oneitis advice (how to stop? etc)

f0ster5 · 2015-10-30T03:50:36+00:00

I'll repost for you in case you missed anything but your previous thread before it was moved,

It doesn't ever completely go away; you are human and it is a natural occurrence for every one. You have to condition yourself, and accept the fact that females are not wired biologically to love you the same way men are to them. It is what separates everyone who practices TRP from anyone else. It takes a lot of will-power, and eventually you won't get it as bad, especially when you garner a true abundance mentality. But we all have our moments of weakness, no matter how much we try to hide it, but we are better because we know the truth and we know how to control those moments.

It depends on what outcome you expect to happen - do you want to date this girl? Or do you want to separate yourself from the oneitis completely? In both situations your best bet is to lay off her for a while, don't contact her unless she contacts you first, and go have some fun with other ladies. Remind yourself there are even better looking girls than her. At this point you can either forget about her, or if you wish to pursue a relationship than do so, but always keeping under the discretion that you can walk away at any time and find someone else when she stops making you happy.

Apexk9 · 2015-10-30T05:27:54+00:00

My one cryptonite was this 17 year old blonde look wise was 100% my type like a Lexi Belle. She flows through my brain randomly all the time.

Okeseko · 2015-10-30T17:42:35+00:00

Evolutionary speaking oneitis it's perfectly reasonable. It is the ultimate manifestation of the scarcity mindset because nature equipped you with a very strong tool to ensure you would take care of your reproductive success fiercly. Considering a caveman tribe would have 50-100 people it's easy to see why we develop this scarcity mindset. Oneitis and rejection were effective tools back then.

If humans had evolved in today's society you would see males with very low levels of rejection and oneitis. Nowadays, those emotions harms your reproductive success. Rejection sucks, but doesn't get you killed neither ostracized. Oneitis is outdated because it assumes you are operating in a universe of 100 people, instead you're operating in a universe of billions.

This thought helped me get over my oneitis. BTW my oneitis lasted almost 12 years (9 of them in a LTR). Today my main plate kinda broke with me, she moved city a month ago. I develop some oneitis for this plate. But to be honest is a matter of thinking logically and control your emotions and you'll be fine. Cut the contact and improve your SMV.

Title	oneitis advice (how to stop? etc)
Author	night_rider1991
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	October 30, 2015 3:35 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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