Does experience actually matter in the long term ?

PleaseDontBeTakenPlz · 2024-12-25T00:33:10+00:00

It matters if you think it matters. But you’re not getting any younger and i hear its harder to find quality people with no kids as we get older.

If you get more experience, you may find it easier to find “quality women” whatever that means to you. But you may be left wondering if you let a really good one get away. If you stay with her, you may wonder what else is out there.

As a woman, I’m in the same spot rn. I haven’t found a “perfect guy” but dating some pretty quality guys rn and just exploring more and learning how to flirt better to see what’s out there for me. Flirting is an art, and the faster and more you master it - especially when you’re young, i think you can find better and better people. But you have to understand there’s a cap and you probably should have a timeline and list of attributes you know you’ll get out of the game for.

KoleSekor · 2024-12-25T01:23:55+00:00

You should always have high standards for who you commit to, but your goals with women are subjective to what you want. Only you have the answer to this. Are you willing to walk away from a quality woman to spend this upcoming season of your life dating a variety of women? That's fine. Otherwise, it'll take time to find the right woman anyway, so yes, quantity and experience should be a byproduct for you if you're doing this thing right.

Dandys3107 · 2024-12-25T11:11:43+00:00

I think both of paths serve different purposes, but from my own experience I appreciate my longer relations much more than brief flings. Generally you don't wanna maintain this poor mindset of seeking validation elsewhere than yourself, you should follow your own convictions and desires.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-12-25T19:59:53+00:00

I would set the timeline like for example 2 years. Go fun and wild for 2 years deeper in the game. But in the meantime you don’t have to let go of the woman you mentioned. I’d tell her that I’d like to take things slowly. Maybe you see her as very compatible as of now, but only time can tell.

riordanajs · 2024-12-26T11:34:03+00:00

Experience matters, but the age you get the experience at as a man matters a lot less. If you start at 28, go out 3-4 times/week and actually approach, you'll get good in a year, easily. By the time you're 30, you'll be saying no to good looking women.

If you find it hard to start, find a bootcamp or an accountability group to get you started and keep you going.

Getting into a relationship without having to confidence that you can replace your girlfriend with someone at least as attractive will lead to bad outcomes. She'll sense that you need her and will demand more and more, while losing attraction. Never cheat in a relationship, but have the certainty in yourself that if you wanted, you could. That's the sweetspot, that will keep her on her toes and best behaviour.

Probably even if you'll start a relationship, you'll fall into a pattern where it starts very well and then the negativity starts creeping in. Notice when it does and just leave, it will not get better.

Title	Does experience actually matter in the long term ?
Author	garbagesunshine
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	December 24, 2024 11:45 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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