 PM
2

I could be a fit. I'm a 35m certified life coach and I specialize in helping men with dating and relationships with beautiful, quality women. At this point, I've helped dozens of men get results (I can show you testimonials). I also have a book that will be released in about 3 weeks. We can schedule a free meeting and I can send you a copy of the book for free just DM me.
/r/seduction03/01/25 10:36 PM
3

Are you too busy to talk to her for like 15 minutes? I had a lot of success with cute Subway restaurant girls. I'd go in around a slow time (2-3pm) and flirt while they made my sandwich. Then I'd stand there at the register with my sub still talking to her until a customer came in. When that happened, I'd go fill up my drink while she served them, and come back to her after that to keep chatting.
/r/seduction03/01/25 02:47 PM
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If you start getting attractive girls, trust me, the resentment will be easy to let go of. In the midst of a naked woman in your bed, you won't be thinking about your missed opportunities in high school. And the sooner you start, the better. 22-year old men can still date and have sex with women in their late teens and early 20s without dealing with any social stigma. So my advice is to ask yourself, what are you willing to do to get the results you want?
/r/seduction03/01/25 02:42 PM
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Three main ones come to me. There's got to be a trendy place people go to shop/dine like an outdoor mall. Then there's recreational activities like run clubs, pickle ball, sand volleyball, book clubs, etc. Finally, seasonal events like charity organizations, street fairs, live music.
/r/seduction02/01/25 02:08 PM
2

I'd say you need a better day game traffic strategy.
/r/seduction01/01/25 08:58 PM
0

Yes I agree that's why I said "that's a big step"
/r/seduction31/12/24 10:20 PM
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I wrote a book on this exact thing that I'm publishing on Amazon in 3 weeks but I'll email it to you for free if you want to DM me your email address
/r/seduction31/12/24 09:31 PM
0

Hey man, I wrote a book and I coach guys to help them with this exact situation - plus you can try the coaching out and have the book for free - so definitely hit me up if you'd like to explore working with someone to help you get results with women.
/r/seduction31/12/24 09:25 PM
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I'm glad you feel better beginning to recognize that rejection isn't such a big deal. You're still alive. Everything is fine. Coming to that conclusion is a big step for sure. Now stop "seeking rejection" and learn some game because that line you're saying ain't gonna cut it.
/r/seduction31/12/24 02:30 AM
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That's a cute little line. I won't give you the exact conversations verbatim, but I can give you some topics you could structure another similar canned line around: where she's from, food preferences, tv/movie preferences, music taste, where they shop and buy, who/what they follow and what they post about on social media, where they like to travel, and what type of pets she has.
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:21 PM
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I used to consider and label myself as quiet, introverted and socially anxious as well, but what helped me stop identifying with those things so much was remembering the fact that I'm also really into murder mysteries and investigating perplexing things... so if you are anything like me, I'd suggest you lean into your curiosity. Be curious about people. They are likely leading an interesting life in some capacity, so find out what those interesting things about them are. That motivated me to app…
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:14 PM
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You need to open in a way that gets her out of her head and into the moment with you so make it intriguing and be able to carry the conversation initially. More importantly, control your physiological state. Women feel the same feelings you feel inside of you. If you're uncomfortable, you'll make them uncomfortable.
/r/seduction29/12/24 08:30 PM
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Have you ever asked yourself why you freeze up? Why you're so afraid? The amygdala, deep in our ancient brain, has been biologically programmed through evolution to warn us to not take social risks, because in most of human history, approaching women could be a life or death issue for men... But today? It's absolutely not. Approaching a woman will no longer lead to your death. You could be rejected, even in the most epically awful way, and it could "hurt" your ego, but you'll literally be able t…
/r/seduction29/12/24 08:27 PM
1

But he's read seduction books that didn't help so I'm wondering what worked/didn't work.
/r/seduction28/12/24 01:44 AM
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Before approaching, be cool, calm, and composed. If you feel too nervous, she will be infected by that energy, so control your state. If you feel really nervous, greet your anxiety (literally say out loud, "oh, hi anxiety, thank you for warning me, but I'm not in danger lol") and reframe it ("this is what excitement feels like") Approach her with a calm smile and say, "I seriously think you're the only person in this place that's my age". She'll smile and agree, then introduce yourself, shake he…
/r/seduction27/12/24 11:53 PM
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Great post. Virtually everyone has done something they can be proud of. They overcame a challenge or performed a project successfully. You can either elevate and emphasize these thing in your mind, or you can just always focus on the things that have happened that went wrong. How you think about yourself greatly determines how other people think of you.
/r/seduction26/12/24 02:43 PM
26

Yeah dating apps are trash. Sure, some small percentage of mid women might match and even agree to a date with you, but high quality women want to meet men organically.
/r/seduction25/12/24 08:57 PM
0

Yes your first mindset shift is to stop thinking women are above you. Your second mindset shift should be to understand how horny women get and how badly they want an attractive, masculine man to seduce them out of their clothes.
/r/seduction25/12/24 01:03 PM
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The post did not say looks do not matter. It said looks are unlikely the problem. Congratulations. You fixed an insecurity surrounding your appearance. There's a 100% chance that you built inner game through the confidence you felt after working hard in the gym. Building a physique is a form of self-respect. And it makes you feel better and believe you're in yourself more. And dressing well, hygiene, and grooming are behaviors, they're not determined by your genetic appearance. So yes, I'm sure …
/r/seduction25/12/24 12:55 PM
2

You should always have high standards for who you commit to, but your goals with women are subjective to what you want. Only you have the answer to this. Are you willing to walk away from a quality woman to spend this upcoming season of your life dating a variety of women? That's fine. Otherwise, it'll take time to find the right woman anyway, so yes, quantity and experience should be a byproduct for you if you're doing this thing right.
/r/seduction25/12/24 01:23 AM
3

Women (consciously or subconsciously) want to see if they can possess the most power in the relationship. If they can, they'll lose attraction. Buying them gifts, and other "nice guy" behaviors all the time gives them the power.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:41 PM
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Coffee shop - "This the go-to place for the office to take their coffee break?" "Is this headquarters for your office gang?" "Alright, you’ve got to help settle a debate for me, is this place better than Starbucks?" "You guys look like regulars, do you know the best drink to get?" "Looks like the coffee shop is where all the cool people hang out..." "You look like you’re brainstorming something big... can I throw in my random idea?" (and say something funny) "What's the vibe check here? We worki…
/r/seduction24/12/24 05:01 PM
1

My 2 cents... Pros: physiological state is strong. He's not nervous. He speaks slowly, deeply and calmly. He is clear about his intentions. He finds them 'beautiful and desirable' and doesn't think they should be offended by that fact. He's detached from outcome. He clearly has plenty of regular success with women, so these women rejecting his 'offer' wouldn't phase him one way or the other Cons: These girls showed indicators of interest before this approach. Most guys don't have the social proo…
/r/seduction24/12/24 03:10 PM
1

It's not strange or weird to talk to women you're interested in. Idk where these fucked up beliefs come from.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:06 PM
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I'm certain I've had more success with beautiful women than you and my wife, whom I approached, is gorgeous, funny, played D1 volleyball and is an MD... What's your awesome advice? Let women approach you? Online dating?
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:04 PM
1

Lmao you shouldn't be on here giving this bogus advice.
/r/seduction24/12/24 01:56 PM
2

It sounds like you've had opportunities to go initiate interactions and you haven't. Your excuse is that, "it's weird"? It's not weird dude. Humans are social creatures. Women even more so. But they don't initiate so it's our responsibility. You shouldn't have even hesitated. Once you saw her, go approach her and ask how she's been and what's new.
/r/seduction24/12/24 01:54 PM
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Extra points because approaching in person is rare and takes courage. Women are very attracted to men with the balls to boldly approach them.
/r/seduction24/12/24 01:51 PM
3

Women want to be approached in person, so take that information how you want.
/r/seduction24/12/24 01:48 PM
14

Why tf didn't you talk to her in person?! Online communication is like fighting with one hand behind your back. No clue why guys rely on it... Oh yeah, that's right, they rely on it because they're terrified of talking to women in person. Good luck getting women to want to fuck you when you are afraid of approaching them in person.
/r/seduction24/12/24 01:45 PM
1

The new way to be a gentleman is to be kind and respectful to people, but to embrace your masculine edge. Develop your edge in a way so that it is very clearly there and available to use, but something in which you're in total control of. Your mother didn't want you to have this edge, but you need it for women to want to fuck you. Some traits I'm talking about here would be to be dominant, selfish, don't gaf what people think of you, and definitely never let anyone walk all over you. Some traits…
/r/seduction24/12/24 12:38 AM
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Well said. Or it's like a woman being disappointed that men want youth, fitness, and beauty. An old, fat, ugly woman can complain all they want that it "isn't fair", but it is reality. Women want men with a masculine edge. I just typed a long text to a client about just this.
/r/seduction24/12/24 12:33 AM
1

Your beliefs about yourself are a problem. You first and foremost need to believe you're a catch. Body language is crucial. You need to be open, expanded, and carry yourself with authority (think to yourself 'I own this place') Opening/1st impression is always important. You need a strong physiological state (which is a feeling of calm confidence). If I was you, I'd playfully open by saying something like, "Uh oh, here's trouble. I'm not going to have to throw you out tonight, am I?" or even, "Y…
/r/seduction23/12/24 10:16 PM
11

Absolutely. I don't need iois when I see a woman I want... Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, and several times I've approached, I didn't think she was vibing with me, I walked away, then got iois from her a little later and approached again. Approaching is free. And it's much less risky than many men make it out to be.
/r/seduction23/12/24 04:43 PM
16

You've got to approach the group. A good way to do that is ask them in so many words what brings them "here"
/r/seduction23/12/24 02:42 PM
5

Step 1 - you're focusing so much on your appearance... You need to focus on your inner game and the way you behave.
/r/seduction23/12/24 01:23 PM
3

I'm really curious, what things are you hoping to learn from reading a seduction book exactly?
/r/seduction23/12/24 01:01 PM
6

Game = attraction = love
/r/seduction22/12/24 09:23 PM
1

Go ahead. Make a contribution. We're waiting
/r/seduction22/12/24 06:26 PM
1

"according to females" - that's your problem. Women's description of what they're attracted to is is frankly an extremely unreliable use of information. You can't believe what they say they want because what they respond to isn't a conscious process, it's a feeling.
/r/seduction22/12/24 05:10 PM
1

Most guys by definition are average-looking. Therefore behavior and game are absolutely going to help elevate you to being dateable.
/r/seduction22/12/24 01:24 PM
1

Dumbest shit ever. If anyone asks for anything without GIVING first, they'll get shut down. Shows how ignorant you are with women. You don't just walk up to them and confidently say, "Sex with me?" You need to demonstrate value first and that's done with exchanging positive emotions with them, like confidence, curiosity, and fun.
/r/seduction22/12/24 01:20 PM
2

No way to that statement "he did not change"... He fixed an insecurity of his, his energy and behavior improved. I don't care if it happened unconsciously. It happened.
/r/seduction22/12/24 02:48 AM
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There's a lot of information because there's a lot of uniqueness to where people start and where they want to go... I think of it as like people who want to lose weight. For some people, they just need to walk more and stop eating like shit. For other people, they have really high standards for their physique and they need detailed workout and diet plans.
/r/seduction21/12/24 10:11 PM
3

If it's a party and everyone is around for the long run just be outgoing let social interactions come organically using curiosity. Then make sure to eventually engage any women you like with that same conversation structure but add flirting
/r/seduction21/12/24 01:59 AM
2

Yeah the lie of physical attractiveness being the only way to demonstrate confidence is so ingrained in society it can really stir people up when they see something in the contrary. "How can this man have the AUDACITY to BEHAVE ATTRACTIVELY?! He's average at best!" Lmao... And of course it's pretty easy response to that person who doesn't like it. Whatever form of "idgaf about you" works.
/r/seduction20/12/24 04:19 PM
6

Thank you and I agree there's a skill to packaging in appearance, mainly being clean and rocking a fresh fit. Again, more controllables through behavior.
/r/seduction20/12/24 03:07 AM
17

All my dream, fantasy women, including my wife, I met via cold approach... My process - I'd define what "type" of woman I was looking for. When I recognized her out in public, it was like a beeline to her. I was not ashamed to demonstrate my interest. I conversed, flirted, and I lead them out of their clothes. This happened for me easily over 40 times probably 50 something times.
/r/seduction20/12/24 01:03 AM
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Sorry to hear about your friend. Make sure to address emotional wounds. "Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways". Congrats on your physique and height. A lot of guys would kill for that. But you're learning that it takes much more than your appearance to have consistent results and success with women. Your haircut is definitely not holding you back. What's holding you and most every other guy back from not having success with women is …
/r/seduction19/12/24 09:19 PM
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Strong, calm internal physiological state. Eye contact. Playful energy and sly smile... "That book you're reading must be really good..." "Why?" "You didn't even notice this super handsome guy trying to get your attention" She'll smile. She'll know you're approaching her man to woman. Then just ask her about her book.
/r/seduction18/12/24 02:06 PM
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Courtship is less fun and exciting for women when men spill out everything they're feeling and remove all the mystery and uncertainty of the situation. Besides the initial interaction (men must always approach), women want to pursue. They enjoy the process of chasing and "winning" a guy over. Like a cat and a string, the cat gets bored when you make the string easy to catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:56 PM
1

I'd much rather start with a cold read and directly demonstrate interest so she knows the deal... not bring up a boyfriend that I am pretending to know. That being said, what you say isn't as important as a lot of other factors, so I'm not saying it couldn't end up working fine, just that I'm not a fan of this strategy.
/r/seduction16/12/24 05:06 PM
1

After you use that line, then what?
/r/seduction16/12/24 01:20 PM
21

And women consciousnessly or subconsciously know/feel that men who rely on such passive, risk-free dating pursuits are less desirable than men who can approach and initiate them in person.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/24 07:31 PM
5

Blocking is the emotionally reactive and weak move imo
/r/seduction15/12/24 06:34 PM
3

Being fun is a mental attitude and internal state. You're in control of your attitude. The longer you stay in that fun, outgoing mindset all the time, the easier it'll be for it to come across with women. Make it a neurological habit. Then to make sure you have a fun internal state, when you begin to feel anxious in your body, greet it as coming from your amygdala (very unnecessary fear response), reframe it as excitement, breathe calmly, and smile.
/r/seduction15/12/24 03:59 PM
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Not a fan of this approach. I disagree with initiating a relationship using an indirect lie focused around a dumb topic. If she is in a relationship, she'll tell you.
/r/seduction15/12/24 03:43 PM
6

Most guys are mad horny. The way to fix it is learning the mating dance. You initiate contact, ideally positive eye contact first, but you can approach without it. Have amazing physiological state, walk up to her, intrigue her with an opener, show interest tactfully, converse but be able to disagree and push/pull, flirt, lead, escalate, logistics... That's it 🙂
/r/seduction15/12/24 01:41 PM
7

Call her out for being bored and try to figure out the reason.
/r/seduction15/12/24 02:06 AM
1

Good for you to grind keep hustling and consume interesting content to be well read.
/r/seduction15/12/24 12:41 AM
1

