In Real Social Dymamic, Tyler is really long-winded and meandering when he tries to explain thing. I thought it might be helpful to post one of his ideas more concisely because I think it's still relevant today. I recommend listening to the whole thing anyway at least for the entertainment value and history's sake.
Alright here goes. What are girls attracted to? Value. Survival and reproduction value. You have a certain SMV (sexual markerplace value) and you can and should develop that as much as you can. You can also bypass it while you do that and you should do that too. How?
Confidence is a proxy for the value women are looking for because that value more often that not results directly from having value. Normally you can't get confidence without having a higher value and success because of that, but if you keep persisting in the face of repeated failure (maybe with little bits of success), you get desensitized to it and stop caring about the outcome. This causes you to stop being stifled and just be yourself instead of trying so hard. Girls like this more because you're not trying to trick them into think you're more valuable than you are (which they easily see through), so you start to get more success. Enough success and eventually you'll get confident. Then you'll really have some momentum.
For those of you who know the product: is that clearer? Accurate?
