TLDR: I'm decently good at day game but I've never been able to do night game/1 night stands. I think my kryptonite is sexual escalation and flirting. I wanted to get some advice about convo topics for sexual escalation.

Full story. I'm Black in Japan, been here afew years and cn speak conversationally. Anyway I went to my usual international bar last night for New Year's party and it was great. Decently full with Friends that I knew and new Faces , beautiful faces. Man Asian bunnies are so cute. Anyway.

I was having a great time with this PhD girl. I shared some laughs with a slender redhead. And the 2 hottest girls in the corner were awesome to chat with, but they had no English ability so it was all broken Japanese/English, google images, gesture etc. The last 2 were fun but they felt abit superficial, I think the language barrier made it abit hard to escalate the convo. Eithway, I was having a great night: my mates were there, i talked to plenty girls, (I shoulda pulled those hot ass girls maybe, or gotten the PhD girls numbers for another time) but honestly none took my eye like the last woman I met.

An older woman, works out, travels a lot really interesting person to talk to. And I was getting some good indications of interest from her, she even started a conversation about relationships and we started talking and realising that we both have the same view on open relationships, being able to see multiple partners bcoz this love thing can get complicated.

It was at this point that I knew can close her. Keep in mind we're both sober because we're both driving home that night. But I kept running into a wall where I'm trying to find conversation topics to make the interaction more sexual. Like i compliment her smile and how she smells so good and I'll pull in close to her but I didn't know how to proceed from there. She was comfy with me close and touching her waist, dancing together too. I played with her hair and her jewelry and complimented her on that too but didn't know how to really get the butterflies running in her tummy, maybe I did I didn't realise it? I tried to get her to relocate to a different bar, somewhere more private but she wanted to go home soon and declined. So I walked her to her car, hugged goodbye and left. I also have a girlfriend and some of my mates know, so i was tryna not be too obviously cheating with this new woman at the bar.

So I guess my question is what are some good sexual conversations to have with a woman to increase the attention and the flirting energy and really validate and see if this is 100% possible close? Maybe I don't need these topics at all, and should just go in for this kiss but I wanna ply around with that flirty energy more, get her horny.