Girlfriend Working out

itsxeno · 2016-02-04T22:35:03+00:00

Changing people is futile. This is an uphill battle.

Be honest, what's your physical condition like? Are you in incredibly good shape? Generally speaking, people are attracted to people with similar body types.

If you're in good shape, and she's excessively overweight, that screams that you have some form of insecurity because you cannot do better than her. In other words you're settling.

Also, if you're that "busy" how are you replying to texts - she has a valid point. Be consistent with your words and actions.

At this point I'd just reply with K and let her hamster spin. You need to do some damage control .

temporarytime6789 · 2016-02-04T22:29:55+00:00

audacity. something about a woman using that word makes me cringe.

Thizzlebot · 2016-02-04T23:06:46+00:00

You shouldn't be in a LTR with a woman that doesn't exercise from the get go.

silver_nuke13 · 2016-02-05T10:57:05+00:00

Wow bro what's that part with the shaming and stuff? Use powertalk not TRP lingo. Jesus, you kids really want to get in trouble?

oglowkey · 2016-02-04T22:35:01+00:00

You can't force a woman to do anything she has to want to workout. You have to stop talking to her about it. Never bring it up again but if you notice her gaining weight the best thing to do is to not lie when she asks you "do you think I'm gaining weight?"

Also I can tell by that last message that her way of manipulation is through shaming which is something you should have checked her on a long time ago. what do you typically say when she gets like that?

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-02-04T23:21:17+00:00

You can't change people. If the difference in lifestyle between you two is that different, then you need to find a better girlfriend. If one person of the pairbond is fat and the other is fit, then you will NEVER be on equal ground, and the fat one will always be sad.

Tiway22 · 2016-02-04T23:37:20+00:00

Start inviting her to the gym, be her "personal" trainer. It's a great date and there are plenty of ways to get sexual with it.

CDBaller · 2016-02-04T23:43:26+00:00

If she's an LTR, the best way to solve this is with DREAD. If she doesn't change her tune upon seeing you have better options, walk.

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-02-04T23:52:06+00:00

She's not special. If she wants you, she will follow your lead without hesitation. There is a girl that will goto the gym with you. And love you for leading her there. Think on it.

ell000 · 2016-02-05T00:34:56+00:00

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2016-02-05T19:26:03+00:00

You already gave her your commitment. What in the world do you expect her to work out for?

You can't change people. Only commit to a girl if you accept her how she is. If she becomes less than she was after you commit to her, dump her.

cheeky--kunt · 2016-02-06T10:37:12+00:00

instead of still asking for you two to see each other, she knows that as a fact that it is not possible in near future, and uses it as anchor to create drama.

also it seems that she thinks her SMV is even to yours. That's why dread game is not working

Title	Girlfriend Working out
Author	StrangeStart
Upvotes	3
Comments	26
Date	February 4, 2016 10:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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