You're good, bud. Live an interesting life that she'd feel lucky to be a part of and then strategically invite her to do fun, interesting things she'd enjoy with you.
/r/seduction15/12/24 12:04 AM
2

Schedule dates near her place.
/r/seduction14/12/24 11:33 PM
1

Let her drive you two to dinner and after dinner suggest going straight to her place instead of picking up your car.
/r/seduction14/12/24 11:32 PM
2

Physiological state. I would say your bodily feelings would be the most important thing for you to strengthen to have success. If you feel certain, confident, comfortable in your own skin, and calm when you seduce women, most little behavioral things you need to do for women to be attracted to you will just manifest themselves naturally (like nonverbal communication, good conversation, escalation).
/r/seduction14/12/24 11:22 PM
5

Slowly move closer and closer to her until you're inside of her
/r/seduction14/12/24 01:53 PM
1

Hey yes DM me your email address.
/r/seduction13/12/24 05:14 PM
8

Men have it tougher. They have higher hurdles to clear to be accepted for a date and it costs more of their time, money, and energy to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:32 PM
3

Make an intriguing and playful fun observation about them that they can't really interpret as a good or bad thing but also be able to carry on the conversation and hold your confident vibe for the first few minutes because they'll be very shy. To carry on conversation be curious about what's going on with their life.
/r/seduction12/12/24 07:21 PM
3

Ask pretty girls at your school to staring contests
/r/seduction12/12/24 12:47 PM
0

When it comes to dating for men, what is there to be afraid of? Rejection? You might say being called a creep, or being wrongfully accused of something, but that doesn't happen to men who are just decently socially-calibrated. And therapists are helpful, but therapy is not the only path someone can take to overcome their insecurities. Trustworthy friends, coaches, mentors, and even being self-taught with books and online resources are also effective tools to build up your self-image and self-est…
/r/seduction11/12/24 06:31 PM
6

Psychopaths are violent. I'm not advocating for that. What I do encourage is develop a high sense of love and respect for yourself. To feel certain in handling any situations and the things you bring to the table. And to create a genuine reason to have confidence in yourself because of challenges you've overcome.
/r/seduction11/12/24 06:24 PM
25

You can stand out from other men by having an utter lack of insecurities. That's a rare and highly-attractive quality indeed.
/r/seduction11/12/24 01:46 PM
9

You absolutely can and should cold approach women purely on the basis that you find them attractive, but how you handle the approach needs to be smooth... The "Hi I just thought you were attractive, can I have your number?" is not going to work. You need to break the ice in an intriguing way, demonstrate clear interest in them to establish the man-to-woman dynamic (compliments can be on appearance, but again, not the generic "you're beautiful", say something unique and specific that makes them s…
/r/seduction11/12/24 01:19 PM
1

If you're not near home, why wouldn't you already have gotten a hotel?
/r/seduction11/12/24 03:17 AM
1

Ty for that DM me your email/your contact info
/r/seduction11/12/24 12:31 AM
1

Man or Woman - People with more standards are more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:45 PM
1

I'm currently in a place with my coaching business where I can be a personal dating coach for you. I can give you individualized feedback, guidance, and support. I have resources like my book, breakdowns of popular dating strategies, and scripts. I'd be happy to schedule a free virtual session with you and take it from there. Today is my 60th straight day on reddit, I have many posts you can look through to see if it might be a fit. Feel free to DM me and anyone else reading this can DM me as we…
/r/seduction10/12/24 10:30 PM
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My opinion is she's probably not looking to get involved with a guy who goes out of town for weeks at a time. Keep it casual and low pressure and she may come around to it, though.
/r/seduction10/12/24 08:25 PM
1

Books can't observe and correct the subconscious behaviors people have that they're unaware of and are sabotaging them so there's definitely value in getting personalized feedback. I mean, there's a hundred books on becoming a better basketball player, written by the best players to ever play the game, but the best still have a personal coaches. Why do you think that is? Having a knowledgeable 3rd party provide guidance and support can supercharge someone's results.
/r/seduction10/12/24 05:02 PM
3

Do you actually want to run every day?? If you're changing who you are for a woman, that's the opposite of attractive.
/r/seduction10/12/24 04:43 PM
1

Feel free to hit me up bro... Just send me her profile so I can give some relevant advice
/r/seduction09/12/24 10:37 PM
3

Absolutely it's available for everyone. I'll DM you.
/r/seduction09/12/24 10:30 PM
2

I'll DM you
/r/seduction09/12/24 10:18 PM
2

I can send you over my book for free and also give you detailed notes from some of the top books on dating and seduction if you are interested. I just ask for your feedback.
/r/seduction09/12/24 09:55 PM
1

just continue to connect and find a good time to try again. Some tips would be to first have good breath, then to make sure you're physically close to each other so you're already within kissing distance, go for a kiss at a high moment, maybe you made her laugh or smile, or she made you laugh or smile, look down at her lips, lick your lips, read her and see if she's looking down at yours, move in slowly and read if she recoils or responds.
/r/seduction09/12/24 07:49 PM
5

Engaging in conversation and banter is to add fun and excitement to her situation. It's a good thing... so "demanding her engagement" isn't necessary nor the way to describe it. If men aren't successfully adding positive emotions to women with their conversation and banter, they probably need to learn how to.
/r/seduction09/12/24 02:19 AM
3

Just be able to disagree with her. A lot of guys agree and compliment everything she does/looks like/says (pushes) ... But the disagreement is the pull and it excites them.
/r/seduction09/12/24 02:13 AM
8

"demanding her number"? Without any conversation or banter? I do not recommend that nor would I call that confidence.
/r/seduction09/12/24 01:42 AM
2

Here's a start... Assume every 2 set you approach is already down for it
/r/seduction08/12/24 02:33 PM
7

Treat it like a date. Make moves and expect her to receive them well. Imagine you're already sleeping with her.
/r/seduction08/12/24 02:32 AM
7

I promise it can be possible for you to get results with closer, better women.
/r/seduction07/12/24 07:11 PM
4

My experience is that it's cool to keep the friend around... If she's bored, she'll leave. If the woman you like wants to be isolated, she'll make it happen. You can also invite them both to go somewhere else and dance... But the most important reason is for the chance of a 3some.
/r/seduction07/12/24 01:38 PM
1

There are a lot of other factors of that go into attraction, my guy. Showing curiosity wasn't your problem. It was probably something else.
/r/seduction07/12/24 01:22 PM
21

The best tidbit from this story is being patient with physical escalation and letting it come super naturally when things are going well. Yes, us men are expected to make all the first moves, but when the vibe is good, the longer you wait to escalate, the more anticipation you're building. That being said, you could have escalated sooner and things probably would have been fine.
/r/seduction07/12/24 01:17 PM
1

Lol my advice is don't waste time on a lost cause.
/r/seduction06/12/24 09:50 PM
1

If her impression of you is "lacks courage" then it's going to be tough to overcome that
/r/seduction06/12/24 09:27 PM
1

You really think attractive women entertain random stranger guys that approach them online?! Sorry dude... That's not how this process works.
/r/seduction06/12/24 07:57 PM
2

My local newspaper always listed a bunch of events, social media groups made up of people who lived in my town, and I had a friend who always seemed to know some cool things happening in our area as well.
/r/seduction06/12/24 12:48 AM
2

I'd say more of an hours/week. Let's just say I'd shoot for 8 hours. If I was "out" for 8 hours on a Saturday, I wouldn't feel the need to go out much on weekdays. But if my weekend was busy with work, I'd want to go out for a few hours on a few weekdays that week if that makes sense.
/r/seduction06/12/24 12:45 AM
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My system was to look at various things happening in my area that I'd like to attend, or places that I'd like to go - whether there would be women there or not. I might invite a buddy to go with me, but I enjoyed my own company plenty enough to go anywhere solo. Go to places you'd enjoy, enjoy yourself, and when/if you see a woman there that intrigues you, don't hesitate, go introduce yourself and ask her what brought her to that location.
/r/seduction05/12/24 11:23 PM
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I think by investment he's really talking about neediness. Guys who are bring a high-investment into the outcome with a woman behave very needy. They're desperate for her attention and affection (probably because they operate in scarcity). Guys who are low-investment into the outcome with a woman have the attractive energy of being already whole and content. They operate in abundance with plenty of options among women. So they may like and pursue women, but they don't come off like they *need* h…
/r/seduction04/12/24 09:49 PM
2

if you can't run into her "accidentally" somewhere in public, then your best bet is adding her using the excuse that your friend recommend for you to connect with her for some type of career/networking/opportunity purposes.
/r/seduction04/12/24 09:42 PM
2

All you can do is do things that women find attractive. Tease, flirt, but be nonchalant like you don't care about her and you're content with your situation
/r/seduction04/12/24 02:54 PM
3

Approach women without even wanting their numbers. Just approach them because you like their vibes. Tell them you like their vibes and try to vibe with them for as long as you can. That might mean you vibe all the way into the bedroom! What I'm saying is if you successfully vibe, exchanging socials or a number should just feel really natural.
/r/seduction03/12/24 09:09 PM
14

"Get used to it bc I'm going to be keeping you on your toes😏"
/r/seduction03/12/24 08:46 PM
2

Not much context here like... How'd you meet? Why's she intrigued with you? How can you tell? What led her to asking what she asked? Not knowing that information prevents me from knowing if I'm giving you the best advice possible... That being said, one solid path you could absolutely take is to move on and see if she comes back. Another path you could go down would be to say something like, "oh you'll see... I always get whatever I set my mind to 😈" How she responds to that message would give y…
/r/seduction03/12/24 08:41 PM
3

Yeah personal tastes are subjective and people, especially men, can become more or less attractive based on the way they behave.
/r/seduction03/12/24 12:32 PM
1

Been there. You can use it, but don't neglect the massive benefits of meeting women in person.
/r/seduction03/12/24 01:58 AM
2

"Just a bit better than average" women over-inflate their value. Meet some super-beautifully-intimidating women IN-PERSON and you'll be surprised at how down-to-earth they can be compared to "just a bit better than average" women that you meet ONLINE.
/r/seduction03/12/24 01:47 AM
3

When men choose ONLINE DATING in the year 2025, they better understand how high of a bar they have to clear for women to be impressed with them... OP's example illustrates another reason why it's best for men approach women IN-PERSON. Meeting in-person allows both the man and woman to know INSTANTLY and with near CERTAINTY whether they feel attracted to each other or not, which saves everyone time, money, and heartache (like getting ghosted and catfished).
/r/seduction03/12/24 01:44 AM
4

Get a good, fun, flirty conversation going then just move closer and closer physically to her until you're eventually touching each other. Maybe that's legs, arms, torsos, etc. If you're sitting across from each other, then suggest going for a walk or finding a new place to sit so you can be next to her. If she's not moving farther away as you're moving closer to her, then keep getting close with her. Touch her more often. Then wait for a good moment to kiss. Kiss well enough and she'll be horny…
/r/seduction02/12/24 03:04 PM
1

I struggled with the same thing. I DM'd you.
/r/seduction02/12/24 12:42 AM
14

Shy and/or nervous can look like annoyed
/r/seduction30/11/24 12:49 PM
11

Without a lot of context you might be coming across like you're trying to hard. Idk how you communicate. What's your nonverbal communication like? Tone and speed of voice? Body language? Do you cut in at awkward times? Being cocky funny has to come from a place of genuine masculine confidence. Being comfortable, cool, calm, collected. You might need to work on your delivery and where your words are coming from. Women can tell when a guy is trying too hard.
/r/seduction30/11/24 11:13 AM
1

Learn to provide 10 times more context
/r/seduction30/11/24 01:51 AM
2

I have several clients that I meet with virtually using Google meet. Real discussions provide the richest source of information. But I also have a lot of resources I grant them access to like my book and courses and do DM coaching as well.
/r/seduction29/11/24 10:03 PM
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Don't use texting to have long convos. Spike excitement and get out. Leave them wanting more.
/r/seduction29/11/24 09:59 PM
2

Not in New England but been having success with virtual coaching sessions. Feel free to hmu.
/r/seduction29/11/24 09:49 PM
1

You vibe in person but they aren't interested over text?My guess is you're not vibing as well as you think. But when you text, just try not to be boring. Give her what she wants through texting - emotional excitement and intrigue.
/r/seduction29/11/24 09:25 PM
5

Hey I'd be happy to work with you! This is my passion. I'm a former personal trainer and now certified life coach that specializes in dating, sex and relationships for men so I will take a comprehensive approach to helping you get the results you want. Because I'm newer, I'm offering a special for December: get 3 live virtual coaching sessions, access to my eBook, all my resources, and unlimited DM coaching for just $69. And, you don't have to even pay until after our first session and you are t…
/r/seduction29/11/24 09:15 PM
2

Oh I see. Yes women care about how a conversation makes them feel, not whether they walk away with a logical solution to what they're going through
/r/seduction29/11/24 01:29 PM
1

Attraction does need an air of mystery and uncertainty
/r/seduction29/11/24 12:07 PM
2

How old do you look and act? Are you grandpa vibes? Or cool older bro vibes? Have you tried to flip the script and reframe the situation? "You're probably too young for me I usually don't date immature women"
/r/seduction29/11/24 12:05 PM
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After teaching myself, I've now been coaching guys how to do just this for the last 18 months. Would you be interested in checking out my book, resources, and/or getting on a live virtual coaching call? (No cost for anything unless you decide to want to work together)
/r/seduction29/11/24 12:01 PM
5

You have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction28/11/24 09:03 PM
1

Nice I do like that advice as a way to weed out catfishes. And make her message you there right in IG so you know for she's not sending you to some other girls profile? lol.
/r/seduction27/11/24 07:24 PM
8

You're traveling as a gringo in LATAM so that's why you're cleaning up with OLD. Most men are living and working in the same area they have for years. They don't have a brand new pool of women to swipe, and especially a brand new pool of women who would find an average westerner as anything special like in LATAM. You told us the horror story of not being able to out-game possessive guys, but how about the horror stories of catfishes. How many of your OLD really look as good as their pictures? I …
/r/seduction27/11/24 07:13 PM
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Feeling good enough is exactly the energy women need to see though, bro. Catchphrase to remember is "If you don't love yourself, why would anyone else?" It's a decision you make and train your brain to think and believe. You've been hypnotized by your social conditioning to believe you're not enough. But that's simply a lie to keep you an insecure and compliant cog in our free market economy. Men who are insecure spend money and work for lower wages so what you feel is choreographed by the socia…
/r/seduction26/11/24 05:57 PM
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I recommend learning what women want and why then learning what behaviors and actions can give it to them. There's books about this. I wrote one. DM me if you're interested.
/r/seduction26/11/24 01:44 PM
5

It's 80% psychology, 20% skill
/r/seduction26/11/24 12:58 PM
0

"yeah my head says to take things slow too but isn't your body saying something different?"
/r/seduction26/11/24 12:12 PM
3

Not online. Think of your ideal partner. She probably has similar interests as you, right? How would you and your hypothetical partner spend weekends? Try those places.
/r/seduction26/11/24 01:45 AM
1

Script would bring you into your head so ideally you've internalized how to communicate so you don't have to think, it comes naturally.
/r/seduction26/11/24 12:33 AM
1

