Preposition: I am aware that I am looking for hopeful words. I am also deliberating if I should really put her on hold and look up other options. Maybe I'll come to a conclusion just by wiriting this down.

Im single, male, white, mid-twenties.

So I have known this girl for a while and she has a boyfriend. We have met about five times but with other people at house parties of sorts. Everytime with a decent pause between seeing each other again. Every time she reinitiated contact. I text with her only for meeting up. She showed me some IOIs. Holds eye contact and is comfortable with friendly physical approaches. (Hand on her tighs for example) She returns those approaches. I have never paid anything for her. Only thing she ever gained from me was fun. We don't talk about 'problems'. Other than short and conversation related remarks about her boyfriend she never used me as a emotional tampon.

The night we've met alone and I didn't take action I failed a shit test wich led me to hold back that night. After that we haven't seen each other a good while. Now she wants contact again and has asked me out thrice the last month. We met once but with other friends, yet her boyfriends frantic cellphone call had her leave a bit too early. The same night she also mentioned to me that she had told her boyfriend shes seeing me but he shouldn't worry because "Im a nice guy".

The last statement clearly told me that she thinks Im a beta yet her overall behaviour shows IOI's.

I am meeting her again this friday and was wondering what you guys think.

Also I'd be interested in differences of behaviour between single and taken girls, possibly links to read up upon.