https://youtu.be/xwN6WXjssfw?si=CJGlhg0sjyraA0d8

I watched a mainstream music video recently, and honestly, it left me unsettled. It was packed with highly sexualised imagery — women shown in submissive poses, constant close-ups of their bodies, and little to no focus on anything but appearance and performance. It’s the kind of thing that used to be on restricted channels, yet now it’s openly accessible.

As a man, and as someone who cares deeply about the next generation — this worries me. What are boys learning from this? That women exist to be watched, used, or judged by how sexual they appear? What kind of mindset are we setting them up for, especially if this is their daily exposure to women in media?

But it’s not just about boys. I think about the girls, too — the daughters who are growing up seeing these same videos. What are they being told about their value? That being desirable matters more than being respected? That their worth lies in pleasing someone else’s gaze?

This isn’t about being anti-sex or conservative. It’s about balance, respect, and what kind of culture we’re normalising. We’ve got to talk about how this stuff is shaping our sons’ expectations and our daughters’ self-image — whether we like it or not.

And just to be clear — this wasn’t some obscure video. It was right there on YouTube’s trending list. The hyper-visualisation I’m referring to shows up clearly in timestamps like 0:22, 0:40, 0:42, 0:48, 0:53, 1:04, 1:17, 1:43, 1:47(worst offender) 1:58, 2:02, and 2:15. These moments aren’t subtle. They’re front and centre, should porn esque be in the music videos or am I overreacting