How do I stop being seen as a provider?

a6rp · 2021-03-20T16:16:49+00:00

Option 1: Don't drive your expensive car, don't take girls into expensive places etc. while dating. Appear as a guy that gets paid like 1.5-2x medium income so You are seen as doing good but not rich.

Option 2(You will be pictured as an asshole): Trick girls into relationships without investing much and once You are bored dump them for another.

MoreAlfa · 2021-03-20T17:26:18+00:00

How do I stop being seen as a provider?

Shut your fucking mouth and put your wallet up. You like to show off and now are tired of the type of women who are attracted to that.

crew6dawg0 · 2021-03-20T16:41:11+00:00

I think you and some of the other guys commenting are wrong. If these females really thought you were relationship material, they wouldn't say no to having sex before sealing your commitment. They would do the opposite of what they are doing now - they would be trying to fuck you and blow your mind in the bedroom to qualify themselves as LTR material.

I honestly think you're coming off as a beta bux type of guy, and the women are hoping you are stupid enough to commit to them without them giving you sex. Find different women, and if you cant attract any women without flaunting your money, you need to work on yourself more.

money-_-sun · 2021-03-20T17:55:54+00:00

Easy don't be a provider

hollabomb · 2021-03-20T16:20:14+00:00

the problem isn’t that they are shallow, the women you attract are a reflection of you.

soltanparham · 2021-03-20T17:50:36+00:00

The way you write this post , i think you talk the same way and behave the same way to girls bro! talking about how much you make or how rich you are is so lame and of course instead of admiring you , girls start to think how they can make you pay more for them!
and i've read this term 100 times , all the redpill masters , pickup artists and everyone who's good with girls says Don't bring girls to expensive places when they have given you nothing! idk why you guys think you can impress girls by spending too much money on them

2021-03-20T16:27:00+00:00

Pretty easy. Explore new places, meet new people and don't show off with your money and cars.

Make sure the girl you met have no idea you're loaded.

Also if you can't get sex after few dates, you ain't it. They've all done it, just with the guys they want. Make urself be the guy they want.

I'm originally from Eastern Europe too and I didn't need no money to get laid. Had I been loaded too, I'd probably have triple count of girls fucked in there.

You're clearly lacking a lot.

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Sora26 · 2021-03-20T17:11:21+00:00

I don’t know how you look, but my prediction would be that you’re not high enough in the looks/physical department to demand anything more from these women (and they know it.) They’re not going to be your whore, for nothing in return. Only Chads get that.

They know that their sexuality has value, and they’ll always try to get something for it. The more value they get for it, the better.

Chances are, they aren’t sleeping with you to fulfill sexual satisfaction. They’re sleeping with you to secure their future, and their children’s future.

That’s the trade. Security for sexuality. Since the beginning of man.

“I just want it to be my turn and not have a commitment”

I feel it. But if you don’t want to lower your standards and date a less attractive women, that’s not how its going to work. Girls above your SMV don’t look at you as a “stud” they want to sleep with all of a sudden just because you’re making $$. That’s what you’re not getting.

If they wouldn’t sleep with you without the $$, you’re a provider for them and there is no changing that imo

I wouldn’t take that as negative or positive. It’s been the relationship between man and woman.. for a very very long time.

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2021-03-20T18:39:39+00:00

You're probably being too nice not forward, not sexual enough. Be confident and go for the kiss. If she rebuffs you, ask. If she says she doesn't see you sexually, end the date there and pay only your side of the tab.

ay-fuh-q · 2021-03-20T20:42:14+00:00

They condition sex on being into a relationship.

Women do this to guys they're not fully attracted to or at all. Since you have the ability to put them in a high class scenario, they'll make you work for sex, as if they're some prize.

Thus, you're either not where you need to be, looks-wise, or you come across as a giant pussy. Figure it out. Fix it.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2021-03-20T21:55:41+00:00

Ok then stop showing off. Drive a Toyota and stop advertising your wealth. Honestly as long as you’re getting laid why complain?

2021-03-20T23:15:15+00:00

You need to display more alpha traits.

If your SMV is entirely comprised of wealth then girls will see you only as a credit card.

Vista1337 · 2021-03-21T03:11:09+00:00

It's easy, don't provide lol

Title	How do I stop being seen as a provider?
Author	wavmp3
Upvotes	17
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Date	March 20, 2021 4:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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