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Update on roommate situation

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Title Update on roommate situation
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Upvotes 0
Comments 34
Date May 24, 2014 10:03 PM UTC
(12 years ago)
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[–]TheSKSpecial 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Monday-morning QBing here, you did good besides this:

She came and wanted to talk. She was not calm, she was in attack mode. I saw that, turned my back and started walking away. She called me a pussy - upon hearing that, i said you know, let's talk.

Don't let her goad you into shit. She wanted to talk, you were walking away and not giving her attention, she called you a pussy and that got you to give her the attention she wanted. Women will do this, call names and try to attack your manhood, because your instinct is to give them the attention they want by responding.

One of the worst things you can ever do to a woman is ignore her. Just something for future reference.

Also, if you can, get the fuck out of there.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

yeah... i realized i made a mistake when i did that, but we were sat down by then and i just went with it. certainly a lesson. thanks for that pat of the back; now that i'm considering moving out, my heart is a bit heavy. I've known this guy for over two years (she's been here for 4 months) and i feel pretty shitty about that, i needed it.

[–]LovesBigWords[🍰] 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (24 children) | Copy Link

I have been in this roommate situation before.

Does this roomie ever talk about child abuse in her past, or about others who've done her wrong? And it's all their fault?

This is not a woman thing. This is a person with seriously fucked up boundary issues who believes her own lies.

Get out of this situation. She may possibly have undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

This goes way beyond being just a garden variety fucking cunt. This chick will escalate with her lies. Because she is seriously mentally damaged somehow.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago* (23 children) | Copy Link

what i am about to say here is purely speculative.

her mom is a single mom. mom is a para-psychologist. studied psych. did not finish degree. now works as a "healer" they have a dog.

dog is uber aggressive. she brought the dog over for a visit - walked him into every room, let him sniff the house. told us not to look him in the eyes "he's sensitive and protective"

later told mom the dog shouldn't be walked into the house and made to ignore the owners. she told me the dog tells her what he likes and that she won't act to suppress his nature because he "communicates" his needs to her and she respects his wishes.

not sure how that extends or applies, not sure if im supposed to be reading that much into it. the first thought i had was "the dog is a man-replacement, holy fuck.."

edit: and yeah, i agree 100%. pretty fucked up shit tbh. i'm more taken by my own friend's blind reaction than hers. if anything has wounded me here it's his reaction, not hers.

edit2: there's also the part where she pretended everything was fine to my roommate even after she said she wishes i'd die. how do you think i should proceed now? currently it's basically take control. don't let them go on their own and team up again, because he does still viewsr her with his pink-shades.

[–]1PaulRivers10 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

later told mom the dog shouldn't be walked into the house and made to ignore the owners. she told me the dog tells her what he likes and that she won't act to suppress his nature because he "communicates" his needs to her and she respects his wishes.

This is what the other poster meant about "seriously mentally damaged" - they don't mean that as a euphemism, he means this chick likely genuinely clinically emotionally unbalanced. That her mother acts that way is a huge sign that it simply runs in the family.

Being this insane, as the other poster said, is not a "woman" thing, it's an genuinely nuts thing.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

previously i only said by passing that she's pretty passive aggressive - but i didn't really see the truth of it. the way she can switch and be nice, and lie about everything being fine despite she's said is making me really believe it's some cluster personality disorder.

with my male roommate not being on my side, i will be moving out.

[–]LovesBigWords[🍰] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link

My ex-roomie was "woo" as fuck.

Her triangulation of your male roomate is classic. Watch out. She could be calm now, but set up a kangaroo court over nothing.

Is it feasible to look elsewhere and break the lease or sublet? My Spidey Sense is tingling with this chick.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link

mine too. it is possible, yes. however, if i do that, i might as well never speak to my male roommate again. and i do like him. he is younger... right now i'm rather torn up about that.

and yes, i am fully aware of her blowing up again. my current strategy is to take full control of the house because obviously if i leave it be, this will repeat itself.

[–]LovesBigWords[🍰] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link

Well, Godspeed and be careful.

Full Disclosure: Am woman who is by TRP standards, post-wall. And Feminist. But I keep finding myself on TRP and agreeing with a LOT of ugly truths, here.

I like the concept of holding frame. I think it is actually suitable for women in work situations, or dealing with unruly people.

I'd make a lousy RP woman, but I like the concept of personal responsibility and self improvement in RP. I think it can be suitably adapted for women who want to improve their life station, without over-reliance on men and their money, so they can choose the ideal partner/fuckbuddy for themselves.

[–]the_real_chronos 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

How is your disclosure even remotely relevant to your comment?

Stop attention whoring. You either contribute to the conversation or you don't. No one cares if you're a woman on here, there's nothing special about that...

[–]LovesBigWords[🍰] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

You're right. The convo got sidetracked.

My point about the roommate still stands, tho, and I do think it's valid.

Do you have any insight for OP?

