I legally separated from my wife in the mid 90s. My wife was adamantly opposed to a divorce. TBH I just wanted out as I thought she was a psychopath. When I got a lawyer and she did the same we went to court after I initiated proceedings and my soon to be ex started screaming in the courtroom and was physically ejected from the courtroom and her lawyer dropped her.

To be honest I was afraid of her and what she might be capable of but eventually I was able to get away and ensure that she did not know how to contact me. She had 3 teenage children when we got married and there was a 15 year gap in our ages (she was older).

I have not spoken to or seen her in over 20 years but we are still married. I probably have PTSD from my last dealings with her. She lives with her daughter and still retains her married name. She is about 1000 miles away from me in another state.

We have no property in common nor any children in common. I would like to divorce her and marry my girlfriend. My question is can a para-legal handle the divorce or will I need to hire a lawyer to deal with it?