Anyone else’s partner go through a career crisis? How did you support them?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2025-08-04T17:36:05+00:00

So, here is some general advice.

A. He's a man. Say whatever it is you want him to understand, out loud, using words. So tell him, "Hey, honey, you are my husband and I love you and I want to support you. If you want to talk things over, I want to listen. If you want to be left alone, I will leave you alone." Caveat: if it's the second one, then yeah, you have to leave him alone. He may not want to discuss it all all (although in your case he seems to.)

B. Men often find it easier to discuss things when they are in a "side by side" position rather than a "face to face" position. I don't think that's true of me, but it does seem to be true for other men. It may also be better if you are both performing a task together, which is often when/how men have conversations with each other. So if you are doing something like preparing dinner together, etc.

TheFeminineFrame · 2025-08-04T16:57:03+00:00

Are you willing to support moving back into an athletics career? He might have fears about job security after his last experience. If his new job pays better he might have concerns about supporting the family moving back to athletics. He might need some reassurance that you are willing to weather the risks with him. You can also encourage him taking active steps towards accomplishing that goal.

If there isn’t a realistic future in athletics then maybe he would be interested in volunteering with youth or participating in a sports league.

Show gratitude and pride for his current efforts.

giozimmer · 2025-08-04T17:03:07+00:00

Yes, kind of... My husband was working as a military pilot, it was pretty fine but his dream was to be an airline pilot. It was a hard decision to make because in my country a military pilot has job stability, we knew he couldn't be fired. On the other hand, airline pilots are like other careers, they work for an airline and it can fire you because they need to cut expenses anytime. I'm a SAHM and we have a 3 year old daughter. They have a better salary, though. I just supported him, I said I was with him for whatever he decided. After a couple years he talked to me that he really wanted to quit the air force and that a big airline here was hiring. I said it was fine and now he's been flying for this airline and he is very happy!!! I think you should support him and be there if he needs to talk or if he has some ideas.

The_Gilded_orchid · 2025-08-07T03:30:32+00:00

Mine is going through something similar. He's at the top of his field, and is absolutely depressed by his current work place. But changing roles right now is a little scary as I'm out of work, and he can be let go within the first three months of a job with no reason or warning.

I'm supporting him by keeping his food healthy, making sure he has a solid night's rest (when my insomnia kicks in I retreat to the lounge to read so I'm not keeping him up), and I focus on telling how much I appreciate things he does.

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Title: Anyone else’s partner go through a career crisis? How did you support them?

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Full text: My husband has been struggling with his career identity, and I’m looking for advice on how I can best support him.

He worked in the athletic field for most of his career and absolutely loved it. About three years ago, his position was made redundant, and since then, he’s been in a different sector. The job pays well, but it’s not fulfilling for him, and he’s been feeling really down about it. He’s mentioned more and more lately that he wants to get back into athletics, and we’ve started having conversations about it a few times a week. I can tell it’s weighing heavily on him.

I always try to ask how I can support him, and I do my best to make our home feel like a safe and encouraging space. But I’m wondering if anyone has gone through something similar, either personally or with a partner, and has advice on what else I can do. I want to be helpful without pushing him or making him feel pressured.

Any ideas or insight would be appreciated.

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Title	Anyone else’s partner go through a career crisis? How did you support them?
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