The original judgement prohibited taking vacation on the other parent's weekend if the vacation week was not consecutive. So we made a couple amendments outside of court between ourselves at the notary, this is a little convoluted, so please stay with me...

Amendment 1: Remove weekend prohibition.

[Amendment 2: Because I knew she wanted to do away with this prohibition, I made sure we also changed the weekly schedule from a 1-3-3 to a 2-2-3 format at the same time. The 1 day with one parent who has 50% custody was very dumb in retrospect.]

By the time we made these changes the original date by which we needed to request vacation dates past (May 1st). Anyways, I gave her my dates and she gave me her dates, I then realized I made a mistake with the dates I chose (we will call these the "bad dates"). She made sure to take 2 of my weekends away, while I selected dates that did not take any of her weekends. So essentially she is getting 6 of my days for free (two Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays).

I then provided her "new dates" two weeks after. She is claiming she has already made plans according to the "bad dates" I gave her. Important note: I have precedence this year in case there is a conflict and the "new dates" I provided her are the same ones I choose pre-amendment and before the May 1st deadline.

No one is budging and the vacation dates are fast approaching. We're essentially in a game of chicken. I have threatended legal action if she witholds my daughter (6), but I'm unsure about my success and I am worried that the judge will simply tear up our notary agreeement because technically any changes to the judgement/agreement need to be done through the courts via a formal mortion.

[I don't care if the judge tears up weekend Amendment 1. I just fear my ex will also call attention to the 2-2-3 Amendment 2 and will also want it thrown out just to spite me, even though its better for our daughter.]

I know we will eventually be in court over custody one day, I just want to be sure that I establish enough precedence with the 2-2-3 schedule that even if the court can technically negate our Amendment 2, that I could argue that doing so would be be to my daughter's detriment.]

Should I or should I not fight in court for the vacation dates I selected this year?