I just edited my response. Give her an action step. Let's blank after this. If it's a no, let's exchange contact info and blank.
/r/seduction26/11/24 12:24 AM
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First of all, good job trying. Let me tell you this, being in your head isn't where you should be. You need to be very in tune to your bodily feelings. Remember nonverbal communication is huge. You'll manifest the right facial expressions, tone, body language, etc if your physiological state (bodily feelings) is on point. Then after you compliment her, have a action plan. Something like, "You're very blank, can I buy you a smoothie after this?"
/r/seduction26/11/24 12:21 AM
2

Nonverbal communication such as body language and tone of voice is truly key. Add to that compliments and these are considerably important foundational principles.
/r/seduction26/11/24 12:03 AM
1

You're going to need to be simultaneously totally content/happy with your life/yourself independent of anyone or anything else... and also show enthusiasm toward the woman you're approaching. All that to say, if you can't demonstrate those two things, you need a coach (cheaper, more pragmatic and results-based) or a therapist (more expensive and theoretical) to work through your issues.
/r/seduction25/11/24 11:39 PM
2

When demand drops, pull back on supply. Live a life where she's like priority #27
/r/seduction25/11/24 02:06 PM
1

Can you expand?
/r/seduction25/11/24 12:32 PM
1

Awesome I'm happy to hear that
/r/seduction24/11/24 05:26 PM
1

Context?
/r/TheRedPill24/11/24 02:35 PM
1

I'm hearing something needs to change for you to experience different results. And I believe you honestly don't know what you don't know so that's actually a good job for someone like me - a life coach. I'll send you a DM (and for the people who like to downvoted this invitation I don't charge anything unless we both agree we want to work regularly together).
/r/seduction24/11/24 02:03 PM
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For me, it was male rap music artists who promoted and glamorized success with women as the standard in which I should strive for.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 01:39 PM
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Make it about the other person. Show genuine curiosity about them and what interests them. People always like to talk about themselves and what they do and like.
/r/seduction24/11/24 01:12 PM
3

Proceed with caution. Do something wrong with a woman you work with and all women in the office will know.
/r/seduction24/11/24 01:02 PM
1

Oh I see. No worries. Good luck man.
/r/seduction23/11/24 04:52 PM
1

There's not a one-size-fits-all technique but if you want to DM me I can chat with you and find out some more info to give you more clarity.
/r/seduction23/11/24 03:39 PM
2

Seduction is two people becoming comfortable with one another, moving closer and closer until one ends up inside of the other. Seduction is about shining a light on someone the way they want it to be shined on them
/r/seduction23/11/24 02:36 PM
1

"never" works? It's worked for me dozens of times and I'm pretty average looking. a. You haven't tried it enough times b. You are not doing it right
/r/seduction23/11/24 01:21 PM
2

That's the ticket
/r/seduction23/11/24 01:20 PM
1

It's tough no matter what you look like but once you figure it out, amazing things can happen... If you're talking about openers, use an environment opener which is an observation making a comment or question about the location, situation. Bring positive fun energy. Don't stick around too long in a group but make eyes with the girl you like. If you want additional advice dm me
/r/seduction23/11/24 12:49 PM
1

Pretty girls by themselves? Very rare. Expand to approaching groups
/r/seduction23/11/24 03:02 AM
1

No that's a good thing
/r/seduction22/11/24 09:05 PM
2

Targets near colleges
/r/seduction22/11/24 04:46 PM
4

Target and TJ Maxx regularly have some talent doing some shopping
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:35 PM
1

Depending on body language, I won't give up when she says that. I'll playfully say, "if it turns out he's not the one, we better exchange contacts just in case, don't you think? If he ever cheats, you can use me to get back at him", or, "do you have a sister? Because your parents clearly made beautiful children." I have like a 10-20% success rate on those follow up questions.
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:51 PM
1

I love that. Fear of regret is more powerful than fear of rejection for you.
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:48 PM
1

So you aren't approaching enough or not approaching well enough. Do you feel anxiety when you approach women?
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:47 PM
1

Yes that's a good frame too. Perception is reality and with something like getting rejected, you can really choose perceive it however you want. It's not delusional to not take it personally.
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:41 PM
7

That could be true. It's also impossible for someone to be unanimously attractive to 100% of a population
/r/seduction22/11/24 02:02 AM
3

Are you letting them feel your boner?
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:01 AM
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You can meet early 20s but you need to do it without the "knowledge" of if she's in college or not ykwim?
/r/seduction21/11/24 11:01 PM
1

Are you making out with them?
/r/seduction21/11/24 10:52 PM
0

Compliment a non physical characteristic at first. Feel free to compliment her with your eyes and smile, cultivating positive eye contact If things start well, compliment her beauty this time, subtly with your eyes. Women can read what you're thinking and feeling so you can compliment their beauty without explicitly speaking it.
/r/seduction21/11/24 08:37 PM
1

Here's a tip - Think of the flaws they most definitely have
/r/seduction21/11/24 06:45 PM
1

Yeah if you've already interacted with her, just casually approach with positive, masculine energy, "Hey, how's it been?"
/r/seduction20/11/24 06:58 PM
20

Holy $#%/ are you serious?! Please for the love of God don't be like this 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️
/r/seduction20/11/24 01:35 AM
2

First tip is to pursue hobbies and interests you enjoy where you'll meet other people with those same hobbies and interests. Second tip is to check out areas where a lot of people congregate.
/r/seduction19/11/24 09:55 PM
1

With positive eye contact (smiling, relaxed) "hey" - then nothing. Hold space. See what she does/says. Probably just "hi" back but that alone can be so baller because so many guys start chatting up too eagerly and quickly, so being cool with a simple "hey" as your opener shows you're cool with yourself. Then after dropping your nuts with that, a simple, "so, what do you do?" should suffice to spark a convo.
/r/seduction19/11/24 04:59 PM
1

Yup my favorite first dates were gym dates (I had unlimited guest pass to show high value lol), shooting some hoops, throwing the frisbee, then dropping down the tailgate with a cooler of drinks in front of a nice sunset.
/r/seduction19/11/24 04:10 PM
5

The thought was there... I would have complimented her vibe is too cool for 9-5 instead of "too pretty"
/r/seduction19/11/24 12:35 PM
1

I'm a fan of trying to generate some sexual tension in between dates but definitely don't talk about anything boring
/r/seduction19/11/24 12:33 PM
13

If you deeply believe you'll be rejected and laughed at, you probably will If you deeply believe you'll make her day by introducing yourself, you probably will. That's the power of self-belief. (not guaranteed to get a date, but women can feel your self-belief so work on really loving yourself and everything you bring to the table)
/r/seduction19/11/24 10:06 AM
1

How's your eye contact with her been? If you haven't yet, the first step is cultivate positive eye contact for a decently prolonged period time paired with a smile. If she smiles back and holds some eye contact, that would be a good small step in the right direction. From there, just add value to the social dynamics with the group of friends and when the opportunity arises where the two of you are isolated, give her a compliment and ask if she'd like to ever hang out in a more date-like setting …
/r/seduction19/11/24 12:58 AM
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Instead of spending your time and effort in the cesspool of online dating (dealing with fakes, flakes, ghosts, catfishes, OF models, and now AI robots) I highly suggest you spend your time developing cold approach game. With the right mindset and strategies, you'll be able to effortlessly meet and attract women in just a few months.
/r/seduction18/11/24 05:45 PM
11

Absolutely... Yet many ignorant men look at a study that says women don't find very many men attractive but fail to realize women NEED MORE than just physical traits to be attracted or not. Men can look at a picture and boom, they're down for sex with her no matter what her mind or personality is like. Women cannot do the same. Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:53 PM
2

Unscientific how? Are you an expert of female attraction science?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:37 PM
2

This should be a PSA. Well done
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:34 PM
3

Since you've only had superficial small talk, your next step should be to go deep with her. Have a conversation that connects which is getting her to talk about what lights her up in life. That could be a passion, career, a goal she's working toward. Then go deeper into past positive childhood experiences. Make sure you let her do the talking. Be a great listener. In that conversation what will ideally happen is she will begin to fall for you in which case you should ask her on a date.
/r/seduction17/11/24 01:32 PM
2

Great question and I'd probably need to chat with you more to give the most well-informed advice possible, but I think you should try approaching some beautiful women with full intention of rejecting them. Always approach women with the attitude "just because you're cute doesn't mean you're good enough for my high standards". Internalize that you're the prize and no one gets you unless they're -beautiful inside and out -they fully appreciate everything you bring to the table I'd be happy to chat…
/r/seduction17/11/24 12:34 PM
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By flipping the script and being the low-effort one; content with your life to the point you know you truly don't need any woman to be happy and that it's their loss if they miss out on everything you bring to the table because you're a real catch
/r/seduction17/11/24 12:44 AM
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Answering your title question - yes you can find quality women at bars but pay close attention to the way they behave. Are they sloppy? Smart when they talk? How do they look beyond the makeup? Even though men must approach women, they should also reject women.
/r/seduction16/11/24 11:33 PM
0

Think about it like this, women have hundreds if not thousands of men who they could message for sex and get it in 20 minutes... What makes you special or different from any of those other hundreds/thousands of men?
/r/seduction16/11/24 07:04 PM
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"sorry babe, I'm not that easy... I've got to like a girl first before I buy her a drink. But I will say, if you can dance, that will help your chances"
/r/seduction16/11/24 03:10 PM
0

I've written an excellent modern-day book on getting beautiful women and also have multiple resources like book summaries and courses in a private online group where I provide unlimited 1-1 coaching that's all less than the cost of a Chipotle burrito if you're interested.
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:14 PM
1

I've made it my mission to fix that. I do 1-1 coaching and have tons of helpful content and action plans to share with you.
/r/seduction16/11/24 11:57 AM
7

I think there's partners who can be a win/win. That compliment your life and add way more than subtract... The question is would you be that partner for a high quality woman?
/r/seduction16/11/24 03:49 AM
6

You've been hypnotized since you were young that you are not enough. It's a lie. Your value and worth are maximum. Unlimited. All people are totally, completely valuable and worthy of good things. Be kinder to yourself. If your pet could talk and was saying these things about themselves, what would you say back to them. (And you are much more valuable than your pet)
/r/seduction15/11/24 10:23 PM
1

Success is lower than 50%, I agree. But you find out in 1-5 minutes, not 5 days. You can do 100 five-ish minute approaches in n the same time this guy gets 1 online date.
/r/seduction15/11/24 01:48 PM
1

It's not when you know how to effectively meet them in person... This guy gets a date in 7.5 hours of work, I've hooked up with dozens of attractive women within less than 75 minutes. Here's how it goes... -See a girl you find special (1 minute) -Approach properly (5 minutes) -Make her feel special (5 minutes) -Make her feel comfortable (5 minutes) -Escalate proximity and touch until tongue in mouth (15 minutes)
/r/seduction15/11/24 12:55 PM
2

Online dating starts the whole male/female dynamics on the wrong foot... Be a bold, charming, confident man who approaches and sweeps women off their feet like our grandfather's... Not swipe right on them like a shotgun
/r/seduction15/11/24 01:14 AM
1

Check your settings.. It doesn't let me. My DMs should be open
/r/seduction15/11/24 12:12 AM
1

Sent
/r/seduction14/11/24 08:13 PM
2

I agree with the difficulties of online dating... I think deep down women want to be romantically swept off their feet by a man they meet in person. A man who they can say "it was love at first sight", not "it was love at first swipe, right there sitting on the toilet"
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:21 PM
2

"eating you from the inside" is not the energy you want to bring to the table, that's for sure. Women love masculine men who have plenty of dating and romantic success... These type of men are usually in VERY good moods (because of all the dating success). Therefore women love men in good moods.
/r/seduction14/11/24 03:50 PM
2

Women can supernaturally sense and decode what you're thinking and feeling sometimes better than you can on your own... Were there any thoughts or feelings you had of being not fully present/ in your head? Or negative feelings or energy in your body of some type of bad vibes?
/r/seduction14/11/24 03:04 PM
2

Those are long dates. Leave them wanting more. But my guess is you've got a blind spot somewhere in the way you act or behave that's turning women off. Most likely culprit is being needy or desperate, or perhaps being disingenuous, or perhaps they only get the sense you care about sex, or you're insecure about something and not strong emotionally
/r/seduction14/11/24 02:39 PM
5

The feelings you feel inside of you get transferred to women.... She got anxious and nervous because you felt anxious and nervous. You need to get that under control. If you are interested in getting help for that, feel free to DM me, I can send you some strategies
/r/seduction14/11/24 02:35 PM
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Women get turned on by "bad boys" because at least bad boys lean into their masculinity. They're bold, unapologetic, dominant, confident, polarizing, don't give af about the opinions of others, among other things, which is why women are drawn to them. But the way bad boys act is not sustainable for a relationship. Men need to be like bad boys but less egocentric, narcissistic, and rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:22 PM
2

Yes but be aware that they are there to workout... Confirm you're not interested in interrupting her workout but you have to introduce yourself and shoot your shot because you found her particularly captivating.
/r/seduction14/11/24 12:41 PM
1

I'll dm you
/r/seduction14/11/24 12:19 PM
3

Because it's not a one size fits all solution... I take unique aspects of a guys strengths, weaknesses, personality, needs, wants, blindspots, etc to create a personalized plan
/r/seduction14/11/24 03:25 AM
1

You need to read her. Her eyes first. Is she making positive eye contact? Smiling at all? Then body. Is she moving closer? Is she responding positively to your touch? For escalation, think of it as one step forward, one back. Keep some distance and mystery. Women enjoy chasing men who are hard to read (hot/cold, yes/no, up/down)
/r/seduction14/11/24 01:31 AM
-2

Absolutely not mad. My greatest wish in life is for men to be empowered and uplifted no matter how that happens... I'm pretty good at helping but happy for all people supporting men
/r/seduction14/11/24 12:18 AM
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My screen time is 40 hrs/wk. 80% work, 10% fantasy football & sports gambling, 10% pokemon. What's yours?
/r/seduction13/11/24 10:53 PM
8

Overcoming that fear is exactly what women find attractive... Feel free to DM me if you want a solid strategy and support on the path to get the results you want.
/r/seduction13/11/24 10:51 PM
3

The best place to find a wife is going to be wherever makes YOU happiest and most content to be... Women like men who live life on their terms. Guys who are leaders of their lives. So don't pick a city for anyone else, pick a city for yourself. Make decisions for YOUR best interests. THAT'S what's attractive. If you need any specific guidance or support on your journey feel free to DM me.
/r/seduction13/11/24 10:46 PM
2

Have you always been a big reader? Would you say that's one of your top hobbies? Then dive into her experience with reading or segue to her other interests and passions.
/r/seduction13/11/24 09:09 PM
2

You do need to chill. You're acting so butthurt because some girl stood you up. I can actually see why she did.
/r/seduction13/11/24 07:55 PM
1

Chill.. understand it takes more work and effort for women to "go out" than it does for men.
/r/seduction13/11/24 07:27 PM
25

Just to be clear, you're saying 7.5 hours of work for 1 date is a good ratio
/r/seduction13/11/24 07:25 PM
2

You might not be "Instagram attractive"... Thankfully for you though, over the last several million years, primate's have not evolved to experience attraction on Instagram, but in person.
/r/seduction13/11/24 02:36 PM
15

