Hello everyone,

Whenever I go to clubs or travel, I often feel overshadowed by my friends because most of them are more conventionally attractive , tend to attract more attention from girls. I have nothing against my friends, but when I’m the one paying for the trip (everyone pays for their fair share) and looking out for myself, I want to ensure I can also take control of the conversation and make an impression.

However, it sometimes feels like I’m stretching myself too thin, and I wonder if it would be better to focus on day and night game by myself instead of going out with them.

As an international and from a different race, what can I do to set myself apart from my friends? Should I continue trying to stand out in the group, or would it be more effective to go solo to increase my chances (my last trip was fun but I felt i had less success of starting a conversation because of my friends)?

Every time I go out with them, I notice that girls—whether in groups or alone—tend to show more interest in them, and by the time I get a chance, it feels like the dynamics are already decided. What would you suggest?