Help with cutting alcohol

NonMercurial · 2016-03-07T14:54:17+00:00

Honestly as many others have pointed out there's no trick or shortcut to changing an aspect of your life. It's hard to give different advice to "Just Do it" in these situations due to the fact that that is literally the best advice for many things like this out there. Procrastinating, approach anxiety, less binge eating, these are all examples of this.

Since you think drinks help you socialize and club better I'd start by approaching and socializing with women outside of clubs much more aggressively. Invite women over to your house and get just one bottle of wine. Drink and dance so you can also see that dancing does not require huge amounts of alcohol to enjoy. Mainly though, approach, approach and approach some more every day wherever you are.

Buying a coffee? Ask the Barista for her number.

Walking down the street and see girl in bench? Tell her to make some room for you.

Doing laundry? Tell the old Chinese lady that you'd clean her rug any day.

If you also find this hard start approaching ugly chicks first then move up. Eventually you should start feeling that IDGAF attittude concerning approaching and rejection.

Carpiem · 2016-03-07T14:40:52+00:00

I'm in the same boat.

I'm thinking in packing caffeine and phenibut and cut off alcohol completelly. This way I can save money, don't consume useless calories and get a energy kick combined with social relaxation. Most important I won't black out.

On a side note what kind of shitty advice is "buy a nice car"? Is this what ASKTRP is becoming?! - Alpha wannabes giving useless advice? Makes it hard to take this sub seriously. Anyway would love hearing some actual advice from serious members on this subject.

94redstealth · 2016-03-07T15:00:02+00:00

when you go out to drink, only take $10 cash and leave the rest of your cash/cards at home. Thats enough to buy at least 1 drink to get you started. You may get people buying you some drinks, but you wont be binge drinking every time. After a while you will get used to the limited amount of alcohol and probably develop better control

ChadsBrother · 2016-03-08T18:29:32+00:00

I've had this same problem for a long time. One book that has useful information is "The Power of Habit" the TL/DR of this book is that habits form from a Cue->Routine->Reward structure. The easiest way to modify a habit is to keep the Cue and Reward the same and change the Routine. For me the Cue is a small amount of social anxiety, the routine is drinking, and the reward is a reduction of anxiety, along with a reduction in game and money. One easy way to change the routine is to have a cup of water in your hand. If you drink water and approach, your anxiety will reduce naturally after you realize approaching isn't even a fraction as difficult as your brain wants you to believe.

Another important point is that in order to change a habit, you have to believe that it is possible to change. Keep telling yourself that although this is obviously difficult, you have the power to change it.

Finally, willpower is like a muscle. The next time you go to a bar and everyone is drinking it will be very difficult. Each time you put in the effort to not drink, that mental pathway will be strengthened.

Don't ever get discouraged if you slip up after one week or one month. Know that this is an engrained habit that will take a while to overcome.

ChadsBrother · 2016-03-08T19:24:01+00:00

Another good idea is to find a solid reason not to drink. For me it is Jiu Jitsu. It doesn't matter how far away the next tournament is, I can always tell people that I can't drink because I am training for a tournament and need to make weight. It is a legitimate reason and displays higher value.

alpha_n3rd · 2016-03-07T19:14:57+00:00

hey hey hey smoke weed everyday

seriously it's healthier

WhyNotJustEnjoyLife · 2016-03-07T13:26:04+00:00

Just change your booze budget to savings or something else. Problem Solved.

Title	Help with cutting alcohol
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Date	March 7, 2016 12:48 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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