Ok so I told my wife of 4 years that I wanted a divorce yesterday. My wife is amazing but our relationship has gone stagnant. I feel distant from her and all we’ve done for the past couple of months is fight and argue. She’s constantly looking for little things to argue about and does not shy away from a fight no matter how little it could be. It got to the point that I do not want to go home because I know there will be something to fight about.

We sat down last night and I couldn’t help but tell her how I feel suffocated in our relationship and that I think a split is immanent. She did not agree but she already spoke to her mother who’s an attorney and the wheels are already in motion.

The more that I think about it, the more I realize how unsure I am about going through with this. Losing the dream we had together is hitting me like a ton of bricks but I don’t want to be going back and fourth and be in the same situation in a couple months or years if we don’t rip off the bandaid now and get it over with. We have toddler twins and the fact of not being there every waking morning for them is killing me. I don’t want them to think I abandoned them or made this decision because of them. I have so many mixed emotions right now I’m sure none of this even makes sense.

I’m just looking for some assurance that everything will be ok and I’d be able to get through this, because right now I feel so lost I do not even know what to do.

TIA

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