Need some perspective on internal mood vs. external presentation when approaching women.

I’ve always assumed guys who do well are either high-energy or smooth/reserved, but fundamentally feeling good on the inside. I’ve felt disconnected from people since I was a kid—like everyone else is living in a different a frequency I can't tune into.

Before anyone suggests it: I’ve already exhausted the medical/therapy route (tried ketamine, done deep research, prescribers have nothing for this). I’m also not looking for "just go make male friends first" advice—I’m 23, my interests are super niche, and building a social circle feels like a low ROI time sink right now. Please skip those.

My actual questions:

  1. How are you actually supposed to feel inside day-to-day vs. when approaching? Does having a positive impact your performance?
  2. Can you fake much of it sustainably so it's like everyone is close to neutral but the "good energy and vibes" are coming from outward appearance that was trained?
  3. How positive or high-energy do you actually need to project on the outside?
  4. My dominant state is neutral or slightly below, though I occasionally go higher. Is a neutral baseline enough, or do you need genuine positive energy to get results?

There is something I'm more certain of. I do know that serial killers like Ted Bundy made people think they're good people and have good vibes, so I want to dispel the idea that women (or people in general) can "smell" insecurity, faking, or other stuff. I'm not sure, but it's something that gets brought up a lot I feel is very likely false.