So my daughter graduates tomorrow from high school. I'm very proud of her accomplishment - it is awesome. However. There were limited tickets available, and she told me I would be getting 3. I come from a family of 5, all of them live close - grandparents, aunt & uncle. Today my 19 y/o daughter tells me she has 10 tickets as expected, but can only give me 2 (instead of the 3). There was some drama about who was coming due to a very negative past with my STBX and my side of the family (especially my mother and sister), but both grandparents had planned on going. My daughter texted me earlier today, asking me to pick whether grandma or grandpa would be going. Keep in mind, the other 8 tickets went to: my ex, her mom, her brother, our 3 (younger) kids, a neighborhood friend (.......), and her boyfriend. Is it wrong that I feel extremely slighted that her grandparents on my side of the family were the ones to be left out/last pick in the graduation draft here? I can only imagine if she went to her mom and said "Mom, you have to pick between Grandma and your brother (uncle)." She would go absolutely friggin ballistic. I feel like me/my side of the family are being penalized HARD because I'm NOT the crazy one. I've chosen to let it go for now and not approach it with her, because I don't want to be the cause for drama during a very important time in her life, and so I'm not going to make a big thing about her graduation, and there are limited tickets, but is it wrong that I'm extremely frustrated that - #1: My ex gets 3 tickets for her side of the family, I get 2, and #2) My daughter seems to think its more important that her neighborhood friend (who she recently rekindled her relationship with after some boy drama) is more important than her grandparents going? We talked about this on Friday last week and she told me there were 3 tickets for me, so I didn't think to take any action or ask for more tickets from the school. Now it's 2.

Cleary I've failed to teach her the importance of family (not sure it matters, but my oldest, she is my daughter, but I'll note that I adopted her when she was 7, my ex is her bio mom; her bio Dad has never been in the picture and she has never met him nor know who he is, not even his name). I've decided that we are basically just going to show up with one extra person in the hopes they let all of us in. Probably a bad idea but that's what we're doing. But I'm pretty upset about the whole thing. My ex never prioritized family, and it's glaringly clear (and sad) that my oldest daughter seems to be the same way. I'm venting. Thank you for reading. Sorry if I'm rambling/ranting a bit. I am leaving it be, to focus on her and her accomplishment, as I refuse to make this a petty drama-fest with her being stuck in the middle with her parents fighting over tickets.

Am I off-base here?

Edit: grammar/minor adjustments