I have been on here for a while, and I have gotten good at seeing a shit test coming and at least not failing it. Well on Friday I failed a nasty one and I have been spending some time reflecting on this. I keep replaying it in my mind thinking of how I could of handled it, and every time I fail in a different way! At least I know what failing looks like.

On Friday I go to my beginner Salsa class. I have been going for a few months now and I am doing private classes and group classes. I am much improved from day 1! In my private class we are starting doing more complex combos. I am doing fine with the steps, I still have some small errors, but overall I am not being corrected as often as before. I do the private class before the group class -- everyone can see me doing a private lesson. Some times a girl will drop in at the end of private lesson and ask to be my partner -- this is fine with me -- it lets the instructor watch me more closely (and I might find a person to practice with outside of class).

Now I was not very good in the beginning, and I basically got "recycled" in the level 1 group class (kind of, I am also taking a "level 1.5" group class). Well the cycle just started over and holy shit this is so fucking easy.

So every so often a large group of people decide they want to do a Salsa class, and they all come for 1 day of group class and never return (maybe a special discount thing?). Well Friday a bunch of girls (and a few guys) from some workplace came in. They never really intend to really learn -- they also tend not to follow instructions. They are more in party/club mode. I treat my Salsa classes more like the gym, I am here to learn.

Well everything is fine until this one girl is rotated to partner with me. She is a complete cunt. She started of by looking out the window at some "nice NYC apartment". I roll my eyes at her and say jokingly "oh I thought you were looking at your reflection". OK. so we start to dance. I am at the point where I "offer my hand", she is suppose to accept and put her hand on top of mine and let me put my hand under her arm pit. She holds her arm down 100% and leave my hand waiting. Well I could do other things, but she fucked up the pattern that we were doing. I just say "you are suppose to raise your arm". She gets all defensive and says some thing about how it was my fault! OK, well I just ignore this, people can get frustrated.

Well every time she gets rotated to be my partner she makes a nasty bitch comment. I stick with the ignore it thing. It does start to get to me after a while though. Well I notice that she is 100% normal with the other people, just super bitch with me. She keeps pushing for me to comment and by now I am just kind of glaring at her (yea I failed to control my emotions). On the last rotation, I am like fuck it and when she "forgets" to step back, I step on her foot full force. She screams. I just look at her and smile and say "that's what you get for being a cunt." she turns away and stops talking to me. class over. Other girl asks to practice "the more advanced stuff" with me.

So as I advance more with TRP, I can see that I get more shit tests. And they get harder. This is great, it means that girls see me as potential mate -- I am not a BB to just ignore or try to turn into an orbiter. But how do you handle a nasty shit test?

I can't just say "I am not going to dance with you," I would stand out from the group and look emotional/childish. I am still a beginner -- learning -- I can't call her out on the BS, I don't really know if there could be some truth to her crap (I don't think so).

I thought about asking "are you and instructor" or "oh, I didn't know you were an instructor"? -- she is not and this just sounds stupid

I thought about saying "ok, so this is a beginner class and I am not sure what you expect". This is crap cause it validates her BS. I know she is full of crap.

or saying "I don't want to dance with her, but I guess there is no other way to get to dance with the other girls. let's pretend to be friendly"

After a lot of thought I think the right thing to do would of been to call out her behavior sooner: "why are you acting like a bitch?"

The hard thing is to keep cool. How do I keep cool when she is attacking me. I just want her to go away. Taking salsa class is stress full enough, you are learning new shit and feel like you are going to fuck up. I can't focus on the steps when miss bitch is shitting all over me.

Also, this is not the first time I had shit tests during my class. Another (ugly) lady shit tested me a few weeks ago too.

Note, I am not saying that I am perfect, but its fucking day 1 in a beginner group slasa. But I am not horrible -- hell the instructor would use me at times for the class demonstrations.

How do you deal with really nasty shit tests. You can't get away from the bitch. You can't stop the whole fucking class and refuse to dance with her. You might actually be making some mistake, but more likely girl is full of crap. Ignoring it has failed. obviously, getting mad stepping on her foot and calling her a cunt it not the right thing to do.