If my girlfriend is cutting into my productivity...

Chinny4daWinny · 2016-03-11T06:10:18+00:00

I can't believe you're complaining about her spending a long time cooking meals for you.

Next her and give me her phone number.

Chinny4daWinny · 2016-03-11T06:29:25+00:00

You need to understand the following. You will always accomplish more single than in a any relationship. It doesn't matter if it's chasing ONS, plating, STRs, LTR, Co-Habitation or outright marriage. Sex and relationships are effectively a hobby. You choose to do it and it take time to maintain and accomplish to a degree which is desirable.

She took an hour to cook? What stopped you from napping while she was cooking?

You don't need to schedule her. The captain of the ship doesn't tell the first mate when he can shit.

"You never spend time with me" is a comfort test/shit test depending on context.

First and foremost you need to put your priorities first.

Number 1 is your future which in this case is your education. You should under no circumstances sacrifice your time and investment today if it prevent you from being successful tomorrow.

Not studying to spend time with your girlfriend or even to go lift is like eating your seed crop in the winter. Ultimately it doesn't matter how high your short term desires are you should never sacrifice your long term goals to achieve them.

Number 2 should be your health. This means not just taking care of yourself when your sick but also being in physical shape and eating properly. Your body is the second best investment you will ever make only behind your mind. If you body is wreck and your mind if sound you can still survive in a wheelchair. However if your mind is fucked the best body in the world is merely a useless trophy. This means sleeping properly, exercising, eating properly but not sacrificing your education for it.

Number 3 is your social standing. Your social standing can include your GF but it should never be exclusively your GF. The phrase "never stop approaching" is not a pick up phrase it's a life lesson. You need to demonstrate you are in demand.

This doesn't mean going out and banging sluts while your in a committed STR/LTR. It means demonstrating your SMV by being seen and respected. This can be done through physical contest or mental debate with males. This can also be done through building attraction with rival females in a passive or semi-passive manner.

Politely flirting with a waitress is equally as effective as having a debate with an intelligent equal in the presence of your LTR. I win just as many points with my LTR after going to a party and discussing a variety of topics with experts in fields as I do competing in strongman contests. Exercising your physical, mental or social prowess are all equally attractive to women.

You just need to show that you can content with other males on the same footing without looking stupid. You don't need to win the debate or contest but you should always put your opponent on the back foot for at least a small period of time.

Number 4 is your social circle. Much like demonstrating your prowess within the realm of your relationship you should always expand and maintain a healthy diverse group of friends and acquaintances. You should not limit yourself to your discipline in fact actively try to avoid it. There is nothing worse that everyone talking shop while the odd person out has nothing to contribute. Your social circle needs to contain professionals, entertainers and unique individual to maximize success.

Your relationship is not a number. If you can maintain 1 through 4 in the order posted you will not have to work at your relationship specifically. Always prioritize your mind then your body then your social skills and finally your social circle.

If you partner can't follow this line than you need to consider who is really in the captains chair and if it's not you don't expect this relationship to be successful in the long run.

AFPJ · 2016-03-11T06:29:33+00:00

Final verdict: chicks suck at time management, get used to it, account for it so that it doesn't impact you. It's a good life lesson since your schedule should be such that the order of things isn't important. The day should be productive regardless of delays/reschedules - just do something else in the meantime. Not to sound like an intro to business 101 fortune cookie, but adaptability is key. Having too much structure in your life can be bad - gotta get just enough of it.

Title	If my girlfriend is cutting into my productivity...
Author	Chinny4daWinny
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	March 11, 2016 4:28 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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