Background: 27 year old male who was kicking ass in life a couple years back. I implemented many things I learned from reading TheRedPill sidebar material, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and Models. I got in good shape, got into a doctorate of physical therapy program (always a personal dream of mine from many years back), gained confidence.. all of which led me to finding the girl whom I'm currently in a relationship with now. The only thing in life that wasn't going well was my sex life. I long since suspected the antidepressants and ADHD medications I was on were contributing to my lower performance in the sack, so I stopped the antidepressants a little over a year ago (after being on them for 9 years) and stopped my ADHD medications about 2 months ago (after being on it for 5 years).

Problem:Well.. since then my overall energy, passion, drive, and confidence all took a nosedive. I even found out I had low testosterone! With all this occurring, I found myself in a depressed state. Being in this depressed state, I feel like I've lost my frame in the relationship. She doesn't treat me with the same amount of respect as she used to and will accuse me of being controlling when I try to take the lead in decision making. I feel like I'm starting to recover from all this shit I've been dealing with (let's call it protracted withdrawal from medications), but also feel like my reputation in the relationship has been badly damaged by all this. I like having this girl around. She's always down for sex, maintains a great looking body, hasn't shown any signs or symptoms of being a crazy bitch, etc.

Question: Is it possible for me to regain frame in my relationship after losing it? I don't feel like I'm 100% recovered yet, but I'm recovered enough to reassume the decision-maker in my relationship. If so, how do I go about doing it without seeming "controlling"?