25 year relationship went downhill (let’s be honest, about 23 years ago), so I was told to move out so she could get on with her new life, also told to take child she had systematically mentally destroyed for 20 odd years.

We had our own place and I started dating here and there, mainly via dates found and organised by apps. I think mistake number one was looking past many of their faults and thinking I was the basket case who should probably accept whatever or who ever I’m lucky enough to find.

Having in the end found the right person, I look back at all the ones who ghosted me in the end, and realise I actually dodged the bullets. I think it’s important to make sure you don’t settle just because you think you can’t do any better, as hard as it sounds, being alone would certainly be a better choice than a second round of misery.

A brief history in mistakes

1 date number one got up in the middle of the night and pissed on the floor.

2 date number 2 arrived with a overnight bag on first date, cried a lot, hoped into bed and punched me full tilt in the face…

3 date number 3 liked to live stream our sessions to her Dom!

4 date number 4 who’s mother was in jail for murder, like to chat on the phone until she was so drunk she would pass out

5 date number 5 put me through a quiz, while telling me she had adopted a couple of indigenous kids and spent six months living in the back of a cruiser in outback Australia.

6 date number 6 came to date directly from the funeral of her ex who she had just started to see again.

7 date number 7 talked constantly about herself, then complained that I didn’t ask her anything.

There are plenty of others also…the theme is that I was just looking for normality, just to settle down and start again after divorce, while most of the above were just trouble walking. The sad part is, if they had shown me some interest I would have no doubt made a very silly mistake again.

Lesson is, don’t let your divorce scuttle your worth. Wait for the right person, make the wise choice, I believe now if you have any doubts whatsoever early, move on.