Why not pursue single dads?
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:42 PM
2

I just did a quick Google search. Plenty of resources. Read this... https://www.avacarmichael.com/the-top-20-business-networking-groups-for-women-entrepreneurs/
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:39 PM
2

Lol oh! That's an interesting problem to think about... I'd go to professional networking events for women and meet girl bosses.
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:29 PM
1

Are you male or female?
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:20 PM
1

I'm a life coach that, with questions and discussions and guidance and advice, can help you get to the bottom of these things if you're interested a full month of unlimited working with me is currently only 9 bucks
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:17 PM
1

I know you said that about yourself but it's always hard to see the forest for the trees. It's hard to tell where you're tripping up because you're in the situation. Well, I know one area you're making mistakes, that's pursuing and entertaining relationships with women below your standards.
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:12 PM
2

Short answer: be the partner you want to attract. Long answer: I'm too lazy to type it all out here but I'm happy to chat with you via DM
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:08 PM
1

Hey if you want some real help with life I'd be happy to. DM me.
/r/seduction12/11/24 11:06 PM
1

Because they don't want to be the initiator, they want to be pursued and seduced by a man with the confidence and courage to lead and escalate. They are the shy, risk-averse sex and they're attracted to men who are bold enough to make first moves.
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:53 PM
1

You don't know how to talk to women? Ask questions and do things that prove you're listening. Flirt. Escalate.
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:47 PM
3

Because women love sex. LOVE IT...! They can't really admit it because they don't want to seem naughty or slutty... But they want to F*CK. If you're a guy that can't touch them, then you can't give them what they want.
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:44 PM
1

Stand closer and closer together until your arms/elbows or legs/knees touch. If she doesn't recoil to that, just sit there with each other rubbing extremities... Next step is to lean in and place hand on her upper back, again, no recoil, you can keep it there.
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:39 PM
5

It's easy when you touch them because you can literally feel their reaction inside their body. If it gets tense, no bueno. If it feels calm and relaxed, you're onto something.
/r/seduction12/11/24 10:03 PM
1

I wasn't there but I'm guessing you have a weakness in your game you're oblivious to
/r/seduction12/11/24 09:44 PM
1

Know a handful of good open ended questions to ask (her life, her passions, her biggest interests, her career, her childhood) and when she's talking, pay attention to words that have emotional meaning to her. You'll know the words the way she emphasizes them. Maybe a tone changes, a pause, etc. Then repeat that word/phrase verbatim as a question. For example, she says she loves visiting the beach. All you say back to her is "The beach?". And she'll continue talking and explaining herself why she…
/r/seduction12/11/24 09:00 PM
2

Know a handful of good open ended questions to ask (her life, her passions, her biggest interests, her career, her childhood) and when she's talking, pay attention to words that have emotional meaning to her. You'll know the words the way she emphasizes them. Maybe a tone changes, a pause, etc. Then repeat that word/phrase verbatim as a question. For example, she says she loves visiting the beach. All you say back to her is "The beach?". And she'll continue talking and explaining herself why she…
/r/seduction12/11/24 09:00 PM
4

Day game, night game, anything in person absolutely works. And it works way better than online dating. What happens is you approach the right woman with the right vibes, which really isn't that rare or hard to do, and she'll talk with you. Probably be happy to. Then you can chat in a way that connects, flirt and escalate, pass her shit tests, and eventually sleep with her. I did it at 50 times in my life.
/r/seduction12/11/24 06:30 PM
1

Why do women do this? It's because they aren't attracted to men who are easily won over. That's a signal to them that he's low value. High value men make women chase them, and that's the kind of men women are attracted to.
/r/seduction12/11/24 03:46 PM
2

If she senses you don't have other options, she will lose attraction.
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:36 PM
3

Too many to list starting in puberty through my mid 20s
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:27 PM
2

Cure to awkwardness for me is genuine curiosity about someone. People love to talk about themselves and feel heard and validated. Ask good questions about interests, hobbies, passions, past pleasant experiences. Branch off of those topics. And when you're really stumped about what to say, use echo technique.
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:17 PM
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Signals are easy. Is she looking in your eyes? Smiling? Standing with hips open toward you? Is she standing closer to you? Is she treating you differently than her friends? Or is she avoiding those things? Not fully present? If so, walk away. And who cares if you get rejected? It only hurts your ego and men who run their lives based on their ego are big b1tches
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:15 PM
1

Deep-rooted psychological issues - You have insecurities. An intense desire to be accepted and not big enough balls to get rejected. The desperation is potent and repulsive. Skills issues - you don't know what to think, feel, do, or say when encountered with the opportunity to engage with beautiful women. I teach and support men as they learn how to overcome these things and more if you're interested DM me.
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:10 PM
2

Hmm.. The feminine thing to do is want attention and men being feminine is unattractive to women. So when you grow some balls and stop giving af about what people think of you, that's when women will lust more for you.
/r/seduction12/11/24 12:38 PM
0

Own your masculine desires for poon tang bro
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:04 AM
0

Own your masculine desires for pussy bro
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:04 AM
1

It's a good thing you understand it takes a mindset shift. Most men who struggle with women have something wrong with their psychology. After you get that squared away, you also need skills. Conversational skills, flirting skills, escalation skills. With the right guidance and support, you can achieve real results with women through cold approach. I actually offer guidance and support if you're interested feel free to DM me.
/r/seduction11/11/24 07:27 PM
2

Learn to have conversations that connect. Go deep into her passions and interests. Pull out positive childhood memories. Use echo technique, using her words and phrases right back to her.
/r/seduction11/11/24 06:48 PM
1

Targeting a niche that sweats the cost of buying Ubers or using regular hotel apps... Probably not a valuable target market
/r/seduction10/11/24 07:44 PM
2

Totally depends on how long it's happening. I wouldn't do it while they're actively dancing. That's lame.
/r/seduction10/11/24 06:25 PM
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First piece of advice - online dating is garbage. Guys can confirm attraction based on a photograph but women cannot. Not even close to how human women have evolved to generate attraction. Second piece of advice - if you insist on trying to find dates online, be so fun and interesting, provide so much positive fun texting, that they initiate the dating and meeting in person.
/r/seduction10/11/24 01:58 PM
0

Your issue is either one of two things(or combination of both) Skills or psychology
/r/seduction10/11/24 04:17 AM
4

Nervous became a signal or cue I used to train me to take immediate, bold action.
/r/seduction10/11/24 04:16 AM
3

I see that for sure and I agree, it can be risky. But it can also be handled tactfully. Sleep with the work woman and politely shift away with that very excuse, "I do like you but I think it's better to stay friends since we work together". And you only see worst case with the gym girls. The optimistic viewpoint is they'll enjoy hooking up with you and their friends will see you as more attractive through that social proof /preselection
/r/seduction10/11/24 04:07 AM
5

Approach any woman you want, just don't make it sexual right away.
/r/seduction10/11/24 12:51 AM
2

Did it ever?
/r/seduction09/11/24 10:58 PM
1

Why?
/r/seduction09/11/24 09:05 PM
9

If you genuinely enjoy yourself, just feeling really good, being happy, and dancing, you'll have more success
/r/seduction09/11/24 08:52 PM
5

Be good at dancing
/r/seduction09/11/24 08:50 PM
0

How could you properly love yourself?
/r/seduction09/11/24 08:37 PM
1

Like maybe a list of unattractive and attractive behaviors?
/r/seduction09/11/24 05:06 PM
1

Being attractive as a man is mostly a way of behaving.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:35 PM
1

I wonder how genuinely you came across to her. Were you just focusing on using techniques on her or did you reveal the real you? Obviously I recommend most of these techniques, but if it doesn't seem like the real you, then I can see why you failed.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:34 PM
1

"you're amazing but the vibes not quite right for me so I'll be honest I'm more down for friendship"
/r/seduction09/11/24 05:36 AM
3

Absolutely. A core principle of mine is self-love. If you don't love yourself, why would anyone else.
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:54 PM
9

You should not have low standards. I recommend only pursuing women who you find to be very special. 8 or higher.
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:24 PM
2

Both nature and nurture cause you to fear rejection. Humans, especially men, have evolved to crave acceptance of "the tribe" since most of human history, tribes were around like 25-50 people. If they rejected us, we'd be very screwed, left to survive on our own or hope a new tribe took us in. Secondly, we spend a long time as children relying on our parents. We crave and seek their approval and validation as vulnerable children. These factors are why you feel fear of rejection. Once you understa…
/r/seduction08/11/24 06:36 PM
1

Women are drawn to guys dancing on their own, having a great time. The only way I've ever seen women approach men is when they're dancing well on the dance floor. They'll come over and dance close to you, smile at them, and if they smile back, dance with them.
/r/seduction08/11/24 01:30 PM
1

There's definitely a lot learn about what women want and how to give it to them. I have resources and support available for guys who need it. You can DM me if you're interested.
/r/seduction08/11/24 01:11 PM
1

There's definitely a lot learn about what women want and how to give it to them. I have resources and support available for guys who need it. You can DM me if you're interested.
/r/seduction08/11/24 01:09 PM
3

I feel you bro. As neuro divergent myself, I struggled to date women. My main advice for you is to understand, it's not so much about what you say but where it comes from. If a woman sees and feels an energy about you that you're nervous, scared, intimidated, needy, or unconfident, she's definitely not going to like you. If your energy is cool, calm, collected, confident with a subtle air of masculine strength, extreme self love and self belief, she's more likely to like you... With whatever ope…
/r/seduction08/11/24 01:06 PM
1

An attractive man would address it in that moment... Saying fun and playfully, "Damn girl! What a grip you've got! I love it! I'll be more prepared next time!" And then an attractive man would have seduced her for the rest of the night.
/r/seduction08/11/24 12:52 PM
2

We use Bambu Earth. Idk why but my wife likes it so I use it
/r/seduction08/11/24 03:29 AM
2

Skin care should be a normal thing men do. My wife put me onto it and I'm glad she did. Essentially you need a gentle cleanse (not a bar of soap), a toner, a moisturizer (sometimes toner and moisturizer is 2-in-1), and sunscreen.
/r/seduction08/11/24 03:17 AM
5

They'll probably think you're a creep because of your own weak self-belief. What you think is going to happen makes a big difference on what actually happens. Think you'll creep them out? You probably will. Think you'll make them comfortable? You probably will.
/r/seduction08/11/24 12:34 AM
12

Yeah you're beginning to understand women aren't so interested in a man's body, they're interested in other things he brings to the table... Delivering positive emotions, demonstrating masculine confidence and courage, fostering a sense of comfort, sexual tension... All behaviors! Hmu if you want to specifically learn and develop these behaviors and qualities women want.
/r/seduction07/11/24 11:35 PM
10

If you ever need help with anything else, feel free to shoot me a DM
/r/seduction07/11/24 08:41 PM
64

I didn't make the rules, I just know how to play the game and my advice for you is to hide this information from now on.
/r/seduction07/11/24 08:35 PM
123

Yes that was a major mistake. Women hear that no one else has ever wanted you and see that as a huge red flag. Women want to date a man whom many other women also wish to date... not a man with 0 options.
/r/seduction07/11/24 08:16 PM
1

DM me because I have a few questions before I know what advice to give
/r/seduction07/11/24 08:04 PM
1

You used a word right there that is a big mistake. "Need". Neediness is a big NO-NO. You tell yourself you need to sleep with a lot of people? That's a terrible mindset. Instead, tell yourself that you can provide positive social interactions that anyone will value and that you want to meet someone, but only if they meet your high standards and are worth your time. Jealousy is also a negative state to be in. There's no reason to be jealous when you realize other women aren't a match for you, but…
/r/seduction07/11/24 07:53 PM
2

It almost always boils down to your physiological state/bodily feelings. Women have an insane ability to read what men are thinking and feeling at any given time based on the most minor cues. So what kind of energy/ mood /state are you in when engaging socially?
/r/seduction07/11/24 02:56 PM
1

What would you ideally like to happen? For you to have real, genuine sexual encounters with which you can later share? Or continue to remain inexperienced, but just have something of value to add to these discussions?
/r/seduction07/11/24 02:49 PM
1

Assuming good grooming... The way women actually perceive men is heavily dictated by their nonverbal communication and bodily feelings. Their energy. Physiological state. Vibes. This is the 80% of the 80/20. The less important 20% is stuff like fitness or word choice.
/r/seduction07/11/24 03:11 AM
2

I'll send you some ideas through dm
/r/seduction07/11/24 12:53 AM
1

Can't complain about free value but most of these are 5 years old. Are you going to do any recent books?
/r/seduction07/11/24 12:43 AM
2

Too many guys that settle 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 12:34 AM
1

