This is the post I wanted to write when I first started my story here.

It’s a story of progress. And it ends with an invitation to a real-life event where God can change you.

As I look back, I see how low the bar was for me. I thought having a wife who wanted to sleep with me meant I had “arrived.” But my life was still a mess. Mediocrity abounded. My emotional control and leadership were nowhere near as strong as I thought.

It’s all connected.

I hired a coach to help me communicate better, mostly for business reasons. but it has taught me so much more. Red pill truths, Biblical advice, leadership, emotional control, they all have the same goal. I realized I didn’t understand my emotions, so everything came out as anger. If I felt lonely, disconnected, disappointed, or stressed, my answer was always the same: get angry at my wife.

And yet, because of work I had done prior, sex was not an issue. But the rest of my life was mediocre.

I remember where I was before finding RPC: fat, angry, without mission. I thought I was doing what God wanted—but I wasn’t. The only fire I had was chasing money and begging my wife for sex, and neither worked. I’ve heard it said that God gets men’s attention through their pocketbook. I’d add that for married men, he often gets their attention through the bedroom. That was true for me.

I also heard in church that God is often encountered on mountains. Think Moses, Elijah, the Transfiguration. I believe that’s still true today. Most men are stuck just going through the motions, doing what others tell them.

Three things changed my life:

  1. Mission. What does God want? If you don’t know your mission, that’s priority number one. I’ve heard your deepest suffering often reveals your purpose. That was true for me, and that’s why I’m writing this. I want to help others who are in trouble like I was. Without a mission, you’re drifting. My mission came from pain, and it gave me direction.
  2. Performance Enhancement. This is the most powerful performance enhancer ever discovered. It sharpens memory, focus, and creativity; stabilizes mood; strengthens the immune system; boosts athletic performance; and protects the heart, metabolism, and hormones. Nightly doses flush toxins from the brain, slow aging, and extend lifespan. It is sleep. Improving my sleep has changed my life.
  3. Friends. I was lonely for years. Then I realized I needed friends and set goals around it. More importantly, I started calling people—just to talk. I made it a weekly goal, and through this I found my best friend. Stop waiting for people to come to you. Reach out. Not in a desperate way, but show up in places and be social.

This year has been different. This has been the best year of my life. I’ve found freedom and actually been kind to myself. I’ve made better friends. I’m sleeping better than I ever have. I’m bearing fruit for the kingdom of God.

But this post isn’t about me. It’s about you.

So what are you going to do?

You have a fire inside you, even if you feel like it’s gone out. Let’s pour gasoline on it.

That’s why I’m inviting you to Man Camp in Cincinnati, Ohio, Oct 17–19. If that date doesn’t work they are doing a Revival Nov 1-2. Last year was a mountain top experience for me. There I was healed of social anxiety, and I’ve heard countless stories of even greater healings. It’s one of my favorite places on earth.

If you want more, make it a point to be there. If you want to be in my group, join the Discord so we can connect.

There is hope if you do the work. You were made for more.