Need advice!!

spacedcadet1 · 2025-02-18T22:47:50+00:00

RIP to your inbox.

HomelessMilkman · 2025-02-19T12:18:22+00:00

You're too empathetic and conscientious; so when you go to act, there's barriers, distraction, hesitation, etc. Because of that, it's not 'smooth'. The more conflicted you are internally, the less focus you have to 'just do the thing'.

It's simple, there's no magic. The basic guides of expressing yourself sexually or romantically are fine. It doesn't personally work for you because it gets imbued with all of this self-consciousness, micro-managing, and it goes from being a honest expression of fun and enjoyment, to tense and serious.

It's the same problem with both sexes. You have to sell your actions as if it's something that should be enjoyed. You can't express yourself with the uncertainty that what you're saying is 'good' or not; if you've commited to expressing something, you have to own it. It's the energy and enthusiasm in your expression that makes people feel good and allows them to receive it positively.

Women are typically 'better' at this because you are getting compliments, you are being granted 'permission' externally. Obviously due to circumstances, despite what's happening you may still not have the trust in yourself that what you have to express is of value. At the end of the day, you have to speak like you want to be heard and talk like you're sharing good news.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-02-20T02:37:28+00:00

As a girl you don’t actually have to ‘do’ much. Just be as hot as possible. So gym 6x a week and max out your looks should be the #1 goal. Then if a guys interested just be friendly and let whatever happens come naturally

CommanderBayou · 2025-02-19T00:54:26+00:00

As a girl, your really more of the gatekeeper of dating so its really less of a case of 'How do I date' and more of 'How do I choose the best guy'. But thats besides what you want, you want to learn how to flirt:

Research what the 'Push and Pull' method is. Guys do it alot but whenever women approached me, they'd tease me doing this. Its a good way to flirt and very learnable.

Also, just hail mary ask a guy for drinks if you want to lock down a date. If your attractive, most men won't reject being asked out on a date from a young pretty woman

Title	Need advice!!
Author	Suspicious_Head6793
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	February 18, 2025 10:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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