Look at her like she's going to be the really good kind of trouble. Women can read what you're thinking based on your facial expressions with amazing accuracy so just allow your thoughts to be "you look so yummy". Now there's a fine line. Don't be creepy. Smile and be playful at the same time. Act like you've been there before.
/r/seduction06/11/24 11:36 PM
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"older single women have an advantage in dating pool" Not just older. ALL women have an advantage. They can post a picture and get a thousand thirsty guys in their DMs. The problem is most guys that reach out are substandard. That's why truly attractive, masculine men are in the highest demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:35 PM
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👍 Facial expressions, tone, posture... All absolutely key for attraction (especially women being attracted to men). But online dating does not provide this to anyone until you're able to actually meet in person (which we know is quite a challenge for many)
/r/seduction06/11/24 01:41 PM
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You're not wrong but what I'm emphasizing is how human attraction mechanisms evolved to happen in person. Not with a simple 2d image, but by seeing how someone carries themselves in the flesh. Although it was a strong survival strategy to cross mate with different tribes for gene diversity... How many men and women mated without speaking the same language, I wonder? So that's how nonverbal communication became so important.
/r/seduction06/11/24 07:49 AM
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Right. There's not enough space or time to describe how to flirt in detail but you don't want to come on too strong. It's a dance. 1 step forward, 1 step back.
/r/seduction06/11/24 12:20 AM
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No, not harem. That's not my style. I enjoyed spending more than one date with women to really reach the full potential of intimacy. But there were a few ONS, of course. Looking back, I think some women were cheating, actually. I also had high standards which meant I wouldn't always see a woman worth the effort when I "went out on the prowl". Favorite strategies - it goes without saying, meeting women in person. But also dancing, day game, and the echo technique.
/r/seduction05/11/24 09:31 PM
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Ridiculous = over half the women I wanted and walked up to, I ended up having sex with. My body count went from 3 to over 50. Made a lot of amazing, sexy memories. But what I'm most proud of was meeting and attracting my wife. She's gorgeous, treats me amazing, and is an MD.
/r/seduction05/11/24 09:13 PM
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Make a compliment. Overly flirt with her. And this is important - read her reaction. Does she look flattered or uneasy?
/r/seduction05/11/24 05:58 PM
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Yes, I felt nerves most times I cold approached... But the pro tip is to reframe that nervousness into excitement. Realize there's nothing to be afraid of. That my evolution and upbringing makes being rejected scary, but it really isn't at all. To continue to breath, big, deep, calming breathes. To have the self-belief that I'm going to make this woman's whole week (and her hole weak).
/r/seduction05/11/24 05:06 PM
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Just plant the seed with a big group. Approach the group only planning to stay very temporarily, make a comment/ask a question about something regarding the location/occasion in a fun, playful way. While you're doing this, give the girl you like "the look" that you like her (positive eye contact, smile, maybe even "I wanna fuck eyes",) and walk away leaving on a high note. If she likes you, she will continue to make positive eye contact with you from across the room and then you and her have to …
/r/seduction05/11/24 04:35 PM
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No surprise... People have a negativity bias in general.... Women have an even stronger negativity bias toward men... And women have the STRONGEST negativity bias towards men they connect with online....
/r/seduction05/11/24 04:13 PM
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Social proof is a powerful form of sexual preselection for women. It makes women feel safe around you when there are other people who already do too.
/r/seduction05/11/24 02:28 PM
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The money, time, and energy would be more wisely spent meeting women in person. If you don't know how, you can learn. I happen to teach it if you are interested.
/r/seduction05/11/24 01:09 PM
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You've got to find a way to make it fun. Enjoying the challenge and adventure of it. Not being outcome dependent, just enjoying the journey... May I suggest you approach it like a difficult video game. You know you're not going to pass each level on your first try. If your character dies, it's not the end of the world, either, right? You just say "oops" , restart the game, and try again. This time with a little more knowledge and experience after learning from you mistake.
/r/seduction05/11/24 01:05 PM
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Nope. I had a ridiculous 3 year run. I'm out of the game now because I met and married to my dream girl, but don't want to keep my knowledge and experience to myself. By sharing what I know and what I did, I'm hoping that there's guys I can help. But hey, I understand that it would feel better for you to continue to believe average guys cannot have wild and wonderful success with beautiful women because that would mean you're missing out on some of the best experiences life has to offer. And tha…
/r/seduction05/11/24 01:00 PM
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Correct. The faster you accept this is the reality, the better. Men simply must demonstrate their masculine confidence by initiating romantically... For the first 2-5 minutes at least. If you know what you're doing, you can make women women feel comfortable around you pretty quickly and get her talking. And trust me, once you get them comfortable and talking, they will do plenty of the talking.
/r/seduction05/11/24 12:22 PM
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It most definitely does. I have years of personal experience of it working with models, milfs, women with different ethnicities, women with different kinks and I've also coached dozens of guys how to successfully do it as well. You can make a woman's whole week (or, hole weak) if you know how to approach them properly.
/r/seduction05/11/24 12:11 PM
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Live a full, exciting life that's full of purpose and intention. That could look like a lot of things but I recommend making sure however you do it, you stay true to yourself. Don't do something for external validation, do things that make you light up.
/r/seduction05/11/24 12:07 PM
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You needed to do a better job of making her feel that spark. That sexual tension. That excitement for what you could bring to get life... That's OK. Don't let it detrimentally effect you, bro. You got the date which is a step in the right direction and you walked away with a learning lesson.
/r/seduction05/11/24 11:48 AM
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By not focusing so much on the outcome but focusing on the effort you made to leave your comfort zone, focusing on the lessons you learned and experience you gained. You're growing, bro! That's a big step in the right direction... so you should be proud!
/r/seduction05/11/24 11:43 AM
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Most people have exhausted their own social circle and social media approaching is about as frustrating of an experience as you can imagine. Ghosting, flaking, catfishing... Time to get back to the basics and encourage men to meet women the way all of our ancestors did... In person
/r/seduction05/11/24 02:02 AM
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My guess for getting downvoted is because they own stock in tinder, bumble, and match 😂
/r/seduction05/11/24 12:14 AM
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You were hype! That's because you were doing something exciting and fun! It's like riding a dollar coaster or gambling. You don't knot what is going to happen and it's fun. It's actually your amygdala, deep in your reptilian brain which causes anxiety. But there's strategies to manage that.
/r/seduction04/11/24 11:23 PM
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"What" you say is like 10-20% of what is important.... "How" you say it and "where" it's coming from is what you should focus on. In other words, developing genuine masculine confidence.
/r/seduction04/11/24 11:05 PM
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Bro - if you can have success with women in person, that's where you should direct your focus. There's no catfishes or flakes in person. Women have so many thirsty guys in their DMs, but you can really stand out to them by boldly, confidently approaching and seducing them in person.
/r/seduction04/11/24 10:52 PM
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Getting rejected seems like such a big deal, doesn't it? We developed this response because of both nature and nurture.... Nature - Rejection activates our amygdala causing anxiety. We developed this response through evolution. As hunter gatherers, if we were not accepted by the tribe, our lives would be in danger. Nurture - we grow up craving the acceptance of our parents and adults because we are so vulnerable and we relied on them to survive. Both these reasons you can now see are no longer r…
/r/seduction04/11/24 10:03 PM
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Well I wholeheartedly recommend doing that. First learning how to do it successfully and then taking bold action by approaching women you find attractive in person.
/r/seduction04/11/24 09:42 PM
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Relying on meeting women online is so unwise because attraction is a feeling that women can only genuinely feel in person. So how often do you approach and introduce yourself to women in person?
/r/seduction04/11/24 09:32 PM
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In the real world, with two human animals interacting face-to-face, women respond much more positively to a man's personality, energy, and behavior and care much less about his appearance or resources. Caveat being he must be well-groomed, well-dressed, and have excellent hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:36 PM
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You read positive body language, then take a step further (literally and figuratively). Is it still positive? Take the next step. Read her and react accordingly after every small step you take.
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:29 PM
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Keep them as friends but to stop them from venting to you, treat them how you'd treat your male friends. "Bruh, quit being a pussy. IDGAF that your bf was mean to you yesterday. What do you want me to do about it? Go fight him? No? Get tf over it."
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:21 PM
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Spot on!
/r/seduction04/11/24 06:51 PM
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Continue to go about your awesome life and communicate the message she will be fortunate to be part of it
/r/seduction04/11/24 05:42 PM
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My fastest was about 20 minutes, yeah. She was a young, sexy Asian Airbnb host in Florida. She checked me in, we sat down and got to know each other, it got flirtatious, I had to jump in the shower but I made sure she had a vantage point to see me undress in my bedroom, I wrapped a small towel around my waist to head to the bathroom, again in her line of sight. She was indeed looking so I left the bathroom door open and she was waiting there to greet me when I was done showering. She sat on the …
/r/seduction04/11/24 05:38 PM
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Overall, stop feeling ashamed for having sexual interest in them. Make them feel sexy with compliments and get them sexually aroused with flirting.
/r/seduction04/11/24 04:04 PM
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People are only going to continue a relationship if they're both deriving value from it. If the way you have sex with them isn't enough value on its own, you'll need to add value to their lives with adventure, time spent together, or something else for the sex to continue.
/r/seduction04/11/24 12:57 PM
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Seduction is getting to know a woman more and more closely until you're inside of her
/r/seduction04/11/24 12:30 PM
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I'd just socialize detached from any outcome. Just enjoy the journey and process of socializing with someone new.
/r/seduction04/11/24 12:21 AM
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Most women will say no to most cold approaches... But that doesn't mean guys shouldn't still do it. "Most" isn't "All"
/r/seduction03/11/24 02:23 PM
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For one, courage is sexy. Women like it so you need to build it. Two, how much courage do you really need to chat up a girl? She's not a lion or shark that can hurt you. The worst she can do is say no thanks when you ask to exchange social media.
/r/seduction03/11/24 02:21 PM
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As hotel front desk you have opportunity to take women who are visiting to a really cool attraction/restaurant that only the locals know about. So next time when this happens, ask the woman if she'd like to see something special and invite her to take her. That's going to be your date and on the date you can sexually escalate with flirting and kino.
/r/seduction03/11/24 02:04 PM
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Hey man I experienced a very similar situation as you. I'm autistic and it was very tough and complicated for me to understand how to communicate with women and give them what they wanted romantically. To "get out of my rut" was not easy, I'm ngl. It took years of digesting all kinds of advice and then more years practicing to see what worked or didn't work. Like 5-6 years I'm guessing. I eventually figured out some key things that gave me incredible results.. hooking up with early 20 year old m…
/r/seduction03/11/24 01:55 PM
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Yes but make sure to expose yourself because YOU want to be there, though. It's doing things you'd enjoy whether cute girls were there or not. And go there coming from a place of your own wholeness and happiness. When you do that, the people will feel the positive energy that radiates from you and it'll attract the RIGHT people into your life (the wrong people might get jealous and butthurt so you'll have to brush them off sometimes)
/r/seduction03/11/24 01:31 PM
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I'm not OP but I wholeheartedly agree with his answer... You'll create opportunities to meet women simply while you live your life if it's full of fun, adventure, and excitement. Sunday is GameDay so you go root on your favorite team. Monday is dancing class. Tuesday is happy hour and tacos. Wednesday you visit the art gallery. Thursday is the networking event. Friday is the concert. Saturday is the charity thing... Get it?
/r/seduction03/11/24 12:46 PM
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Yes you can compliment them. Show your interest by making it clear you find her attractive. I love to compliment women in 2 ways simultaneously. I compliment their beauty nonverbally by having the "I wanna fuck" facial expression and verbally compliment something uniquely cool about them like their style or grace.
/r/seduction02/11/24 08:04 PM
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Stand close to them and if they're not backing away, that's a good sign. Body language like hips open to your, playing with hair, blushing, strong eye contact. With all that going well, you can touch them innocently/platonically on arm/shoulder and again, read how they react.
/r/seduction02/11/24 07:44 PM
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Wow, dude... I've definitely pulled better pussy than you 🤣 Lmao good luck getting guys to follow you.
/r/seduction02/11/24 07:36 PM
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He's asking how to talk about sexual topics... your answer doesn't come close to answering that question. Guys needing dating advice and you say, "Just be normal". Wow. Truly groundbreaking. Why are you on this subreddit?
/r/seduction02/11/24 07:18 PM
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You need to build the self-belief in yourself that she's the lucky one to have you introduce yourself to her. That you're going to make this woman's day, week, maybe even month or year! Are people going to get butthurt by your boldness? Yes probably. But who cares what they think? They're just jealous.
/r/seduction02/11/24 06:57 PM
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Waiting for your advice
/r/seduction02/11/24 06:47 PM
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Did you actually read the post?
/r/seduction02/11/24 06:18 PM
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Good post. To help this, men should find a purpose for their life that is bigger than any relationship. That a relationship with a woman is only a small portion of what they're here on earth for. Dedicating themselves to something greater than pussy. Two, Being their own biggest fan. Loving themselves, their lives, and their own company. Three, knowing that they add equal, if not greater, value to women than women add to them.
/r/seduction02/11/24 02:09 PM
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Lol it's simple physics
/r/seduction02/11/24 12:50 PM
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In this case, while you're cuddling, all you need to do is consistently press your boner up against her and I promise 9/10 it'll eventually find a hole.
/r/seduction02/11/24 12:04 PM
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Just keep it casual on your end and don't talk about it until she brings it up. It'll work well, at least for a while, because you'll get her to want you more the more casual you keep it.
/r/seduction02/11/24 12:01 PM
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DON'T get sexual before you've even touched her. Be respectful. Tell her she seems cool for how beautiful she is and you're looking forward to your date.
/r/seduction02/11/24 11:58 AM
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Flirting. Point out she's going to be trouble. A bad girl. Or point out she's too innocent. Flip the script. Tell her you're not that easy, to stop sexualizing you. That you're not a piece of meat. To stop undressing you with her eyes. Take advantage of sexual innuendos. "I bet it's tight/wet/hard".
/r/seduction02/11/24 11:53 AM
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People want what they can't have. Women don't want a man who's easy to catch. They want a challenge.
/r/seduction02/11/24 12:59 AM
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There's a lot that goes into dating success with women. You need to first think you're awesome before anyone else will. You can't believe an attractive woman is above you and you can't let her rejection affect your self-esteem. You need to have clarity on your goals and what you're looking for. You need to have the right strategy to approach, converse, flirt, and seduce. There's resources that go over everything. I made my own and I also have detailed book notes of other good ones. I also coach …
/r/seduction01/11/24 08:15 PM
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Exposure therapy. You need to get comfortable looking into their eyes, touching them, and conversing with them. Idk where you'll find women to practice with. Idk where you live or what options might be available to you.
/r/seduction01/11/24 05:24 PM
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👏👏
/r/seduction01/11/24 01:03 PM
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Older women know the deal. The goal is to go on a date and then go home. But they want to feel like a lady. So that means you need to be a gentleman.
/r/seduction01/11/24 01:05 AM
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Awe nah, not condoning creeps. My whole thing is teaching guys how to make genuine connections in person.
/r/seduction01/11/24 12:37 AM
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Happy these were good words for you
/r/seduction31/10/24 11:29 PM
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You obviously aren't a regular on this subreddit otherwise you'd know I'm pointing out the ridiculousness of people complaining that # metoo ruined approaching women in person. As long as it's NOT done disrespectfully, I believe it's still the preferred way for people to meet.
/r/seduction31/10/24 11:28 PM
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Yes I agree. He didn't do enough in his approach. But it's still a step in the right direction and infinitely better than guys who never approach women.
/r/seduction31/10/24 03:15 PM
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So? Some do. I know several couples that met at the gym.
/r/seduction31/10/24 03:03 PM
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And you didn't die? You didn't get arrested because of # metoo? Lmao. Good job man. When they say they have a boyfriend I like to playfully say something like, "I guess I'll just have to wait until you realize what you're missing"
/r/seduction31/10/24 03:00 PM
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Thank you for this additional perspective. I'll remember to include the egg next time 😊
/r/seduction31/10/24 01:44 PM
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First look at your past and everything you've overcome to be here. All the way back to being the 1 sperm out of the TRILLIONS of sperm your dad generated to reach your moms egg... Your infancy... Your childhood... School... Work... You've done good things. Now look at your present. You know a lot of things. You know how to handle anything that comes your way with certainty. What have you recently accomplished that you can be proud of? Maybe you're still working on it, but you can celebrate your …
/r/seduction31/10/24 11:52 AM
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You really need people on reddit to tell you what you already know? Approach her. You've already wasted months... If you need specific advice on what to do so you don't shit your pants, hmu.
/r/seduction31/10/24 11:30 AM
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My favorite part in this text wall was - you are first and foremost the leader of YOURSELF. I realize there's some irony in what I'm about to say because I'm giving advice, but way too often guys look for what they should do outside of themselves instead of getting to know their true selves and acting in the way that aligns best with what they truly want
/r/seduction30/10/24 11:30 PM
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This is a mistake a ton of guys, including my past self made.... Women don't want to be the center of a man's life, they want to be part of a man's already great life. The best way to get over this woman is to get on top of someone new. Just go out and realize how many good-looking, fun, sweet girls are out there and you'll realize you didn't just lose something irretrievable.
/r/seduction30/10/24 11:23 PM
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Society has tricked you into thinking you're only worthy and valuable if you stay pure. As soon as you realized you've been lied to and deceived, you can begin to be true to yourself.
/r/seduction30/10/24 10:58 PM
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No. You want women to associate feeling good in your presence. Yes, that means some playful teasing, but not toxicity.
/r/seduction30/10/24 03:28 PM
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The best way to make people feel good about you is to feel good about yourself. You don't have to wait until you reach some check point to feel good about yourself, either. Feel good about the progress you've made and the effort you're making. You're not a piece of shit, you're on a journey of improvement and that's enough to feel good about yourself.
/r/seduction30/10/24 02:16 PM
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Yes, the cleaner the better. Get rid of all your weird junk laying around so it's not distracting from the main event
/r/seduction30/10/24 02:18 AM
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If you thought you were awesome, you'd want to bless others with your presence. If you don't think you're awesome, you can change that
/r/seduction30/10/24 02:17 AM
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This issue started when you first met these women. Your first impression failed to impress them enough to ever want to date you. You're placed firmly in the friendzone. To fix this in the future, make your romantic intentions known much sooner and make sure your first impression comea across as masculine and attractive
/r/seduction29/10/24 09:30 PM
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Obviously I'm working with incomplete information but I have some theories why you might be getting rejected. There's an underlying energy women can feel from you that detemines how much you actually like them. How special you think they are. If your energy is TOO nonchalant, energy that you only moderately like them, and/or you're only worried about hookups, they'll sense that and become less interested. I also understand you can't put them on a pedestal, either. It's walking a fine line. Feel …
/r/seduction29/10/24 07:25 PM
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First, make sure your physiological state is strong. It's much more about how you make a women feel in your presence than the words you literally say. Next, break the ice with a comment/observation/question. For example, "I'm curious, how did you end up choosing to work at a grocery store? Do you like it? Are you trying to earn money for anything particular?" etc. Then show interest with a compliment that demonstrates how special you think she is. For example, "Going to the grocery store used to…
/r/seduction29/10/24 02:07 PM
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Enjoying your own company is a baller move. You don't need or want a wingman tbh
/r/seduction29/10/24 12:42 AM
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YouTube professional dancers on mute and listen your favorite club songs on a speaker and have a great time
/r/seduction29/10/24 12:21 AM
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absolutely... when you care too much about a random woman's opinion, you've already lost. Not to say you shouldn't know some basic conversational etiquette and escalation strategies that will lead to success, but there's no point in being affected by snobby women. It's her loss and I'm on to the next one
/r/TheRedPill28/10/24 10:53 PM
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Lost me at relying on a friend. If you're alone and having a good time by yourself you're going to attract people and earn an even more powerful form of social proof... being popular with new people with ease.
/r/seduction28/10/24 10:18 PM
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Don't ask, instruct. "Let's dance" and lead her
/r/seduction28/10/24 10:13 PM
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sounds like she can pick up that your energy is too focused on getting pussy... that's desperate and needy. You need the energy that "you are literally overdosing on pussy and only if she's lucky will you take another hit"
/r/seduction28/10/24 10:11 PM
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how good of a dancer are you?
/r/seduction28/10/24 10:09 PM
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Do not focus on getting laid. Focus on making a woman feel comfortable around you. The more comfortable she feels, the more she'll want you to touch her, kiss her, and eventually penetrate her.
/r/seduction28/10/24 08:17 PM
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Love to hear it. You're simply "Feeling yourself" which is the energy and vibes I preach of self love and self respect. Women gush over that.
/r/seduction28/10/24 04:14 PM
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Mine is the best and it's currently free
/r/seduction27/10/24 11:58 PM
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Learn how to make the woman you want feel like she's the most special woman ever
/r/seduction27/10/24 11:55 PM
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The first step is get more clear on what you're looking for. 1 really good friend. A couple solid friends. Several good friends? How about romantically what are you looking for? There needs to be a lot of clarity before anyone would ever have good advice or support to give you
/r/MenSupportMen27/10/24 02:39 PM
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Happy to help
/r/MenSupportMen27/10/24 02:37 PM
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Why did you let her dance alone? What were you doing during that time?
/r/seduction27/10/24 12:32 PM
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Ice breaker strategies are great, but did you know women can read you with deadly accuracy? All your thoughts and feelings? Make sure you believe in yourself before relying on strategies to save you.
/r/seduction27/10/24 01:44 AM
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You essentially want to get people talking 80% of the time. Have them talk about their passions, their dreams, their career, the people in their life, and past childhood experiences... So you have to ask the questions and then actually listen. Remain curious about them. The best listening technique to use is called the echo technique. Essentially repeat the words/phrases they use that seem to have meaning to them (based on a tone change, they adjust their body language, etc) as a question. It lo…
/r/seduction26/10/24 07:29 PM
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Look up social events in your area. Halloween stuff is happening all over the place. Concerts. Pick up hobbies that have women participate.
/r/seduction26/10/24 07:23 PM
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Thank you again for sharing your thoughts on this. I've only been on here about 2 weeks and I'm averaging over 100 karma/day because I definitely do give away a bunch of good free advice. I like trying to help by answering people's questions and I hate dating coaches that give responses that are all fluff, no substance. But again my full advice consists of 74k words, so no post or comment I make covers everything lol.
/r/seduction26/10/24 07:15 PM
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Rejection is incredibly common, but it doesn't have to be a negative experience. You can get rejected but if your approach is done correctly, it will still flatter and compliment the woman well enough that it's a pleasant experience. And you can always ask if she has a sister.
/r/seduction26/10/24 06:57 PM
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I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with them. Thanks for sharing so I know what to avoid. For one, I don't teach online dating. My first lesson is to meet women in person. It's sad so many people think online dating is dating. No. Something humans have had for 10 years doesn't change the way human attraction biology works. So I don't help guys get matches. I help men learn how to do what every single one of their ancestors did, approach women in person. My book is not superficial. It's 74k wor…
/r/seduction26/10/24 06:50 PM
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I'll dumb things down for you. Man about to do something to you that has the potential to kill you is acting nervous - BAD Man about to do something to you that has the potential to kill you is acting calm - GOOD
/r/seduction26/10/24 04:15 PM
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And what is that?
/r/seduction26/10/24 03:26 PM
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I can only speak to me and my situation Neurodivergent and lacking social skills as a devesatingly-average everything. Average looking, average house, average job (high school technology teacher).. I was socially awkward as fuck. I had no romantic success from puberty to my late 20s. Online dating was awful. Got so sick of it, I consumed months of info and spent 2-3 years (2016-18) putting myself out there and around year 3 (18-19) things really took off 🚀 and I started having crazy success. All…
/r/seduction26/10/24 02:54 PM
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Coaching isn't a career? Don't tell the 34k+ life coaches, 307k+ sports coaches, and 114k+ business coaches in the US that
/r/seduction26/10/24 02:07 PM
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Why does it bother you? I see other people who were just like me 5-10 years ago, frustrated, lonely, and I offer the tools and support to help them get the results they want. Most of my help is free, but at a certain point, I think it's fair to charge for the time and energy that I put into this. Ultimately, people hire coaches to get the results they want while saving time, money, and heartache. When a 20-40 dollar course teaches can save you hundreds of dollars not wasting money on cover charg…
/r/seduction26/10/24 01:28 PM
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Those who can, do. But then they get married to their dream girl and then they "can't" anymore, so why not coach?
/r/seduction26/10/24 01:20 PM
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Came here to say this. Club game is about nonverbal communication and dancing is the king of nonverbal communication.
/r/seduction26/10/24 12:51 PM
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What you didn't mention is what really matters... Do you go on a lot of dates with women you meet with online? Get hook ups out of it? I think you might need to look at where you're doing cold approach and obviously how your interactions make women feel to have more success with it. And letting rejections negatively affect you is also not necessary. Don't let random women make you feel worse about yourself whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:37 PM
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This. You wasted hundreds of dollars, hours of time, and priceless energy for nothing. Well, you at least learned a lesson that what you're doing isn't working... You need to learn how to have conversations to connect.... It's about getting them to talk about subjects that bond them to you and you knowing how to keep them talking about themselves with listening techniques. You also need to learn how to flirt. Hmu if you want some resources that will save you from wasting more time and money
/r/seduction26/10/24 12:17 PM
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I wrote a book about my experiences and my perspective. It covers attraction science at the biological level, the dance between masculinity and femininity, the importance of mindset, the effects of social conditioning, how to walk the line of demonstrating interest without being desperate, nonverbal communication, how to approach, how to have conversations, and how to escalate physically and seduce. It's available for free on my website.
/r/seduction26/10/24 01:49 AM
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Why don't you feel like you're a catch? I approach women with the mindset, "I'm a catch. It's about to be this woman's lucky day. She's going to greatly appreciate me introducing myself". If she declines, my belief is, "Her loss. She's missing out". These are my beliefs. You get to choose what you believe. And that's important because what you believe will happen ABSOLUTELY affects what actually does happen.
/r/seduction26/10/24 12:08 AM
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As neurodivergent man who struggled mightily with women from puberty through my late 20s, I finally uncovered the hidden truths about what women really want and how to give it to them, and started to have insane levels of success. I am totally average-looking, but when I learned how important my behavior was to signal and demonstrate masculinity, I started hooking up with the kind of women I never thought I'd be able to get.
