How do I get over my oneitis?

fnordsnord · 2016-04-07T00:56:14+00:00

You must go zero contact. There is no other way forward. She's is going to continue to lead you around by your dick until you quit letting her do it.

Once you've been put in the friendzone, there is NO WAY OUT. All you are doing is continuing to put your dick on the table and inviting her to smack it with a ruler. Stop it.

So go zero contact. Unfriend and block her on social media. Delete her contact info on your phone. Move all (and I mean ALL) of her pictures to a jump drive. Take all hardcopy pictures, souvenirs, and momentoes plus the jump drive into a box and put them in your mama's basement or attic. Do not call her. Stop going to places where you know she is likely to be so that you "just happen" to run into her.

NOTHING else is going to work. One alternative: continue to follow her around like a pathetic puppy until SHE goes zero contact. Then you can fail to land her AND lose your dignity.

But you do NOT get the girl in ANY version of this.

Coolbeans024ptf · 2016-04-07T01:41:27+00:00

Self esteem my man, yours is low so fix it. That's why they invented monk mode. Educate yourself and then work on it. Your feelings are accurate because she would be a catch from your low smv position. Your abundance mentality feelings will also be accurate when you raise your smv to actually have abundance and not just pretend you are that way.

Fix yourself and the rest will fall into place on its own.

SpinPlates · 2016-04-07T05:22:22+00:00

Fuck 3 other girls.

If that doesn't work. Fuck 3 more. Keep fucking until you find a new Oneitis

ConstrictedAnus · 2016-04-07T07:15:03+00:00

Hey man, I was totally in your shoes before. Zero contact is the only way to go.

She will be like "Are you avoiding me?" and then turn into a nasty person, but it's better to lose her than to lose yourself from low self esteem.

Here's what I did:

Begin with no contact; IF you need to talk to her, say that you've gotten busy with stuff. Don't give her details. She will pester you so don't give in.
Find a hobby; emerse yourself in life. For me, it was fishing. Noting like getting out of the house and hooking up a large fish just like my ancestors did.
Find guy mates; if you find the right guys, they will always have your back. My mates are automatically my wingmen and I am theres. You don't have to always have female friends. You need people who will have your back.
Don't play with food. If you intent to sex up someone, don't dick around, go in.
Fuck off social media. Are you spending your time on Facebook and looking at other people's happiness more than yours? Fuck it off. Same goes for Snapchat, Instagram, etc. Don't worry, you'll get it back in due time.

I've done all that, now I'm happy where I am. Lost weight, new car, job promotion, new house and about to settle down in the near future.

Note this: If you haven't made a move, the longer you wait, the harder it's going to be on you.

Title	How do I get over my oneitis?
Author	rumham730
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	April 7, 2016 12:15 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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