I am South East Asian living in an European country which has strong negative stereotypes which is borderline racist. One local girl who's friendly confided that locals think you guys are wife-beaters etc. I am like WTF! But this post is not about that. I'm not your average case, living in an unfavorable geography, neurodivergent with a bit of social anxiety because of subtle constant racism and even without it I'm an introverted loner. But I shine at certain things- financially quite stable, mentally mature, love my solitude, intellectually gifted, dressing and grooming quite good, looks- good in my country but here not sure. Height average in my country here just below average. Dating apps have been super depressing. I started going to things which I love- philosophy meetup, left/anarchist group, Pro-Palestine activities, auteur Cinema groups etc.

And there I just am able to have normal conversation asked few girls out and one of them was a theoretical physicist! This sounds basic but a big progress from where I am starting. But once after getting the number I'm not getting any response back or much interest to meet. I'm doing something wrong or maybe they're not sharing numbers thinking about date as the meetings are under the context of the subject. Maybe I'm not very smooth. I straight ask for a date next day after getting the number.

Any suggestions? How do I not get bothered my lack of responses and be motivated to trudge along?

PS: What's up with girls not even fake-offering to pay here? The Marxist in me doesn't mind paying since my wage is higher generally but it doesn't feel nice. On the contrary in my home country the girls always offered to pay. Why the west is walking backwards in sensibilities. Also I see a lot of "provider" BS here. Maybe it's a data issue- the profiles I used date there were in better income/education group than the girls I am talking to here.