/r/seduction26/10/24 12:00 AM
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There's a lot here and I'd be happy to try to help you... It sounds like you don't try very often. But I understand it's not fun to try when you don't know what to do. There's a whole complex process to removing harmful thoughts and beliefs that are holding you back so you can truly understanding what women want and how to give it to them. Feel free to hit me up
/r/seduction25/10/24 10:42 PM
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Confidently introduce yourself. "I'm Kole by the way." She'll say her name. "Hi, Kole, I'm Sarah." Repeat her name, "Sarah, you're really cute and also seem really cool. Can I buy you a drink?" "Right now?" "Why not?" "I have to take my groceries home," "Go drop them off at home and I'll grab us a table at [restaurant]" Seems kind of simple, but I'm pretty sure this is how most of my spontaneous meets went.
/r/seduction25/10/24 10:27 PM
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People get busy. You got busy and probably so did she. Maybe just say something like sorry I've been busy but I've been brainstorming some fun ideas for our next date
/r/seduction25/10/24 08:38 PM
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Women don't love a puppy dog of a man who's obsessed with her happiness. She wants to fulfill a role of service in her man's life
/r/seduction25/10/24 08:26 PM
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Yeah I will try to cover this more. It's a fine line. You should demonstrate she's special, but not above you. Having self-respect for yourself means not putting forth an unequal amount of effort compared to what she puts forth. She needs to prove she's worthy of this effort you're willing to give before you give it.
/r/seduction25/10/24 08:11 PM
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Insecurity is not a natural condition for any living thing but humans. Why is that you ask? Because social conditioning constantly telling us we're not good enough. You are perfectly good enough the way you are. Love yourself bro. You're awesome, worthy, deserve to be here and deserve great things in life.
/r/MenSupportMen25/10/24 08:05 PM
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Showing a woman you care too much about her initially causes issues, though. You don't know her well enough to invest this level of effort. Again, if it's a committed long term relationship, your advice isn't bad. But for generating initial attraction with a woman you just recently met, this is a way overboard amont of effort. Makes you seem desperate.
/r/seduction25/10/24 08:01 PM
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My free book goes in depth how to get over your nerves. I invite you to check it out. Or you can DM me any specific questions. ☺️
/r/seduction25/10/24 07:55 PM
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Lol, no you didn't! I have a whole section on being unapologetic!
/r/seduction25/10/24 07:51 PM
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This might be good marriage advice but I hate it for this subreddit.
/r/seduction25/10/24 07:46 PM
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How did you feel internally when you approached? Any nerves or feelings of intimidation?
/r/seduction25/10/24 04:43 PM
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It's OK to be impressed, even "blown away" by her looks, but make sure she can sense you have plenty of options among women and that you have higher standards than just looks. Test her to see how smart she is. How cool she is. How funny she is. How nice she is. Don't ever let her feel like "she's got you".
/r/seduction25/10/24 04:37 PM
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Confidence is loving and respecting YOURSELF at a high level. It's not external validation from anyone else, it's YOUR own opinion of yourself. It's YOU understanding how worthy and valuable YOU are. I say this to my clients all the time, "If you don't love yourself, why would anyone else?" And if you don't love yourself, I can help you get to that point. I used to not love or respect myself and it lead to a lot of loneliness and frustration. When I got this right, a brand new world opened up to…
/r/seduction25/10/24 03:16 PM
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Collecting numbers isn't the point... It's knowing how to demonstrate to a woman you actually like that you're a masculine, attractive guy with an awesome life and that you find her to be more special than other women. Women can pick up energy and their intuition can tell two things, if you're actually a masculine, attractive man, and if you actually like them enough for what they want. It's not putting them above you, but making them feel special. You're not making them feel special because you…
/r/seduction25/10/24 03:11 PM
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You can become one if you want.
/r/seduction25/10/24 03:02 PM
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Women are desperate for more date-able men to enter the dating pool. A confident, masculine man is always in high demand among women.
/r/seduction25/10/24 02:54 PM
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It means you're insecure about something. Probably some emotional baggage women feel. Or it's a belief that you're not good enough. Unworthy. Maybe you're too feminine in your body language. Or maybe you're too desperate to be approved and validated by other people.
/r/seduction25/10/24 01:44 PM
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Yup the external things that make women find you attractive manifests very naturally when you first know how to get your feelings right from within.
/r/seduction25/10/24 12:37 PM
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Wtf?! What kind of response is this? I'm not saying you actually need to perform surgery on anyone. That's very illegal. You just need to have a conversation with them. How long have you been having conversations? At least 4-6 years of your life I hope? "Errrm doctors are confident with their patients only because they went to medical school..." Ok. And you should be confident with women because you have a lifetime of experience both interacting with women and knowing yourself.
/r/seduction25/10/24 12:35 PM
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It's a fine line, right? To be charming and avoid the friendzone, you need to show interest. Too much though and you're putting her on a pedastal. It's kind of like a cat and a string. You want to dangle the string in front, but pull away so you're not an easy catch. Women want to feel the energy that you think she's special, but they also want to chase a little bit too. Gotta walk the line. Do the mating dance. Remember, she's special, but not above you. You like her, but you're not going to sa…
/r/seduction25/10/24 02:48 AM
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That's impossible to prove but I'm curious, have you ever met, attracted, or seduced a woman as a man? If not, then I have infinitely more experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:40 PM
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Does it have anything to do with your family dynamic? How you were treated poorly by the men in it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:37 PM
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I care about men, love them even. I know the frustration first hand. And I love love. And for me it's extremely fulfilling to help men find it. So I'm offering my advice for free and also wrote a book they can have for free and also offer free coaching. Why do you have a problem with that? Did you get burned by a coach?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:34 PM
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Disagree wholeheartedly. Are you a man or woman? Regardless, my success with the opposite sex skyrocketed once I understood subconscious attraction triggers women have. I wish you the best though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:23 PM
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You're figuring out that attraction is not a conscious choice we make, it happens subconsciously. Women can consciously express how they want a sweet, sensitive, nice, polite man but their pussy gets wet for the self-important bad boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:46 PM
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I don't dislike your advice, but I'll say that being a good improviser is also a very useful skill to regularly practice and develop.
/r/seduction24/10/24 10:13 PM
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It all starts with your physiological state. Feel playful and fun in your bodily feelings. When you cold open a woman, where is her head at? She's thinking about her stressful life probably. School or work projects. Drama with friends or family. Etc. So bring her into the present moment with you by making a playful, fun observation about the situation, the location, or the occasion. Get her to realize something that you have realized. And of course WHAT you say is what less important than HOW yo…
/r/seduction24/10/24 10:10 PM
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Absolutely. Cold approaching allows you the opportunity to stand out from the horde of men in her inbox by being a guy who has the courage and confidence to strike up a conversation in person.
/r/seduction24/10/24 04:55 PM
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Question. Why do you say "They look fun to play with" when referring to hair? I thought hair was an "it" not a "they"
/r/seduction24/10/24 04:13 PM
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Online dating is tough for the majority of men, I agree. I personally promote learning how to meet and attract women in-person because it eliminates a lot of headaches. No ghosting. No catfishes. No AI/bots/timewasters! You get your answer, "Are you into me?" immediately. And you can even go on a spontaneous first date.
/r/seduction24/10/24 04:11 PM
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Answer her question of "How old are you?" with "How old do you think I am?" When she guesses, ask her, "Is that too young/old for you?" If she says "Yes" you can jokingly say, "It's a good thing I'm 35 (or whatever age you think she prefers, even when you're obviously not that age)." Essentially what I'm suggesting is that if you don't make it a big deal, neither will she.
/r/seduction24/10/24 04:08 PM
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Being nervous and anxious is a problem many men experience when approaching a beautiful woman and my analogy is a frame that they can understand how that impacts them negatively. No one said anything about being perfect. It's about being in a physiological state that makes women feel comfortable around you. Have you ever had a woman tell you, "It feels like I've known you my whole life even though we just met."? Well, I have. Dozens of times. Because I know how to make them feel comfortable. And…
/r/seduction24/10/24 04:04 PM
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Always make your initial interaction last as long as possible. Ideally, it becomes a spontaneous first date. You just need to take a walk with her or find somewhere to sit and talk. Generate sexual tension by being flirty. As far as touching goes, take it step-by-step. First get closer and closer to her. Next, touch her innocently (hand, upper back). If she's OK with that, eventually touch her in a more romantic way (leg, lower back). Try to scooch next to her so your legs and arms are touching.…
/r/seduction24/10/24 03:35 PM
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My DMs always open to chat and try to get some clarity and address the things holding you back
/r/seduction24/10/24 01:41 PM
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Just have a fun, playful, friendly, non threatening aura and say, I've seen you around a lot a bunch and you seem really cool so I wanted to introduce myself.... Smile, speak slowly, comfortable in your own skin
/r/seduction24/10/24 01:02 AM
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Yep they absolutely know what's happening the minute they get stopped and approached and when guys beat around the bush and act basically friendly, it's unimpressive at best, annoying at worst. But compliments that are genuine, unique and believable from a confident, masculine man? Women will always happily take those. And yes, if you make a good compliment at the beginning, you don't need to shower her with them at all. Just continue to give them "fuck me" eyes and that'll be enough to keep it …
/r/seduction24/10/24 12:22 AM
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I like how you said, "they can smell it on you". Yup. Women can sniff out our thoughts and feelings from a mile away. That's why you should not hide your intentions. You're approaching them/stopping them/interrupting them because you think they're sexy and special. Don't hide it or be ashamed if it.
/r/seduction23/10/24 11:52 PM
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What do YOU enjoy doing on the weekends and your free time? The best place to find women is places you like being. Automatically have something in common.
/r/seduction23/10/24 11:49 PM
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I fucking hate online dating. But if you have to text her... Just try texting her her name. "Sarah" If she responds then say.... "You're not going to blow me off this Friday, are you? I've got something special planned for us." When she asks what say... "meet me here and you'll see"
/r/seduction23/10/24 11:05 PM
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I was just talking about this on another thread. Why are you going for quantity over quality? You should focus on finding your dream woman. Your sexy best friend... But before you find her, you'll need to become whole again. Fill your cup again. Your dream woman won't want a guy with a half empty cup.
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:24 PM
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Yeah I'm all about meeting my dream woman. Encountering the total package and knowing how to meet, attract, and seduce them so I can spend the rest of my life with a partner who gives me the hottest sex every night and every morning, has my back, and gives me babies..
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:22 PM
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No, no. Way too indirect. Confident, masculine men don't need an excuse to stop a woman and hit on her. They just do it.
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:19 PM
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Stop her. Put your hand up. Stop her confidently. Tell her you can't let an opportunity to meet your dream woman walk by without introducing yourself.
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:18 PM
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Yeah I'm a dating coach but I don't encourage racking up bodies unless you're trying to get sick. Quality over quantity all day.
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:15 PM
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Love this for you, bro. You're taking action and learning what works and what doesn't. Not only did you get incredibly valuable feedback for the future, you're also building resilience (you didn't die, did you?!). Well done!
/r/seduction23/10/24 08:29 PM
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Don't allow her to feel any desperation from you by trying to escalate too quickly before you make her comfortable. Just schedule a time to spend more quality time together. Make her bond to you by getting her to talk about herself - her passions, her dreams, her career, her life, her childhood - at least 60% of the time. Getting her to talk 80% is what I shoot for.
/r/seduction23/10/24 05:46 PM
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You can stand out at your age by having masculine qualities - especially maturity. Practice talking to girls that make you feel a little intimidation. Learn how to recognize the nervous/anxious feeling you get and manage it. Women feel your bodily feelings, so you need to feel very comfortable if you want them to feel comfortable. Don't brag and boast about yourself, get them to talk about themselves and listen. Bring playful, curiosity to your interactions. Good for you for starting early
/r/seduction23/10/24 05:41 PM
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Women get horny for men who act and carry themselves a specific way. They aren't like men in that they don't see appearance and get instantly horny. Our horniness is like an explosion when we see a woman we like, there's is a very small flame that grows gradually after a man demonstrates certain level of confidence and charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:06 PM
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It's the bold and charming way to approach
/r/seduction23/10/24 01:00 PM
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Great advice. I love how you boldly compliment and show your romantic interest right away. So many guys think boring vanilla interactions will lead to something but it just leads to friendzone and frustration.
/r/seduction23/10/24 12:48 PM
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Men are tricked by culture and society into thinking they have to wait to be successful or save the day to earn a woman... These are lies that hold men back for sure... What's awesome about developing inner game is that success with women will improve but those qualities you pick up will also help your career. So grow your confidence to help you out at work and with women.
/r/seduction23/10/24 12:36 AM
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So you just want to quit because anytime you fail to connect, that experience is that hard to handle? Your inner dialogue can be re-trained. And this one isn't that hard to remember... Don't be disappointed and shocked for yourself, be disappointed and shocked for her because she's missing out. It's her loss for not taking you up on your offer.
/r/seduction22/10/24 07:07 PM
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If he does it correctly, in a playful and fun way, he'll gain a reputation of being social, popular, and charming
/r/seduction22/10/24 06:23 PM
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My book is free
/r/seduction22/10/24 05:30 PM
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Also in my book, this advice covering how to approach women in a group... “The rewards can be big if you can do it,” I added. “Imagine getting a woman’s group of friends on your side right off the bat. You know she’d really like that.” Pete raised his eyebrows high while he continued contemplating what I said. “So here’s how you break the ice,” I began. “You do something I call The Comment/Question Combo since comments and questions go together like burgers and fries.” “Ha!” laughed Pete. “What’…
/r/seduction22/10/24 03:44 PM
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In my book I just wrote, I talked about a scenario where my student approached a woman reading... Maybe this could help you. Approach number five actually started off great for Pete. He saw a woman reading alone, walked up to her, got her attention with a confident introduction, and brought just the right amount of cool, calm, playfulness to his ice breaker which was about the book she was reading. It was something along the lines of, “That must be a really good book, I mean you didn’t even noti…
/r/seduction22/10/24 03:41 PM
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My free book is also a great resource I invite you to check out at kolesekor.com
/r/seduction22/10/24 03:32 PM
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/r/seduction22/10/24 03:29 PM
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When you have a ton of self-love for yourself and feel like you're the prize, you'll know what you do when a woman responds positively to your approach... You'll make her feel like the luckiest girl in the world.
/r/seduction22/10/24 02:13 PM
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Yep. Exposure therapy is a real thing
/r/seduction22/10/24 01:29 AM
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True masculinity is true strength. Not physical strength, strength in behavior. Not rude, disrespectful, abrasive, or aggressive. It's a subtle, but high degree of strength.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/24 12:39 AM
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I'll answer your questions. Example 1 - if you liked this girl, yes you should have gone to the club to dance. To invite yourself, I would have said something like, "Yeah I know the club and love to dance... I just wish I knew someone that would be there I could dance with" and smile slyly. You want to dance with women. That's a super easy way to get them to come home with you. And it also allows you not to need to talk that much. Just grind for a minute and if that goes well, grabbing an Uber b…
/r/seduction22/10/24 12:03 AM
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Approach them. No shame.
/r/seduction21/10/24 11:19 PM
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Honestly, if she's being a good and engaged texter but you don't knot what to say, get some ideas from chatgpt. Your prompt should be something like, "a woman I'm interested in texted me blah blah blah. What would be a flirty, fun, or clever response to her" And don't copy and paste the chatgpt response. Use the answer you get to inform an authentic text that sounds like you, and not AI.
/r/seduction21/10/24 09:42 PM
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Wanting a serious relationship? In that case especially, I definitely suggest addressing the things you don't like about yourself first. You don't sound completely "whole", if you know what I mean, and that's really not a good place in which to be starting a serious relationship. The best relationships will occur when two people who are healthy and whole individually/on their own come together. I always say, "If you don't love yourself, why would anyone else?" So if you're struggling to love and…
/r/seduction21/10/24 09:08 PM
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After you've established yourself as an attractive man (with masculine confidence, control, courage, coolness, charisma, etc), the next thing women want from you is to feel some sort of energy that makes them believe their beauty "wows" you. It's not being desperate or needy for her, but while on a date and flirting, I try to subtly demonstrate how much I appreciate her sexy appearance (and how much I'll be appreciating it in just a little bit when she's naked).
/r/seduction21/10/24 07:49 PM
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Love this post. Nailed it bro.
/r/seduction21/10/24 07:43 PM
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Right... It's not necessary to be Chris Hemsworth. Just be Jonah Hill. Google "Jonah Hill transformation" for reference.
/r/seduction21/10/24 07:41 PM
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There's been a lot of good recommendations here but also try to answer this question from within. Women are everywhere but the absolute best places to meet them are your favorite places to go... So what are your top 10 places you like to be besides your house?
/r/seduction21/10/24 07:29 PM
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Worst case - you meet a woman you really like and she really likes you but then you lose her because you were being deceptive.
/r/seduction21/10/24 06:29 PM
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Solid conversational strategy but to even get to that point, you would have had done a lot of good things. Good job.
/r/seduction21/10/24 05:04 PM
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The gym and job only guys (and no game) would struggle and the non-gym, no-job guys could do OK if they have good enough game... I think game is clearly the most important aspect of this.
/r/seduction21/10/24 04:55 PM
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Good coaches understand how to looksmax. It's really not that complicated. Fix your teeth if they're jacked up. Know what haircut works for your face. Grooming habits. Hygiene. Eat fucking CLEAN. And workout regularly. I guarantee all the crybabies who whine about looks and appearance have never come close to succeeding in ANY of those things. Try to actually respect yourself.
/r/seduction21/10/24 04:52 PM
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Here's the problems with what you're saying a) Women can sniff out and sense when a man is not being highly selective. Sure, practice approaching women you don't find special, but they'll figure out you don't find them special pretty quickly and immediately lose romantic interest in you. So unless you want a friend, it becomes a waste of time and energy. A woman doesn't want a man with low standards because she will conclude that he's a man without many options among women. A woman wants a man w…
/r/seduction21/10/24 12:14 PM
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Well done 💪 happy to hear it
/r/seduction21/10/24 01:08 AM
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Right. Go about your life the way you want, doing things that make you happy and fill your cup so to say.... And just always approach women whenever you find one you like as you're out living your best life.
/r/seduction20/10/24 12:28 PM
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EXACTLY! You nailed it! Thank you for explaining this so well. Hot women get approached a lot, sure, but not very many of them get approached and charmed so well they feel swept off their feet.
/r/seduction20/10/24 10:41 AM
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Lol omg umm... I've never worried about stds while fingering a woman but idk if maybe I should? I don't think you can get herpes that way unless you go fingers to mouth? Anyway, escalate one step at a time... After each small escalation step, make sure she's still into it. If she is, you can eventually take next step.
/r/seduction20/10/24 10:35 AM
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I feel the same about clubs. Too noisy. Too late. Too expensive... My favorite place to meet women is at my favorite places to be. So be honest with yourself, what type of social event do you enjoy? What social gathering makes you happy? Doing this works for a few reasons. You're in a better mood in places that you like being and the big one, you meet better matches of women because their interests are more similar to yours. I personally love athletic, fit women so I love meeting them at places …
/r/seduction20/10/24 10:31 AM
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Nope I'm me and not worried about competition because I know what I'm offering
/r/seduction20/10/24 10:25 AM
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I like this. I say make approaching an automatic habit. No hesitation. When a woman appears who takes your breath away, that's an automatic signal to walk up to her
/r/seduction20/10/24 03:56 AM
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Step 1- enter fun, playful physiological state Step 2 - break the ice with ideally both a comment then a question about something you observe about her or the location you're both in. This is designed to get her out of her head and into the present moment with you. Step 3 - demonstrate your romantic interest in her with a genuine, believable, unique compliment Step 4 - ask questions about her passions and do much more listening than talking. Happy to break down more strategies just dm me
/r/seduction20/10/24 03:52 AM
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Check out my free book and then DM me with any questions or comments you have I'll give you some free coaching.
/r/seduction20/10/24 03:47 AM
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I'm curious what you enjoy about club girls and that lifestyle? Are you just looking to increase your body count?
/r/seduction20/10/24 03:27 AM
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So women like you until they meet you in person for the first time? Do dates go well for a while and fizzle or are they clearly unsuccessful pretty quickly?
/r/seduction20/10/24 03:12 AM
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And? There's STILL a lot of beautiful women out there who have NOT been hit on SKILLFULLY . "Errrm... I know 8 women who have this experience so it's the same thing for the rest of the whole world" 🤣 OK good advice thanks
/r/seduction20/10/24 01:36 AM
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Some girls have a stronger shit test game. There's a fine line between her wanting to see how you handle resistance VS flat out rejecting you.
/r/seduction19/10/24 11:50 PM
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Good answers! Something that gets both of you moving... Just keep moving together until your clothes are off and you're moving up and down on each other 😂
/r/seduction19/10/24 11:28 PM
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Take her dancing. Most women really like to dance. I consider dancing my #1 specific skill for men to learn. You don't have to be Chris Brown, just have rhythm and bop up and down. In a woman's mind, a man with the confidence and attitude to dance with them is one of the easiest indicators he'll be good at sex.
/r/seduction19/10/24 10:59 PM
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I see what you mean but having it happen in person is a thousand times more powerful. That gives men who cold approach such a greater advantage, don't you think? Any guy can slide into DMs but to really get a woman's attention, sweep them off their feet in person.
/r/seduction19/10/24 10:55 PM
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There's a lot of people with low standards. Some women have never had a man boldly and skillfully approach them in person in their entire lives. But if they ever did have that happen, they'd be blown away and flattered beyond belief.
/r/seduction19/10/24 10:45 PM
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Are you kidding me? Every relationship from the history of time starts out as strangers. All relationships are "cold approaches".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 10:18 PM
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Just patiently escalate. If she likes your boner on her ass she wants you to continue to seduce her. Step by step. You need to kiss. If she likes that, make out. If she likes that, touch her body, if she likes that, rub her pussy, if she likes that, finger her, etc.
/r/seduction19/10/24 09:42 PM
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Good I'm glad. And just repeat the process if necessary. You don't need experience talking to women you just find OK. You need experience talking to women you find ideal to you.
/r/seduction19/10/24 09:08 PM
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An hour is a long time on the phone. Leave her wanting more by getting out of the conversation on a high note. This only applies to phone conversations. In person keep it going for as long as you can and physically escalate at the high notes.
/r/seduction19/10/24 09:05 PM
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I can help you with working on your inner game. I promise it's possible to grow and improve your masculine self confidence and release the unaddressed emotional vulnerabilities that you have that are holding you back because I did it! I was a lost cause. Clueless. It took me a long time and would have been more efficient and effective if I had a coach, so that's why I became one. Lmk if you want to work on these things.
/r/seduction19/10/24 08:43 PM
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I get the idea of "I'm going to talk to _____ number of women tonight" but I prefer to think of it a little differently. I prefer to... a) Be highly selective. Don't approach just any woman, make sure she's one you find special for some reason and is worth approaching. b) Assume the best. Believe the first woman you approach will work out well.
/r/seduction19/10/24 07:40 PM
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I need to know more about you. Like what are your strengths? weaknesses? How much confidence do you have? Where's your self esteem at? How much self love? Self respect? What are things that are bothering you? What trauma have you had to overcome? Feel free to answer publicly or DM me
/r/seduction19/10/24 04:34 PM
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Lmao great point! People can totally have a coach for training their bodies or all kinds of other skills... but coaching their social skills, confidence, mindset, and a masculinity is f'n bogus, bruhhh
/r/seduction19/10/24 04:30 PM
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Awe does it offend you that I coach? People have two choices, really. Figure it themselves or do it with the help and guidance of someone who's been where they are and gotten the result they they want. Which one do you think is the smarter way?
/r/seduction19/10/24 04:26 PM
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Absolutely agree... We're all beginners until we gain experience. Obviously the learning curve is faster for guys who are more self aware or have a good coach who guides and gives helpful, specific advice. Just can't take rejection so personal. It's feedback to help you continue to calibrate.
/r/seduction19/10/24 03:03 PM
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Never not know what to talk about when you learn the echo technique. Know a handful of good open ended questions (her life, her passions, her childhood) and when she's talking, pay attention to words that have emotional meaning to her. You'll know the words the way she emphasizes them. Maybe a tone changes, a pause, etc. Then repeat that word/phrase verbatim as a question. For example, she says she loves visiting the beach. All you say back to her is "The beach?". And she'll continue talking and…
/r/seduction19/10/24 01:44 PM
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You need to learn to love yourself before expecting anyone else to
/r/seduction19/10/24 01:17 PM
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Here's the problem most young guys don't understand.. Most of the ways you've been taught to behave is unattractive to women. Be polite. Be quiet. Sit still. Stay in line. These feminine traits young men pick up in school strip them of their natural masculinity. At your age, I'd retrain myself away from how society said you should act and learn to embrace your true self.
/r/seduction19/10/24 12:52 PM
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I recognized the feeling I had in myself when a certain woman was in my midst. It's almost a feeling of my breath taken away. That was my cue to go shoot my shot and introduce myself. It helps with anxiety too because I didn't sit there and let my mind race, I just immediately acted.
/r/seduction19/10/24 12:00 PM
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Whenever I saw a woman so perfectly my type I taught myself to approach her automatically. No hesitation. But I really haven't hit on girls while on the clock so I'm not sure how I'd manage that
/r/seduction19/10/24 11:44 AM
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Well done putting yourself out there, reflecting on what went right and what went wrong, and staying positive.
/r/seduction19/10/24 01:34 AM
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I'm a big fan of cold approaching. Handling rejection is a skill and I talk about reframing the way you view it. #1) You have the opportunity to learn what does and doesn't work well #2) You become more resilient as you expand your comfort zone and, most importantly, #3) you understand she doesn't deserve you anyway. You only want women who will appreciate your awesomeness. It's her loss! When you have high self-worth, rejection doesn't faze you one bit because you know, to your core, she's the …
/r/seduction18/10/24 10:28 PM
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Any social gathering taking place that serves drinks and plays music during the day. Definitely all the holidays have them. Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas parties. Definitely St. Patty's. There's this charity event called Cupid's Undie Run that takes place every February in cities all over which is a personal favorite because I am batting 1.000 for hooking up with girls at that one. Sports games. I'm near Columbus Ohio and every Saturday for Buckeyes games is a big party day. Those types of …
/r/seduction18/10/24 09:04 PM
1

