I hold myself to a very high standard physically due to being a competitive MMA fighter, it also makes my time precious to me. after a few months i find girls i'm casually dating think they can let themselves go a bit, but i'll usually dread them into shape or next them. i don't put women on a pedestal but it seems disrespectful when they don't maintain themselves to an appropriate level.

i'll never compromise my standards but it seems like this is a natural progression that comes with comfort and familiarity.

i have friends that are shade bluer and have LTR's that are becoming podgy, but he allows it because "he loves her for who she is not what she looks like". (he has lower SMV)

On paper it seems like in this situation she would get fatter (lower SMV) and therefore become more dependant/attached to him thus cementing their LTR for the near future.

does anyone have experience with this and what is likely to happen in this dynamic?