Were our Grandparents truly happier than we are

RiP_Nd_tear · 2025-01-27T05:55:16+00:00

They were less spiteful, that's for sure.

Jake0024 · 2025-01-27T15:56:48+00:00

Just saw a video this morning from a WW2 vet in tears about the state of the world falling back into everything he and his friends fought (and many died) against.

Some people are happier, others aren't.

Anecdotally, my grandma (only grandparent I have left) always asks why I'm not married yet. I say I'm one of the youngest of my cousins, and grew up seeing all my aunts, uncles, and older cousins go through divorce(s). She always laughs and says "that's true, we never had that when I was your age."

Then she'll say how she never really wanted to get divorced--there are times she "wanted to kill him," but she never thought about leaving. Depending on the mood she's in, she might talk about the drinking or the screaming or the hitting. She'll talk about how she saw it affecting her kids and then she'll say again "oh there were times I thought about killing him" and then something again like "but I could never leave him."

SlyPogona · 2025-01-27T16:53:13+00:00

The "boomer jokes are I hate my wife" meme kinda proves that marriage wasn't a walk in the park for men either, but it only comes up when it's used to shut men down

NuclearGorehead · 2025-01-28T01:45:45+00:00

saw a post from some insufferable feminist stating that our grandmas were not happier they just kept there mouths shut

Sounds like this person has no clue what they're talking about. Most likely, they're basing their whole idea of what it was like living as a woman "in ye olden days" (ie; anytime before the 1980's) on a steady diet of Hollywood embellishments, over-exaggerations, and/or outright lies. Ironically, modern-day women who claim stuff like this are speaking over the women who have actually lived through those times.

I don't doubt that women could have been subject to marital abuse by their husbands or that they were generally not taken seriously by society. But if I'm certain about one thing:

Marriages back then were generally better than they are now. Why do so many older people over the age of 55 seem to enjoy longer marriages with their spouses than the average young couple? Some have been married for well over 70 years.

Not to mention, posts like the one you mention don't take the experience of every woman who lived during the 70s, 60s, 50s, etc. into account.

Hell, my grandmother (God rest her soul) managed to get my grandfather (I guess he was a real 'bad boy' back in the day - a huge womanizer) to settle down just by telling him 'No.' Funnily enough, there was no ✨️gurlbossing✨️ required on her part. Lol.

Modern feminists are a hoot.

Mysterious-Citron875 · 2025-01-27T10:05:08+00:00

There is a good chance that grandparents were happier than modern men. Most of the old generation of men experienced parental abuse, but although the latter is far less common in modern times, school became necessary and is now the new source of child trauma. And unlike the old generation of men, who became independent at the age of 15-16, modern men have to study at least until their 20s. Before life was simple and men had a purpose, they had a lot of responsibilities and were always put in the most dangerous situations, but they had extra rights and privileges to compensate, now men only have responsibilities and asking for something in return would be seen as mysogyny. It used to be very easy to make a living, even if you were poor you could feed yourself and many other people. Now, if you want to a decent living, you have to be an elite.

For grandmothers, life was great, but as we now live in a world of female supremacy, where the average woman can have everything an average man can only dream of, it's clear that modern women have it better, and by far. They have all the rights and privileges of men, but none of the responsibilities, society still expects men to fulfil their traditional role towards women, even if women do not fulfil their traditional role, and if you don't follow his there are great chances you will end up single. Not only do most people care more about women, they despise men; we have come to the point where even a female criminal gets more sympathy than a male victim. Men's issues are either dismissed or seen as women's issues and only from a female perspective. Everything a woman of the old generation could have wished for, the average modern woman can get almost for free.

dougpschyte · 2025-01-27T06:49:13+00:00

Yeah, they were happier, because they didn't realise how much they were being manipulated and controlled.

There was no Internet.

They worked, they sired kids, they died.

All under the auspices of Briffault's Law.

BottomContributor · 2025-01-27T14:24:46+00:00

Happiness is relative, but I venture to say that if they experienced today and their time, they wouldn't be happy being here.

theflamingskull · 2025-01-27T07:32:12+00:00

How old are your grandparents?

Fffgfggfffffff · 2025-01-27T07:05:49+00:00

I think this is subjective, and each person have different answers.

michaelpaoli · 2025-01-27T11:20:50+00:00

Get off my lawn, 'ya whippersnapper!

;-)

Uhm, ... you were saying?

AdFuzzy8155 · 2025-01-28T11:16:55+00:00

I'll take them shutting the fuck up. Yes that would make me very happy.

paradoxicalman17 · 2025-01-28T16:13:27+00:00

Yes, 100%

jules_jokes · 2025-01-30T08:35:25+00:00

I don't. Women back then couldn't own a home, bank account, start a business without a man. So yeah, grandma's were chained to stay.

No-Feedback7437 · 2025-01-27T13:43:15+00:00

No, my grandmothers were mentally ill, and both of my grandfathers left them

Tiger4ever89 · 2025-01-27T07:23:00+00:00

of course, there grandmas keep their mouths shut... back in the day going to work was like trying to train for a marathon.. in comparison with laziness from the office these days

Title	Were our Grandparents truly happier than we are
Author	Born-Leadership4526
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Date	January 27, 2025 5:41 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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