I started seeing this amazing girl. We met at a dating event and talked until the place we were at closed. We just vibed well and had a definite opposites attract thing going on. And, before we left, I politely asked if I could kiss her and we did.

And on our second date, we got a little more intimate in that we had our arms around each other and ran our hands up and down each other’s backs. And last night, we had another date that also went well but this time was a bit different.

She’d had an achy shoulder and, with her head/face in my neck, I massaged it until she felt a bit better (we were also just sitting on the ground chatting and I was gently scratching and rubbing her back as we were talking). And this time, before we left, we made out again and used tongue (I also gently grabbed her face before I kissed her and held on to it as we kept talking afterwards).

But I still feel like I’m not as efficient as I should be. That our rhythms don’t always match. There were a few moments where our noses were touching and we just stood there in the silence before resuming. She hasn’t told me I stink at it (she’s very open in general and I feel like she would have), but I want to make it as pleasurable as possible for her.