I filed in January, then again in May.

My ex is demanding the judge give her sole legal and physical custody. I can't do much about the physical custody since I don't live in the same state and really I think it's better for the kids to just stay with her mostly, but what do I give up if I fight for legal custody?

I told her I'm prepared to negotiate if she wants legal custody, but not what exactly-- I was thinking maybe to ask for more visitation days, like all the summer, or most of it, plus a few holidays and weekends, for her to drop the "danger to me and the kids" act (for having one thought after being pushed to the edge with knowledge of my mental health issues, which normally are turned inward), full alimony (still married, working on 10 years, I was the stay at home parent while working/not working and going to college, gave up career options for her), or taking on more of the debt.

Thoughts?