What are you guys doing to address your insecurities?

Low-Investigator2953 · 2026-03-01T13:44:03+00:00

Affirmation, meditation, journaling , self love , prioritising myself. Helped a lot

Zepp_BR · 2026-03-01T13:49:34+00:00

Therapy and trying to do what my therapist asks of me, mostly

HomelessMilkman · 2026-03-01T15:41:53+00:00

You just have to calm down your nervous system.

You tense up involuntarily (traditionally in your head/jaw/neck/shoulders/gut), your breathing becomes shallow, the energy moves upwards towards your head, resulting in all of this mental activity (ego).

There's no amount of 'positive thinking' that can give you a feeling of safety and security, it's trying to tell yourself you're safe and comfortable, while your body says otherwise.

The only option is to relax and release the tension that arises in situations you struggle with, allowing you to be 'present', ultimately freeing up the bandwidth to be charismatic and fun, be fully focused on your task or whatever.

I've been doing this for 15 years, I've tried all kinds of misguided, ineffective, 'feel good', affirmation, mental gymnastics, 'self-help'; there are things that actually aid the process, meditation, Letting Go by David Hawkins, etc. but at the end of the day it's having the self-awareness to relax and calm down your nervous system, in whatever situation, until you don't have to do it consciously any more.

There are a lot of things that you can't actually carry with you into the situation you want to be proficient at and predominantly, you don't want to be thinking about it at all. It's not 'thinking', it's self-awareness, presence, 'conscious non-resistance'.

LeandersMemoir · 2026-03-01T13:55:44+00:00

Drawing has been good to me. And nothing wrong with a crutch as long as you don’t abuse it.

Available-Note-9652 · 2026-03-01T13:55:57+00:00

I’ve either gotten the validation I needed or learned to live with them.

basafo · 2026-03-01T14:26:31+00:00

Therapy, looking for the proper one for you first!! And trying to do different things

ThreeOneThirdMan · 2026-03-01T14:36:35+00:00

Therapy, push ups, kettlebell swings and writing music

Ulanyouknow · 2026-03-01T14:56:18+00:00

Ive tried to address my insecurities through a lot of methods with a variety of degrees of success.

Therapy was the single most effective and consistent method of progress.

6 months of real and honest therapy did more for my approach anxiety than 3 years of dancing classes and cold approaches

Doki_Doki_Doki · 2026-03-01T18:24:33+00:00

own it, then flip it. insecurities can be your secret weapon if you let them drive self-improvement. focus on what you can control, like skills or fitness. every small win boosts your confidence. stay real, stay curious.

eablokker · 2026-03-02T02:06:45+00:00

Allowing myself to feel all of my fears fully instead resisting them, so their emotional energy can be completed and let go of.

vertascend · 2026-03-02T09:43:23+00:00

Insecurities will exist, face it more and you will become desensitized…. Run away from it and you will never improve

Shadow__Account · 2026-03-01T16:33:23+00:00

Figure out what is causing those insecurities and deal with them.

LastKidOf2002 · 2026-03-01T19:19:44+00:00

Just fixing my crooked teeth lol, now I can smile, definitely a game changer

AimlesslWander · 2026-03-01T19:33:11+00:00

The only insecurity I have is overthinking between approaching girl's in public, read too many women center subreddits and places online and videos about girls not esnting to be approached publicly vs girls who do like it has left me overthinking everything

CressBright · 2026-03-02T10:46:00+00:00

Understand that youre not different from anyone else.

Mostly everyone has insecurities, fears, fear of the uncertain future.

You become different, confident and solve your insecurities by simply understanding everyone are the same, the mind always seeks problems - if you let it.

When you focus on gratitude of what you have good in life you train your brain to see good and luck and gratitude and not insecurity.

Good luck :)

MrTerno · 2026-03-04T00:09:40+00:00

It depends bro, if it’s something that I can change like personality or mindsets I’m actively working on improving but when it’s something you can’t change like height I’m working on acceptance.

Littleboy1292 · 2026-03-04T01:44:50+00:00

Proving to myself that whatever I was previously insecure about is false. I find that the moment that happens, I realise there is no threat. And the effect is instant.

AttractionIntel · 2026-03-01T15:03:26+00:00

Your insecurities are a result of emotional blockages and unresolved baggage stored in your subconscious mind.

Read Letting Go by David Hawkins and Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle- 2 gamechanging books that helped me dissolve my insecurities and develop core confidence.

The key is incorporate mindfulness meditation (based on the principles of letting go) into your daily routine. I do mine for an hour in the morning after my tea and an hour at night after my workout.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-03-01T14:49:03+00:00

Fix them. You've got to rewire how your brain thinks. The biggest one is being my own cheerleader.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-03-01T14:51:21+00:00

Seducing women

SnooGuavas2202 · 2026-03-01T17:15:12+00:00

My friend said Femboys work for him.

Title	What are you guys doing to address your insecurities?
Author	autodidacticasaurus
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Date	March 1, 2026 1:39 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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