Always take it as far as you can the night of. Escalate and make your move one step at a time. Make her shut you down for going one small step too far. So you probably should have tried to kiss her. Then if she liked that, you'd try to make-out. If she likes making out with you, then you start using your hands on her body. If she likes that, then you need to get a room and get busy. I also would have texted her on my way home and told her how cool she is and that I can't wait to hang out again i…
/r/seduction18/10/24 07:32 PM
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I wouldn't act uninterested at the beginning. In a group setting you can engage everyone with your ice breaker, but with the woman you want, subtly demonstrate your interest. Not too subtly but not too forward, but definitely so she decodes you think she's special in some way. It's more fun for women to have to decode what you think and feel, instead of you out rightly saying, "I like you". Do that by using your eyes, smile, or a smooth, subtle comment indicating your interest. Because the soone…
/r/seduction18/10/24 05:29 PM
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Remember to focus on your physiological state (bodily feelings) when you approach women because they'll feel whatever you're feeling. I suggest getting into a fun, playful state, flattering them, and asking them what brings them to the current location while making sure your signaling fun and playfulness with your eye contact, smile, body language, and tone of voice.
/r/seduction18/10/24 03:02 PM
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There is absolutely brainwashing but I still believe in the power of the thousands generations of humans who evolved to connect in person, not a phone screen.
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:52 PM
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Lol who's telling you approaching women in person isn't socially acceptable? It's amazing the flat out lies some guys believe. Trust me, when this woman's mom and friends ask her where she met her boyfriend, she'd MUCH rather say she met you in person, not online. Women dream of having a confident, masculine man boldly approach them and sweep them off their feet.
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:00 PM
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It's actually not tough. The first thing I suggest is to know yourself and what environment makes you happy. I personally love a good daytime party because I always get tired around 11pm. But at 11am I'm full of energy and that's when I like to socialize. But you know yourself and what works best for you. Anyway, I go to these daytime parties on a Saturday afternoons and have a great time by myself just dancing. You know how confident and fun a man looks when he's dancing? Women love it. It feel…
/r/seduction18/10/24 12:22 PM
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Those count... But there's obviously something you're doing wrong with these approaches. Don't you look back and reflect what you did to cause them to reject you? And I promise it's not looks (unless you're 5'7 approaching women who are 6'0. You should pick girls around your height if you don't).
/r/seduction18/10/24 12:06 PM
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You can ask questions as long as you soften... "I'm just curious" what brings you here tonight?
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:56 AM
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I upvote the fuck out of this. You can't fake vibes because women read men much, much too well to think you can fake it.
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:54 AM
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It's almost like human beings have evolved over thousands of generations to connect IN PERSON and NOT a fucking app!
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:50 AM
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Feel free to DM me
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:18 AM
1

