Lost my long-term boyfriend in a car accident

Wife_and_Mama · 2026-05-08T11:45:37+00:00

The ones telling you never to use dating apps are overwhelmingly single for a reason. Dating apps are the number one way people meet. You just have to use them responsibly. At 23, without being in college or having a large social circle, they're one of your best options. Just be concise in your profile, meet as soon as you feel safe, be honest about what you want, and don't put yourself in situations where you can have sex before you're ready... but really those last two are good bits of advice regardless.

In addition to dating apps, try to take advantage of any and all opportunities to meet people organically. Join hobby groups that might attract both sexes, like hiking or an intramural sport. Consider volunteeting. Everyone will tell you to join a gym or church. Whatever it is, make sure it's something you genuinely enjoy, though, because the other person will as well and it's unfair to bait and switch them. Certainly don't feign an interest or faith to attract a man, though sincerely held religious beliefs can be a great way to find community. Consider asking friends to introduce you to people or meeting through work. Be careful about both, though, because ending a relationship in this situation can cause a lot of drama.

I'm sorry for your loss. It seems like you've done the work to heal, though, so you're just going to have to rip off the bandaid. For that, online dating is perfect. You don't have to go out with your soulmate. It doesn't even have to be a good date. Just match with someone, chat for a few days to a week, and arrange a date in public. That first one is going to be the hardest and most awkward, but you got this.

Financial-Reply8582 · 2026-05-08T04:54:41+00:00

Dont use dating apps, people will trick you saying they want something longterm, they spin plates, will tell anything to get to their goal.

Try to work on yourself first, get healthy, get fit - be good looking.

Then persue hobbies that you have and find people in your close circle, if you worked on your looks many people with sincere intentions will approach you.

Nothing else works..

breesearedelicious · 2026-05-08T14:12:07+00:00

Dating apps, and out in the wild are where you'll find them. It's a numbers game. That's why I'd talk to about 5 guys a week and go out with 1 or 2 on the weekends.

I'd spend a whole weekend day with each so we have time to decompress and talk etc and see if we even wanted a second date etc.

I'd keep those numbers going until I would eventually find someone worth a damn to talk to.

will4zoo · 2026-05-08T11:08:35+00:00

Did he.. Die?

AutoModerator · 2026-05-08T04:46:08+00:00

Title: Lost my long-term boyfriend in a car accident

Author Hot-Fee-4661

Full text: 23F, lost my fist love/long-term boyfriend in a car accident... But I'm now ready to start dating again.....So Where do people actually meet good men for marriage?

I grieved and healed, and I'm ready to finally open myself up to love again. But the thing is... I genuinely have no idea where people meet good men anymore.

I'm not really into hookup culture or unserious dating. I want something intentional and real that could actually lead to marriage.

Help a sister out because the streets are NOT for me....Thanks🙂

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Title	Lost my long-term boyfriend in a car accident
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Date	May 8, 2026 4:46 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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