I’ve pretty much had it. I’m desperate to get out of my 7 year marriage because my wife will not even consider she has a problem. We’re in Spain.

But I feel stuck. I put us in a position where she’s 100% dependent on me. She is a SAHM, we live in a house which I pay for 100%. She has no savings, no income, no car. Her family is on the other side of the country, with a disabled mum and no savings either.

To make things worse, we have a 3 year old daughter which wife has turned into an absolute Velcro baby. Kiddo can’t even be in a different room to mum. This is the main reason I want to divorce her, as there is no way I can give my input on how the child is raised. It’s either her way or no way, and she makes me look like a monster to our daughter because I try to instil some control and routine while wife thinks it’s best for baby to do as she (baby) pleases whenever and whatever she wants…

This means there’s no chance the kid could stay with me alone as it would be traumatising, and I don’t want that for her (the kid).

So.. what should be my next move?

  • I can’t kick her out of he house as she has zero income and savings to rent a place on her own.

  • her moving back with her parents means she would have to move across country with zero chance of finding a job. Their house is tiny and not fit for a baby.

  • I could (just about) afford to leave and possibly rent/buy a new place and car, but does that mean I would be gifting her my house and my car? She doesn’t deserve it. Also, our house needs consent maintenance and she’s not capable or willing to do any of it. I’ve always been the one doing everything. She can’t even reset a breaker without me guiding her.

  • I don’t want to continue living with her and just be divorced. Frankly, the divorced part I don’t really care about because I have zero intention to remarry, I just want her out of my house.

Help. Any clear minds out there who’ve been through this and could share some ideas?