What I mean by "women problem" is the inability to attract women that you are attracted to.

From my observations from this subreddit, many people's problem of attracting women stems not from not knowing what to say during a date but rather stems from a much deeper problem which is a lack of self-esteem.

However, they are unaware of this problem and are too eager to find companionship when they lack the importance of self-belief and therefore are plagued by self-doubt. Another way to phrase this is, they are trying to learn how to run before they have learned how to walk.

A person questions about their incongruent behavior during a date and the responds to this was:

Too many people do put the cart before the horse. It's pretty hard to think logically when people instead think with their dicks doesn't it? Sure, this sounds harsh because many men do crave to be validated, especially by a "woman" who they perceive to hold great value. The point here is that men who are coming from this angle need to realize what the real potential problem is and it's not a "women problem" or a "I don't know what to say problem during dates," but rather a low self-esteem problem.

Fix this and the world will become your oyster because with confidence you will not be afraid to be who you are because you understand that all this time that...

"I am enough."

And what better is it to have the freedom to be yourself because there is nothing to memorize in order for you to impress others because you already know who you are and that...

"I am enough."

So the problem of incongruency suddenly vanishes because you are you and you simply say "what pleases you" because after all, this is your life.