It’s Her Choice But Never His

Andrew_27912car · 2025-08-31T15:04:08+00:00

He should find someone who cares for him

rabel111 · 2025-08-31T22:03:56+00:00

The vilification of male sexuality by women is an issue that has festered over the history of mankind. But not all women are like this, and often its other men (SIMPs) who are the instigators of this sexist view of men's sexuality.

Pretend-Storm4566 · 2025-09-01T01:40:15+00:00

Good points.

Asem_ibrahim · 2025-09-05T19:08:26+00:00

Who hurt you?

PastDifficulty7 · 2025-09-01T00:58:21+00:00

I am confused that you think only men receive shaming messages about their dating preferences. Dating discourse is a toxic clusterfuck for everyone involved.

Every one of these examples could be flipped around. Men who date younger women are "silver foxes." Women who date older men are regularly called 'gold-diggers'.

And men talk about their preferences all the time in coded language. E.g.

* "I want someone who is in to fitness." -> I don't date fat people.

* "I want someone who is warm and nurturing." -> I want a submissive woman who would be willing to stay at home with the kids.

It's sucks for people who are Black and White thinkers, and who appreciate clear rules, because nobody is saying what they mean. However, that has little to do with the "gender wars."

Finally, boundaries are not gendered. Here are some of the differences between Boundaries and Controlling Behavior.

Boundaries:
1. Boundaries are about self-protection and self-care
2. Boundaries define what you will and won't accept in your own life and experiences
3. Boundaries are focused on controlling your own actions and responses
4. Boundaries are communicated clearly and respectfully
5. Boundaries don't demand changes in others - they simply state what you will do if certain behaviors continue
6. Boundaries come from a place of self-respect and self-awareness
7. Boundaries are generally healthy and necessary for good relationships

Controlling behavior:
1. Controlling behavior is about managing or dictating others' choices and actions
2. Controlling behavior attempts to restrict another person's autonomy
3. Controlling behaviors often involve manipulation, coercion, or force
4. Controlling behaviors stem from insecurity, fear, or a need for power
5. Controlling behaviors may include monitoring, isolating, or creating dependency
6. Controlling behaviors are generally unhealthy and damage relationships

Controlling people use the language of "boundaries", because controlling people are assholes. Their gender did not make them an asshole; it's just how they choose to protect themselves, because they are insecure. Boundaries are a real thing, and they are important.

BlueDragonBoye · 2025-09-01T17:46:14+00:00

I have an issue about the framing of this video. It seems kind of black and white, and... socially not true at all?

Some of the social points I disagree with wholecloth in no particular order of importance, just some observations.

-Men are congratulated for getting younger spouses to a certain degree unless it's like a 40 yr old and an 18 yr old, and women are DEFINITELY dragged for being gold-diggers.

-Men shame other men for having small penises just as much if not more. Large penises are seen in America at least as a sign of dominance and that's enforced by other men primarily, not women. Women joke about it to take digs at men they find distasteful which is not good to reinforce, but I have never heard any woman I'm friends with genuinely complain about dick size of their sexual partners unless it was too big to be uncomfortable.

-Dominant women are absolutely seen as aberrant and kinky in society. Men often talk about dominant women with either disdain or with a fetishistic obsession like it's something they're not allowed to partake in but are into.

-This height hierarchy is just not reality. Women sure, it is kind of a trend that they prefer partners that are taller than them, yes, but this talk about 6'0 being the only ones who get relationships or dates is complete BS manufactured ragebait. If this were true only 10% of men would have sex and relationships in America.

-Calling someone fat regardless of gender, is rude. That would not be received well on men either.

Title	It’s Her Choice But Never His
Author	Kumarsratan
Upvotes	106
Comments	6
Date	August 31, 2025 2:46 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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