How many women have you approached this week?
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:17 AM
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Find the right one then use seduction skills. Quality over quantity.
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:15 AM
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Agree. Knowing what you want. What's your dream girl and dream relationship even look like? "if you aim for nothing, you hit nothing"
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:13 AM
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Probably the most difficult part of women is being able to "Walk the Line" where you "actually like her" but can still make her chase you. If you don't like the women enough where your underlying energy and vibes speak that you "actually like her", you're going to fail.
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:11 AM
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A genuine sense of self-love and self-respect for myself that gives me an underlying energy which women can feel. A low, smooth voice, slow subtle movements, being good at dancing, and immensely comfortable in my own skin. A confidence that is not aggressive or abrasive, but still very clearly there. Having an attitude of: “I don’t ask for what I want, I take it” Pretty much, it’s subtly communicating big dick energy (even though it's actually average)
/r/seduction17/10/24 08:15 PM
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No endless texts just to get ghosted. No catfishes. ... Cold approaching and meeting women in person is the way to go. 👍
/r/seduction17/10/24 11:44 AM
6

5 dates? Geesh... How much did that cost you?
/r/seduction17/10/24 01:46 AM
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Yes. Making her smile is a much better goal than making her laugh.
/r/seduction16/10/24 09:28 PM
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Was she a stranger?
/r/seduction16/10/24 08:42 PM
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Look for an invitation or signal that you have permission to approach them. What would that look like? Positive eye contact first. Smile, Mouth the word "Hey" and see if she smiles or waves. If she does, you can approach, tell her you don't want to interrupt her workout, make a compliment, and see if she'll swap digits. So it's less about what to say and more about getting that "permission" to approach.
/r/seduction16/10/24 07:09 PM
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Here's the thing... He's got a pretty challenging situation. Like many comments have pointed out, approaching a woman in this situation is probably not even a good idea at all. She's not running to socialize. She will probably feel uncomfortable if he approached her in any conventional kind of way. I mean, stopping her and saying, "Hey, how's it going" obviously is a terrible plan. So to pull it off, it would take some creativity in line with what I suggested.
/r/seduction16/10/24 07:03 PM
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It's almost like humans evolved over thousands of generations to feel actual attraction in person and not through a smartphone.
/r/seduction16/10/24 06:26 PM
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True. I don't do like late nights, so that's never been my thing. I like going places with day-drinking opportunities.
/r/seduction15/10/24 08:46 PM
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This for sure! A lot of times women won't remember anything you say, but they will absolutely remember how you made them feel. There's so much to be conveyed through nonverbal communication. Body language, facial expressions, and tone.
/r/seduction15/10/24 08:34 PM
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Flaunting money just attracts women who treat relationships transactionally. Women don't know what job you have or how much money is in your bank account when they first meet you, but they will go home with you on the same night you meet if they like you.
/r/seduction15/10/24 08:32 PM
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I like to break the ice by asking a question about the location/occasion/situation. Something easy like, "What brought you here tonight?" That gets her out of her head and into the moment with you.
/r/seduction15/10/24 08:30 PM
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"I love your vibe!" subtly glance at her up and down like she looks super yummy "What brings you here tonight?" genuine smile and positive eye contact Keep asking her open ended questions, letting her feel like someone is truly interested in her as a person.
/r/seduction15/10/24 08:20 PM
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Wedding Crashers ftw! They knew what's up... Weddings make women horny baby!
/r/seduction15/10/24 07:43 PM
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Right... Attractive, masculine men are not petty or hurt when they're rejected. They hold the attitude, "Your loss!" and carry on in a good mood because life is good as a masculine, attractive man.
/r/seduction15/10/24 07:36 PM
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And girls in which you already have something in common and immediate topic for discussion. "Oh, how long have you been a fan of {BLANK}? Really? How'd that come about?"
/r/seduction15/10/24 07:00 PM
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Have playful psychological state. Girls want to have fun. Women also love to feel heard and understood. Conversation should be her talking at least 2/3 of the time, mostly about herself and her life. Have genuine curiosity about her, especially try to find what lights her up in life. Uncover what she's passionate about and continue to stay on that topic. Good listening techniques. Be in the present moment with her. Your focus is on her 100%. Head nods, listen loudly ("wow", "really", "no way", e…
/r/seduction15/10/24 06:53 PM
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Where is your favorite place to be? I like sports and athletic girls so ballgames and rec leagues worked really well for me.
/r/seduction15/10/24 06:44 PM
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Women can read what men are thinking with a lot of accuracy, so make sure you just allow yourself to think the thought, "Damn, this woman is super sexy. I want to have sex with her." When you're actively thinking that thought while interacting with her, you manifest the subtle behaviors that she will decode that let's her know you think she's super sexy. Don't feel any shame for having this desire to have sex with her. I'm actually saying to hold that energy. Just make sure you keep it playful, …
/r/seduction15/10/24 05:18 PM
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How do you know so much? What's the source of your advice? Do you regularly get 10s?
/r/seduction15/10/24 04:06 PM
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I used some hyperbole to get my point across but my advice is absolutely his best chance to draw her in. Carrying on as if she means nothing to him, the opposite of being needy or desperate, is not insecure behavior at all... It sends her the message, "Your loss". Curious.. What do you think he should do?
/r/seduction15/10/24 02:44 PM
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She already knows he wanted to take her out in a romantic capacity and you know what's worse than her thinking, "he just wants sex"? "Oh, he wants to be friends". We obviously want to avoid the friendzone at all costs.
/r/seduction15/10/24 01:34 PM
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Since you will continue to see her frequently at the gym, I'd pretty much ignore her. Maybe smile and nod for a quick second, but then carry on with your life like she never existed. Be so content with your life and yourself that it appears as if you're already moving on because that will intrigue her even more. Almost make her feel invisible. Knock her down off her pedestal. Act unimpressed with her because that will intrigue her and make her want you even more. Let her chase you. Let her be de…
/r/seduction15/10/24 12:50 PM
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That's why as a life coach I wrote my book, but what sets me apart will be the accountability and support. While I'm under 100 clients, I can make sure they're not just mentally masterbating but actually taking action.
/r/seduction14/10/24 06:18 PM
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"Make sure you can afford food and shelter" lol yeah I guess that's probably a priority over being able to find a date.
/r/seduction14/10/24 06:16 PM
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Yeah I am. More on the life coach side of things, though. I've got my own unique perspective to offer which I believe could be of value but mainly want to coach men through their unaddressed emotional pain and trauma that's holding them back. Of course my ideal client is my past self. My trauma came in the form of being abandoned by my alcoholic mother and living with my womanizing father, being bullied, and being on the spectrum. When I finally fixed why I was such a failure with women and fina…
/r/seduction14/10/24 06:10 PM
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Money is not a requirement for beautiful women to be attracted
/r/seduction14/10/24 05:36 PM
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If you don't mind me asking... How long have you been using dating apps and have you found what you're looking for yet? If not, why do you think that might be?
/r/seduction14/10/24 05:34 PM
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Rather than relying on a job, I'd say be able to demonstrate some serious ambition for something. A guy's job might not light him up in life, but if he does find something that he wakes up everyday excited for, those kind of vibes are very magnetic and attractive.
/r/seduction14/10/24 05:33 PM
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An inner transformation is ideally what results from reading and that transformation leads to taking action, absolutely.
/r/seduction14/10/24 05:25 PM
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That's all in your head. You must seriously challenge your thoughts and beliefs. When you believe women have leverage, they are intimidating and challenging. When you believe you have more attractive power, they are easy and accessible. And whatever you believe becomes your reality. So internalize this, "I'm the prize." "Whether you believe you can or believe you can't... You're right" - Henry Ford
/r/seduction14/10/24 05:21 PM
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