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[–]SkorchZang4 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Yet I still have a yearning desire to be back with her.
Been only two months. It's normal to have "a yearning desire", you're not unique in that bro. What to do about it? Resist.
If you get real honest with yourself, it's not even about the particular girl. There's no undying love or special unique connection, we fool ourselves with those abstract ideas, putting them on like clothes for fools & court jesters. The truth is that a man's ego has a hard time taking failure of this kind onboard. As a consequence, you want to prove TO YOURSELF you're not a loser. How? By showing this girl what a winner you can be, and again getting her to worship your cock. Other girls don't hold the same fascination because they never rejected you. As soon as they do, you will feel the same exact yearnings, but seemingly coming from these new girls.
Oneitis must die!
[–]Thesegates1 point 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Fuck thank you for that. Real shit. Wow.
[–]fnordsnord3 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Two months? Time, brother. Just time. You are on the right path. Maintain zero contact. Remove all reminders of her that are around. But two months is not enough time for most men who have invested deeply to be recovered.
My rule of thumb is: expect to mourn about 20% the time a relationship lasted. So if you were together for five years, it will be a year before you can expect to be "right" again.
Thanks for the words brother.
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