If you have been through it, or going through it, I’m sure you’ve heard or been told by ex in anger that the kids will see who you really are, they will understand what you do.

At any stage there is no point fighting that attitude and statement, it’s already designed to bring out the worst in you, and cause you added anger and resentment. Sit back, be yourself, the person you were before this weird moody monster decided she needed a new life, let the world around you return to calm and normality.

5 years in now, both my kids, both now adults want very little to do with their mother, anytime they are around her, her attitude will ignite arguments and unhappiness. They see how she treats her new partner, they see the things they didn’t understand as kids.

My relationship with my adult children has never been better, they see the calm and peaceful life I lead with my new partner, they understand now exactly what I (and they) went through for 20 years.

Hang tight guys, it all turns around for the best!