I love going out to bars and flirting with women but I'm terrible at closing to get them to take me home. Instead I get into situations where they either take my number or I'll get theirs which I don't want.

So, I am in a open relationship with my girlfriend so I can't take any girl home, therefore I want them to take me home.

Now, my problem is that I don't know really how well I'm doing. I know it's a numbers game but my conversion rate is terrible. I get numbers, sometimes I am not sure if they like me so I'll give them my number and let them take the initiative but it's very rare someone reaches out to me after receiving my number. And when I reach out, most doesn't even reply. Maybe it's because when they search my name they see I live with a female around the same age and don't want to have an affair or something.

So what can I do to convert? I can be a bit cautious because I don't want to put girls in a uncomfortable spot and but at the same time I don't want to care about that as much. I heard from a girl I flirted with a few months ago that she wanted me to ask if I could join her when she said she was going home but since I didn't she thought I wasn't interested in that or something.