[–]WorstIsImSmarter 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

That roommate of his who happens to be female is mentally unstable, (nvm, I read the original post, while she's got weird things going on in her head I don't see it as being that out of the ordinary), so OP should probably try and protect himself now. Regardless of the facts of the situation, roommate's side will we weighed more heavily if this gets official.

Actually I'm tired, screw the gender angle. I hate crazy people. OP should protect himself. The End.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

aye the wheel's already in motion, looking for a new apartment, and will take full control of the house till then as to not allow this stuff to escalate again. it's sad that i can't trust anyone now.

[–]lorrylorry -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I keep finding myself on TRP and agreeing with a LOT of ugly truths, here.

I like the concept of holding frame. I think it is actually suitable for women in work situations, or dealing with unruly people.

I'd make a lousy RP woman, but I like the concept of personal responsibility and self improvement in RP. I think it can be suitably adapted for women who want to improve their life station, without over-reliance on men and their money, so they can choose the ideal partner/fuckbuddy for themselves.

"I find myself agreeing with hard truths such as me believing that women should stand up to people and be able to do whatever they want"

No you're a hamstering old woman desperate for male attention and validation and you can't name a single "hard" truth that you agree with that isn't some bullshit you've twisted around into being personally flattering to yourself

If you want to crap out empty garbage about personal responsibility and self improvement go back to feminism they have piles of it there

This place is about the actual reasons why those things are important, which you're incapable of acknowledging

[–]LovesBigWords[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

True. All of it.

And, topic?

Anything to add of use to OP?

[–]lorrylorry 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Anything to add of use to OP?

Stop trying to passive-aggressively dictate what other people are and aren't allowed to say just because you got called on your shit.

[–]LovesBigWords[🍰] -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I agreed with you, fucker.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

that's refreshing! while we're doing full disclosures; i studied english lit and gender studies (donna haraway ftw?). you might say that when it came to women, a few years ago, i was rather beta due to strong female influence in my family, and genraly my dad beating the fuck out of me and my kid brothers every time we looked at our sisters funny.

Never truly, i grew up in a very messed up place and can deal with other men just fine - with women, it's a whole different story, it was slowly getting better after each experience i've had. i must admit, it was soul crushing in the beginning - i am always taken back by how little our species understand itself, despite our relative age.

and yeah, TRP isn't an easy place to be. no one's really safe. people bashed me over here when i first posted about the situation. i must admit, i do have a problem setting boundaries, but then again, the boundaries i'm used to are not western ones, while i do currently live in a western country, so it is complicated.

life sure is never boring eh?

glad to see people like you around, don't let the "venting" posts put you off. thanks for your kind words!

[–]LovesBigWords[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

India?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link

israel, parents are arab - and for a lack of a better definition, i'll make it easy and just say i'm an atheist.

edit: when it comes to women in israel, it doesn't matter if you're jewish or arab, it's a very class/sect oriented environment. rich folk enjoy a liberal way of life, middle-class are obviously in the middle of things, and the poor act the same and suffer from extreme conservative behavior.

[–]LovesBigWords[🍰] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm fighting an overwhelming urge to make a joke about boundary issues and the Gaza Strip.

In related news: I'm an ass.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

yes, yes you are :P

[–]LovesBigWords2 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Sorry! I'm a Unitarian Universalist. To me, it's all good.

[–]chakravanti93 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

That's not different from any other developed country.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

only on the extreme side - israel is developed by definition, but not by practice. poverty, esp. in the arab sector is rather high. our middle class, both jewish and arab, is rather small, or rather, young and on the lower middle class side and not the upper, and still holds to the olden ways. believe me, the proper west is much, much more different.

[–]WorstIsImSmarter -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Start documenting things now.

[–]pleasedontknowme30 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

during deep fights with my SO, in which I have never been violent with her (I have defended myself from smacks, slaps, punches etc...) and I admit I have put holes in the wall before, but she will throw out shit like "don't hurt our children". I look at her in utter amazement, like "where in the flying fuck would you ever get an idea like that", as if I have ever laid a hand on her, let alone our children. I am not sure if that is hamstering, or batshit cray cray.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

yeah, it seems to be some defacto argument. horrible when it gets used! are you still with your SO ?

[–]pleasedontknowme30 -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes though we are currently on a thin line.. But I make sure in text messages etc to include that she said that and my response should she "ever" try to use that in court.

[–]1KyfhoMyoba -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh, dear God in heaven. Please don't ever, EVER do this again!!! NEVER EVER display violence in her presence. NEVER shout. If/when you divorce it will DESTROY you!

It's hamstering. She feels afraid, and blames you, because you're right there. You've demonstrated physical, masculine power that is opposed to something she wants at that moment.

[–]young_TRP 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Get out now. Find some new male roommates. You don't have to put up with this shit and you shouldn't

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

you know.. i just might. :/

[–]aphelion3342 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'd strongly consider it. With her instability, it could get worse (re: legal issues)

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

aye, i gave it some thought later on tonight and i've reached the same conclusion. the point-counter has been reset, but the game is still on in her head.

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