That is something that has been bothering me for a long time. I’m a man whose life is pretty well put together. I have a good job, I’m disciplined at the gym, which has given me a good physique, and I think I’m good-looking.

Even so, I don’t have the confidence or courage to start talking to women. It’s not really shyness, because I love talking to people—I work in sales—and that includes women. But when it comes to flirting or showing romantic interest, I just can’t break the inertia, especially in public places like the gym (which is why I’m writing this post).

So my question is: how do I break through that kind of barrier that’s holding me back? Any tips?