I’ve been with my gf for 3 years now, she’s bi, I’m straight. We’ve been in swing lifestyle for 2 years and has a few couple swap experiences, and a few threesomes with female friends of my gf.

We love to go to raves and into EDM, occasionally bars or clubs. Gf is extremely beautiful, I’m above average handsome but not a jaw dropper. We haven’t tried very hard so far to pickup a girl at a rave or festival yet, always talk about it but while there she gets a little shy and approaching girls for picking them up isn’t a natural thing for her. Which is ironic because she’s very outgoing in meeting new people under more platonic motivations… only when trying to pickup to get laid she gets shy.

Which is better usually for success in picking up girls as a couple? To have her do the approach and break the ice and then me come in later… or have me do more of the leading and be the one to approach and then bring my gf in?

If I’m doing the approach, how soon do I mention I have a gf and introduce her?

If there’s better success with gf doing approaches but shes not real excited for that part and feels shy, how can I get her more comfortable with that?

We are on Feeld and can have success with couples there, but finding unicorns on dating apps seems near impossible and extremely challenging.