Where do i start(or how)

cunningcaring · 2021-03-23T19:17:20+00:00

If it’s to be, it’s up to thee.

itiswr1tten · 2021-03-23T19:47:16+00:00

I would recommend starting here

You're not going to make it alone

iaurtgl · 2021-03-23T21:07:38+00:00

You need to socialise more. It took me a long time to get anywhere, even now I’m not close to where I want to be. But I’ve started having girls approach me, come to me etc. which was my first milestone I wanted to hit.

I felt what you felt, I came to a conscious decision to trust the process and that’s what I did every day. Lifted, chatted, read and trusted the process. Also you could probably do with a better job

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Secret_Twitch · 2021-03-23T19:26:57+00:00

I don't think it's depression

Rethink that. Everything you described are symptoms of it. Go talk to somebody or stop whining.

kdsflyfree · 2021-03-23T21:17:22+00:00

Your problem is that you are totally absorbed in yourself. Men must have goals outside themself to feel like they have purpose.

Get out of yourself and volunteer for something that helps other people, like food distribution or Big Brothers. After a series of these you will find what you like and what you don’t, and you will have bigger ideas of what to do with yourself.

Musicgoon · 2021-03-23T22:44:00+00:00

So let's start with some true honesty. That's the best place to start because it gives you a glimpse into motivation. You sound like you aren't self motivated or even externally motivated. Go back into these forums and poke around for a while.

There's a lot of guys that won't get started. They will hamster for anyone and they will DEER. The honest to God truth is that they love feeling sorry for themselves. There is a love and comfort of being the victim.

The sidebar won't tell you that in order to be successful, you'll need to make sacrifices. You're going to sacrifice your need to be comfortable, you're going to sacrifice your time and you're going to sacrifice instant gratification.

So ask yourself if you're willing to let that go. If you need to whine about it here, you aren't ready for a change. You're addicted to complaining. It's like carrying around a giant turd that brings you comfort instead of aquiring something of value.

If you're ready to move past this honestly, the next step is to lift. Make it a habit. Set aside time each day to be social. Make small steps forward. No matter how tiny. Eventually you'll be very good with women, you'll be using the tools in the sidebar and your mission will come to you. You don't have to start with a mission just start with small goals.

Title	Where do i start(or how)
Author	suntroman2
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Date	March 23, 2021 7:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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