Seduction is too loaded a topic and Ego traps are ten-a-penny, however, no matter how good people are by themselves rediscovering the entire literature is nigh impossible, so we need to learn from somewhere.

This is a peculiar situation, as the trajectory of one's improvement is as good as the advice he receives. Let us see two situations were this becomes relevant and develop some simple screening tools to personalise the advice and assess the fit.

Screening learning sources

We begin with understanding the learning sources. It is my strong opinion that seduction is complicated, generalisations and oversimplifications are exactly that... and ultimately fall short.

Regardless, the learner should first observe his life critically. How easy or hard is it for you to get girls now. How important is it to you. Critically assess this and then pick content that matches your current level of circumstances. A person who finds it it especially hard, will get little value from a tall model preaching Seduction. The contrary is also true.

An origin story won't cut it. A writer is reflected on his writing, his material needs to reflect his worldview.

Eastern Mysticism and Seduction

There is an idea that has stuck with me. In Eastern mysticism, the student is the problem itself. A set of even simple realisations can be arrived in totally different ways depending on the students themselves.

The same is true for seduction. Just do or be X, means totally different things for two different people. It is a process of becoming, not a process of learning.

Contrast this to the West. If a student wants to learn something, for example addition. The theory is boxed, standardised and impersonal. Every person knows the same addition as a result. But... does every person know the same confidence?

Accept this and adjust all the seduction material to yourself. Understand that how the (honestly not that complicated) seduction advice is applied to your psyche and your life experience.

Even if two sources speak of the same advice, how that advice is conveyed matters. This is the true screening tool, and as it different for everyone.

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