My STBXW and I have been separated living in the same house for a few months now (different bedrooms). Long story short - she cheated on me in 2023 and I thought I’d forgiven her but ended up doing the same thing back this past summer. Evidently for her she immediately knew she could not forgive me. We’ve been together for a decade and have two small kids.

Within a month of our separation I had my suspicions she was trying to meet new people and just recently I discovered she has been considering moving out of state for a new guy. I’m just destroyed that she would move on so quickly - and part of me wants to do the same as her. But I recognize that I have a lot to work on for myself. I don’t want to immediately start seeing other people - I want to be a role model for my kids. I’ve started therapy which has helped unpack a lot and understand why I did what I did.

I’m just looking for advice or anyone who’s been in a similar situation.