I think one of the most successful strategies ever is just complete acceptance of who she is as a person.

Come to the date with an attitude of just observing her and letting her be. Try to get to know her without judging her. If you have any thoughts about changing her or controlling her, let them go completely.

Don't let her cross your boundaries, be honest about what you like and don't like if she asks and if you really don't like her, then politely move on to someone else. Be honest about what you want from her too. If she asks, have the balls to tell her the truth and accept it if she doesn't want you to give that to you or do that with you.

It's okay, there really are more people out there and when you start letting go of people who aren't right for you, you're going to be happier anyway, even being single.

If she does meet your needs though, then embrace her completely at every step. Give her a safe space to be herself. Think about her day, when can she just let go and feel safe being herself? You can provide that for her. That would make you valuable because that's not something she can get everywhere in the world. It's both kind to her and an honest seduction technique in one.

While you're doing all of this. Be honest about who you are. If she rejects you for that, then she's not the girl for you. Do you really want to put of a front and live as an actor? Nobody does, just move on and find someone who likes who you are.

I repeat... don't try to change her, contain her, control her or even label or judge her (except for playfully). Just let her be. Okay?