The girl in my college class who at first was in to me is now keeping her distance and went cold. How do I reverse this?

NiftyDolphin · 2015-10-19T14:24:00+00:00

I've got fuck all for any practical information, but based on what little you've written I think while that she may have been into you, she dropped some hints that you didn't pick up on and now she's moved on.

She may also have just been looking for an orbiter to help her do her homework. She sees that you're not bringing that value to the table so now she's working the other guys.

I haven't asked her out because I'm just practicing my convo skills,

Then don't make this girl your white whale. Some girls just may not want you. That's not their fault. That's not your fault. It just is.

If you're working your game you have to understand that rejection is going to be a part of that.

Keep moving forward.

gamefuck · 2015-10-19T14:49:48+00:00

ahhh STOP. You literally fucked up in the title of this post.

is now keeping her distance and went cold. How do I reverse this?

BOOM YOU LOST NIGGA, GAME OVER. OH WAIT THERE's MORE.

This is really the first time I've ever tried gaming a girl, so keep in mind how much of a novice I am

DAMN SON

Today I sat next to her in class for the first time, and she was squirming away from me, she is two inches from her friend and like 3 feet away from me, and by choice.

betas by dre

I saw her do group work with another guy, and she was all laughing and smiling with him, she was like that with me but now she's just awkward around me.

1 microsecond from being a murder-rape suicide case.

Sometimes she says good morning, hi, and bye too me, but I'm not sure if she's genuine or mocking me, because when I get closer it always ends up awkward.

bitch shatters your frame into a million pieces with one word.

I haven't asked her out because I'm just practicing my convo skills, I just want to game her to respect me and see me a high value man.

Holy fuck okay this is so bad, I'm going to need a line break

1) YOU HAVE MASSIVE ONEITIS. This chick controls your whole damn universe, they could discover aliens living under your bed and you'd only care if she noticed you that day. I mean you have inoperable, terminal oneitis. The only option is to completely remove this girl from your life because you're 1 fucking "hello" away from asking her to marry you.

2) You have no frame. You're letting a girl control how you feel? You're letting how far away a girl sits from you determine your self-value. THAT BITCH IS NOTHING. IN FACT SHE'S DOING YOU A FAVOUR. She's showing you how utterly disgusting you are being right now. I'd act like this around you to knowing how thirsty you are.

3) You want to be a high value man? High value men don't care what women think of them. High Value men don't care if a girl says hi to him that day. High value men think the very idea of a women mocking them is "cute". High Value men don't give a shit if another guy is making her laugh. High Value men don't care if he's sitting next to a girl or she's on the other side of the fucking moon. LITERALLY NONE OF YOUR BEHAVIOUR says "high value man"

Look she says hi to you, which means you're not "Total loser creeper" status. You probably did have a chance with this girl BUT YOU FUCKED IT UP WITH YOUR DISGUSTING BETA DEPENDANCY THIRST. Why don't you just ask the girl to be your mother and suck on her titty.

Women want a man who LEADS and she was waiting for your cue to LEAD her. You never lead though, infact you did worse, you waited for her to lead. You tried to read her intentions with her "hello's" and how many pictometers she's sitting away from you. You are acting like a 14 year fangirl who just met justin beiber, in fact no I've seen 14 year old fangirls with more game than this. Your looks where fine, your personality is probably great. YOUR BEHAVIOUR DROVE HER AWAY.

She is a lost cause now, you may get with her one day in the future but here's the thing. IT's totally out of your control at this point. If she ever gets with you it will because "you don't give a fuck if you do". The only way you're ever fucking this chick is if you're already fucking 3 other ones. So stop talking to her, stop trying, and find another one, learn from your mistakes, but you have massive oneitis and you're behaving like a fucking beta-omega male.

[deleted] · 2015-10-19T14:24:43+00:00

Your power in a relationship is your ability to walk away. A man who is very willing to walk away creates pressures on those who want him in their lives to adapt to him and keep him around. Whoever is more willing to walk will set more pressure, adapt less, and cause more adaptations. The challenge is that he needs to be attractive enough to get people following. The follower is seen as weak, because it's an obvious lack of frame and display of neediness. The followed is seen as that winner. However, the man who makes himself more exclusive than he can attract will wind up all by himself which makes him look weak. When deciding whether to walk away or to follow, you need to weight each of these pressures.

What you probably did was get too excited and begin following her. You probably were more excited to keep trying out game, keep being a stud, explore this new world of tingly females, and be an alpha. In doing so, you were too attracted to the world, as oppose to her, and so you went head first into something incredibly seductive. You treated her like the new world rather than one chick. That inflated her sway over you and made you a follower. That showed weakness and now she's squirming away from the weakness.

You don't need to talk to her right now. What you need to do is show that you can walk away successfully. Importantly, you don't show that you can walk away by walking away. You do it by talking to other women and displaying social power. Don't look over your shoulder at the girl you're asking about. Just trust me that she'll be watching. She'll assume something just went wrong. Maybe she was convenient? Maybe she misread you? If you do shit well then she'll have too much counterevidence of your inability to walk away or your weakness and so she'll get curious again. Then, if you still even give a fuck about her after talking to a number of other girls, you can throw her a bone by talking to her again.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-10-19T15:04:13+00:00

How do I reverse this?

You don't. You move on.

Think horizontally, not vertically. If a chick isn't into you, go find one who is, instead of doubling down on the weird, pretty chick.

psyflux · 2015-10-19T14:14:16+00:00

Sit next to her friend.
Ask her about her friend.

Title	The girl in my college class who at first was in to me is now keeping her distance and went cold. How do I reverse this?
Author	want2beredpill
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Date	October 19, 2015 2:07 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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