I suffer from serial oneitis

Tarmyniatur · 2018-10-10T04:51:35+00:00

how in the fucking world can she be loving HIM

She doesn't, and she didn't love you either.

menial_optimist · 2018-10-10T07:49:05+00:00

Bro I'm just starting to recover from a oneitis from 1 month ago, I had re-contacted an ex I dumped 3 months prior to that because the direction she was headed in life was nowhere meanwhile I am about to go to school for a career and plan to live an exciting life.

This oneitis shocked the fuck out of me when she told me she had found a new boyfriend (prob been dating for 1-1.5 months) and that he had moved in already with her, her mom and her sister. If you knew my ex, you would know she spends 90% of her time watching netflix in her dinky apartment, so I was a little bit shocked. Went no contact (you should have as well) after saying goodbye haven't talked to her since.

The thoughts about "Who the fuck is this guy think he is?" etc. Those thoughts are just pure insecurity on your part. It's pure ego. In truth, it doesn't really matter.. Nor is it your concern anymore on what she's up to or if she's making good choices in her life anymore. It's simply not your problem.

The mind conveniently brings up memories of every tender moment, every deep cuddle session, every hot fuck while completely negating the other side of the coin. Oneitis makes you feel as if she were your last hope on earth for successful breeding and mothering. It's important to remember THIS IS NOT THE CASE. Go to your local gym tomorrow and observe: you will see dozens of single, young fit women begging to have their leggings stripped off by a worthy mate. Available women are everywhere.

It's easy to remember and long for those warm memories with her. It's important to gain a zoomed out perspective on the matter in that in reality, she was no unicorn and was not special. You could find a woman with her qualities and more.

By the way all you had to do was look at the sidebar:

Realize that your desire to have them ‘back’ comes from your ego Your ego is the strongest emotion you have and it absolutely cannot take no for an answer. As I said earlier, humans are tribal animals and our biggest fear is getting kicked out of the tribe. For that reason, our ego is constantly striving to gain a higher position of esteem in the tribe so that it does not get rejected. And nothing shatters the ego that getting rejected from somebody we are intimately and romantically involved with.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4hp639/how_to_get_over_a_break_up/

vandaalen · 2018-10-10T07:58:52+00:00

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UEMcGill · 2018-10-10T12:39:29+00:00

Your problem isn't oneitis, it's the pedestal. You put that pussy up there and then idolize it.

Look, LTR's can be great. You can build a life, you can have kids, you can slay dragons. But one thing you can't do; put that shit on a pedestal.

First off, get yourself a mission. The mission is paramount, not the girl. IF, and that's a bit if, you invite a woman into your life, she is there to support the mission. The moment she stops supporting the mission, she gets ejected. This is called the First Officer model.

The reason 99% of first officers get off the boat voluntarily? Poor leadership by the captain. Captains provide both fear and fun (aka tingles). They provide safety. They provide leadership.

So let me ask you, why would she jump ship (aka safety) to go crew on another mans boat? Where were you lacking in the rest? What's your mission?

BrutalMan420 · 2018-10-10T06:21:01+00:00

your turn ran out. keep in mind shes not yours. remember that every day. familiarity breeds contempt. for women feels mean everything. when they dull shes outta there.

Title	I suffer from serial oneitis
Author	throwinghthisoneaway
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	October 10, 2018 4:43 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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